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The Story of You: Writing as a Tool for Self-Discovery

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my journey in research writing and self discovery

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” —Maya Angelou

Why do we write? To tell stories, to organize our world, to communicate with loved ones, to capture what we might otherwise forget. But writing can also be a direct line to our deepest self, a path to understanding who and why we are. It can reveal what we didn’t know we knew, and open doors to a wider awareness of all that lies within and around us. It can heal our past and enrich our present, comfort and inspire us. In the words of Anne Frank, “I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn.”

Writing personal narrative “is a fantastic way to get clarity, to be present in your life and also be a witness in your life,” says Nancy Slonim Aronie , author of Writing from the Heart. She coaches people to dive right in, without pausing to overthink it. “You just start writing and you stop that overactive brain thing,” she says.

One way to get started is by filling in the blanks: Nancy suggests beginning with an incomplete sentence such as “What I should have known…” or “The hardest thing…” or “What I didn’t tell you then…” and seeing what comes next. “Everybody has an unresolved conversation, what we would have loved to say 20 years or two weeks ago,” she says. “When you get it down on the page, you get it out of your body.”

“Writers are the exorcists of their own demons.” —Mario Vargas Llosa

Part of what makes writing a powerful tool for self-discovery is its ability to focus the mind: The act of shaping words functions like a mantra or counting the breath—a point of awareness around which to structure a meditative experience. “The writing process demands a certain quietness that the rest of the day often doesn’t allow for,” says Eric Maisel , founder of both creative coaching and natural psychology, which focuses on the nature of meaning.

“We typically don’t get quiet enough to get our own answers, except when we get into the trance of writing.”

Eric’s Deep Writing process, which can be applied to any format, from journaling to novels, is based on building a safe environment in which the creative juices can flow freely. “The main idea is that there’s no critiquing or sharing—you don’t have to worry about writing something and having it ripped apart as soon as you share it,” Eric says.

He also teaches what he calls “focused journal writing,” in which you learn more about your writing process—and your life priorities—through answering a specific set of questions. “It’s often not until we get it down on paper that we identify those experiences that we think of as meaningful,” Eric says. “Often those experiences coalesce into categories, like creativity, being of service, activism, or relationships.”

“I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want and what I fear.” —Joan Didion

Madelyn Kent’s Sense Writing uses a unique combination of writing and Feldenkrais-inspired movement to help people investigate their inner experience. “Once we start to discover the connection between movement, thought, and emotions, we find new parts of the story that we didn’t know were there—like when your eyes get used to the dark,” she says. “The stories we thought started and ended at a certain place begin to shift and change.” Madelyn has worked with trauma survivors and refugees to help them let go of old narratives that have defined them and move into new, healthier ones.

“We construct our reality around stories,” Eric says—but we also get to change those stories. “We get to decide who we want to be, what values we want to stand behind.”

In her book Still Writing, Dani Shapiro speaks eloquently about the power of writing to redefine experience and uncover meaning: “Writing has been my window—flung wide open to this magnificent, chaotic existence—my way of interpreting everything within my grasp. Writing has extended that grasp by pushing me beyond comfort, beyond safety, past my self-perceived limits. … It has allowed me not only to withstand the losses in my life but to alter those losses—to chip away at my own bewilderment until I find the pattern in it.”

How do you get started on this journey? Word by word. Nancy recommends making writing a regular practice: Start with just 10 minutes a day, and see if it becomes a habit. In the words of yet one more master of the craft, Natalie Goldberg, “Write what disturbs you, what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak about. Be willing to be split open.”

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How to Begin Your Self-Discovery Journey: 16 Best Questions

As part of this process, we must not only search to determine what constitutes our true selves, but let go of objects of identification we’ve long mistaken for ourselves, requiring a balance of introspection and new experiences.

So let’s set sail.

In this article, we’ll give you a range of powerful questions to help you along your journey of self-discovery and point you toward further reading and resources.

Before you continue, you might like to download our three Meaning and Valued Living Exercises for free . These creative, science-based exercises will help you learn more about your values, motivations, and goals and will give you the tools to inspire a sense of meaning in the lives of your clients, students, or employees.

This Article Contains:

What is self-discovery according to psychology, fostering self-discovery skills: 10 examples & tips, why is the process important, a look at self-discovery coaching, 3 exercises, games, and activities for adults, best worksheets and journal prompts, 16 questions to ask yourself or your clients, helpful books & apps for your journey, tools from positivepsychology.com, a take-home message.

Drawing often from the field of philosophy , psychologists point to the illumination of our daimon (or ‘true self’) as the ultimate goal of self-discovery.

Formally defined, this true self is

“the central inner force common to all human beings and yet unique to each, which is the deep source of growth… [that is] free, healthy development in accordance with the potentials of one’s generic and individual nature.”

Horney, 1950, p. 17

As part of the process of searching for our true selves, we are ultimately working to identify three things (Waterman, 2011):

Personal potentials
Our purposes for living
Opportunities to act upon those potentials and purposes in living

The search for our true selves, therefore:

“refers to those processes, both intuitive and reasoned, by which those [personal, purpose-related] potentials are discovered and come to attain the status of personally concordant goals that are to be actualized.”

Waterman, 2011, p. 360

According to this view, a person’s true self essentially lies beneath the surface, and our task is to find, recognize, or understand that which already exists. Once you have, you can then make choices about your life and identity that are more consistent with this self-knowledge (Waterman, 2011).

Seek a supportive atmosphere

The more time we spend in the presence of supportive family, friends, lovers, and communities , the sooner we will be likely to discover our true nature. This is because warm and encouraging atmospheres facilitate feelings of inner security while providing the freedom to have our own feelings and thoughts (Horney, 1950).

To this end, here are some ideas to consider:

Seek quiet spaces and time out to facilitate reflection or journaling .
Join a social group whose interests and passions align with your own, such as a painting, writing, or poetry group.
Find a coach or therapist for a safe space to pursue self-discovery.
Set boundaries with people who discourage your individuality, negatively affect your emotions, or put you down.
Seek the company of people who inspire you, make you feel positive, and challenge your perception of yourself.

Identify your drifts

Pay close attention to the things you naturally love doing, or drifts, particularly those that are personally expressive . By paying attention to the subconscious pull of these activities, you can allow them to guide you toward your true self, stemming from your genetic makeup, upbringing, and experiences (Pagedar, 2021).

Our drifts tend to emerge when the mind is still, so try selecting a quiet day to do some meditation or practice some relaxation techniques.
Try to notice activities that cause you to slip into the state of flow , as these often point us toward our drifts.
Consider which activities you possess a natural aptitude or talent for, perhaps using a strengths-finding exercise .
Think about which activities you find intrinsically motivating . These are the activities you would undertake in the absence of external rewards, such as money or the approval of others.
Notice times when you feel a strong sense of personal responsibility to do something or have a unique vision about how something should be carried out.

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To understand why self-discovery is so important, we must consider the consequences of failing to identify our true selves.

According to Horney (1950), when a person experiences a large discrepancy between their lived and real selves, they are likely to experience a sense of alienation from themselves. This remains true even if the person is successful in their activities and receives external rewards.

Such a person may often notice themselves wondering, “ Why am I doing this when it’s not who I really am? ” The consequence is a feeling of guilt or dissatisfaction if we fail to live up to an idealized version of ourselves that we cannot be.

Besides this negative emotional toll, the problem with pursuing such an ideal is that it will be rooted in externally derived standards of worth.

To illustrate, here are some examples:

A student feels pressure from their parents to pursue a prestigious career in law, even though this line of work does not inspire them.
A famous musician has mistaken their true self with their like of the status, prestige, and social validation they receive while performing.
A woman’s family talks her into finding a husband and settling down when she’d rather travel the world with her friends.
A son feels obligated to take over the family business when he’d prefer to start his own venture.

When we cannot live in alignment with our true selves, we must spend energy attempting to deny and distort our experiences to make sense of a pervasive lack of happiness and personal fulfillment. This ongoing effort can go so far as to produce psychological states and conditions such as depression (Waterman et al., 2010).

This is why self-discovery is so important.

Our goal in life should not be to pursue imagined or externally derived ideals, but rather to develop a more realistic understanding of our strengths and limitations. By doing so, we can avoid negative psychological states and self-actualize , feel contentment, and make better contributions to the world.

A growing trend in coaching, self-discovery coaching is about looking beyond specific goal pursuits (e.g., “I want to improve my self-esteem ”) to discover how we can live authentically and be truly happy .

Self-discovery coaching has many components, including (Elevate Life Project, n.d.):

Exploring your values to live in congruence with what’s most important to you
Discovering grounded confidence, centeredness, and strength
Identifying your abilities for making easier decisions

The role of a self-discovery coach in this process is to act as co-pilot on a client’s journey toward authentic fulfillment by challenging them, imbuing them with courage, and showing compassion.

If you or your clients are looking to set off on a self-discovery journey, consider the following fun and insightful activities to get you started.

This exercise is a useful starting point for viewing yourself clearly in terms of values, beliefs, and more. The exercise guides users through a two-step process of considering themselves from the perspective of others, followed by a consideration of their self-perceptions at different times in their life.

Spontaneous collage

Collage is a fun and cathartic method of self-discovery that helps people bypass the socially protective aspects of the mind and reveal aspects of their authentic self. Best of all, no previous art experience is required.

For a great resource, check out Shelley Klammer’s 12-week online course and check out the #collageforselfdiscovery hashtag on Instagram to get inspired by others’ collages.

Kokology: The Game of Self-Discovery

Created by famous Japanese psychologists Tadahiko Nagao and Isamu Saito, kokology , the study of kokoro (“mind” or “spirit” in Japanese), is a fun and sometimes hilarious game for learning about yourself.

The game invites players to answer questions about seemingly innocent topics, such as the color of an imaginary bird that has flown in their window, to reveal profound insights in their answers.

Journaling and worksheets can both be hugely helpful for this purpose.

To help, look at some of the following free resources from our site:

Self-Awareness Worksheet for Adults This worksheet poses a series of 15 questions to help you discover more about your true self. Specifically, the questions tap into topics such as your talents/strengths, values, and barriers to living more authentically.
What Are My Qualities and Traits? This worksheet invites you to identify your top five and weakest two qualities from a list of 100 strengths. It then invites you to consider how you might shape, develop, and use your toolkit of identified strengths to better your life.
Reflecting on Three Things This worksheet invites you to explore what defines who you are. These reflections can include statements, objects, roles in life, people you admire, and ambitions.

If you’re more into journaling, see if any of the following prompts might inspire some of your upcoming entries (Hollis, 2019):

What things have you been doing lately that may be positively or negatively affecting your mental health ?
What ways can you touch or move your body that makes you feel good?
If you could spend the day doing anything, what would you do?
How do you show love to other people?
What are some things about you that you wish other people knew?

How to discover your authentic self – at any age – Bevy Smith

For more ways to get started on your journey of self-inquiry, consider the following questions, drawn from leading books designed to guide you toward self-discovery (see Helpful Books & Apps for Your Journey ):

Mindful self-discovery questions

What’s going on inside your body at the moment (e.g., sensations, flows of energy)?
Is there joy, ease, and lightness in what you are doing at the present moment?
Do you really have any problems right now in this present moment ?
Is there anything you can do to change, improve, or remove yourself from a present dissatisfactory situation? If not, how can you move toward accepting your present circumstances?

Exploring values

What are your top five personal and professional values?
How are you living outside your values?
In what areas do you feel a personal sense of responsibility to better the world?
How are you living outside of your integrity?

Questions about fear and courage

What do you fear the most?
What fears have actually come true in your life?
What would happen if you treated the actions you fear as an experiment?
For which pending decision could you use 10% more courage?

Considering worthwhile experiences

What has made your childhood worthwhile?
What lessons did you learn last week?
What makes life worthwhile for you?
What trip have you always wanted to take, and how could you make this trip happen?

1. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment – Eckhart Tolle

A critical first step toward greater self-insight involves ceasing to confuse your true self with the endless stream of thoughts flowing through your mind.

The bestselling book The Power of Now takes readers on a journey to find their deepest self through the lens of mindfulness and spirituality.

The book guides the reader through steps to help recognize and free themselves from ego in the form of defense mechanisms, automatic negative habits, and over-identification with thought. From here, readers can then discover their true nature and lasting contentment, rooted in the present moment.

Find the book on Amazon .

2. Self-Discovery Questions: 155 Breakthrough Questions to Accelerate Massive Action – Barrie Davenport

Not all of us have the resources to employ a self-discovery coach, making it all the more important to know what questions to ask on your self-discovery journey.

Barrie Davenport’s book of 155 powerful questions is a perfect companion for self-reflection and journaling, helping readers become less reactive and take charge of their lives and destiny.

Once you become acquainted with your answers, you can strengthen self-awareness , break out of automatic patterns, and feel empowered to make positive new life changes.

3. The 365 Self-Discovery Journal: One Year of Reflection & Development – Created by 21 Exercises

Journaling remains one of the best ways to pursue self-discovery and greater self-insight (Charles, 2010).

This book provides journal lovers with a year’s worth of challenging and original questions to guide self-discovery.

By combining each prompt with thought-provoking poems and quotes, this book is an excellent tool to help steadily expand the reader’s comfort zone and curiosity across domains ranging from career and finances to love and relationships.

4. The Quenza app

Quenza was designed by our very own team as a one-stop resource for coaches and psychologists wishing to remotely support their clients’ self-inquiry between scheduled sessions.

The app links with an online dashboard and growing library of science-backed activities you can customize and send directly to your clients’ smart devices, including audio meditations, guided visualizations, and many thought-provoking reflections.

Try the app, platform, and entire library of pre-built activities for 30 days for just $1.

5. The Waking Up app

While Western takes on meditation tend to emphasize health and stress reduction, there is much more we can discover about ourselves through this powerful practice.

Waking Up , developed by philosopher and neuroscientist Sam Harris, features a rich array of audio-based meditations, exercises, and conversations with leading experts and teachers to help you make profound discoveries about the nature of your own mind.

This app is a top-rated resource for those seeking to dismantle illusions of the self and rediscover their true nature and purpose.

6. The Reflectly app

With the growing recognition of journaling as a tool for self-insight, new technologies are emerging to support this powerful practice.

Reflectly is a modern journaling app for self-care and greater happiness. Drawing on evidence-based approaches from positive psychology, mindfulness, and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, this app serves as an AI companion to help you manage negative thoughts and find greater happiness.

Among its personalized functions, the app includes daily quotes, a mood tracker , and personalized insights via its reporting features.

Throughout this post, we’ve discussed the importance of clarifying values to better understand what brings meaning throughout one’s journey of self-discovery. To this end, we invite you to check out our free Meaning & Valued Living Exercises Pack .

This pack features three of our top tools from the Positive Psychology Toolkit©, all of which center on the theme of values-based living:

The Top 5 Values This exercise draws on key principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help clients begin brainstorming their values. Following this, clients will then prioritize these values in a list to identify those most central to who they are.
Self-Eulogy This exercise invites clients to consider how they’d like to be remembered at their funeral as a means to identify and clarify values. Based on this, they can then consider how well they are living in alignment with these values.
The Scoreboard Metaphor This exercise helps clients recognize how to enact their values through goal-setting. In particular, it draws on the metaphor of a basketball game to illustrate how living into one’s values is an ongoing process and that the paths by which we pursue our goals are opportunities to enact our values in daily life.

You can access all three exercises for free by downloading our Meaning & Valued Living Exercises Pack .

If you’re looking for more science-based ways to help others discover meaning, this collection contains 17 validated meaning tools for practitioners. Use them to help others choose directions for their lives in alignment with what is truly important to them.

17 Tools To Encourage Meaningful, Value-Aligned Living

This 17 Meaning & Valued Living Exercises [PDF] pack contains our best exercises for helping others discover their purpose and live more fulfilling, value-aligned lives.

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Self-discovery is an ongoing process of stripping away that which is unimportant, reviewing our core values, and seeking to live in greater alignment with these inner truths.

Importantly, anyone can take steps toward greater self-knowledge . All that’s required is an attitude of curiosity and regular time out for meditation, reflection, or self-questioning.

We hope this article has left you feeling equipped for your journey of self-discovery, and if you decide to try out any of the tools or exercises we’ve explored, be sure to let us know in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you.

We hope you enjoyed reading this article. Don’t forget to download our three Meaning and Valued Living Exercises for free .

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Finding Yourself: The Definitive Guide for Your Journey of Self Discovery

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Do you sometimes feel like something is missing in your life and that you are searching for the answer? That despite your best efforts, you just can’t seem to find yourself or the path that’s right for you?

Have you ever felt that there’s more to you than meets the eye? That there’s more lying within the depths of your being, waiting to be discovered?

Well, gorgeous, if you’re nodding your head in agreement to any of these questions that means it’s time to embark on a journey of self discovery.

And while a journey to self discovery can be a little intimidating to start (we’re going to dive deep ), I don’t wan’t you to worry; I’m here to guide you through it.

Consider this post as your trusty compass, your handy guidebook packed with clear, actionable steps, and your personal cheering squad all wrapped into one.

This journey is sooo worth it.

Let’s get started!

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So, what’s this journey all about?

It’s about embarking on a treasure hunt within your own heart and mind.

It’s recognizing that you’re not just a passenger in your life; you’re the driver .

You get to choose the route, set the pace, and decide which turns to take.

It’s a path of uncovering your hidden strengths, passions, and dreams.

It’s understanding your quirks, facing your fears, and growing into the best version of yourself possible .

You may have heard the old saying “Know thyself” – this is exactly what embarking on a journey of self-discovery is all about.

The truth is, if you don’t invest in getting to know yourself, no one else will — and you’ll forever be living a life that isn’t in alignment with your truest self.

You deserve to know exactly what makes your heart sing.

And you deserve to live a life that’s uniquely yours.

A journey of self-discovery will bring clarity and empower you to make better decisions in both your personal and professional life.

It will help you to form deeper connections, build stronger relationships , and find a sense of belonging in this world.

Ultimately, it will unearth parts of yourself that have been hidden away for far too long — allowing you to become the version of yourself that you were always meant to be.

Plus, I can guarantee that self discovery will grant you a level of inner peace and understanding that’s unlike anything else.

You know what’s amazing?

You’re not just another puzzle piece in this world; you’re a one-of-a-kind masterpiece.

And there’s no better time than right now to start uncovering your magnificence.

When you embrace introspection and explore your authentic self , you start to uncover what makes you a masterpiece and understand yourself better.

You learn more about what makes you tick, what strategies work best for you in different situations, and who you want to be.

This process of unraveling — it’s empowering and humbling all at the same time.

I want you to think of yourself as an onion (minus the tears, of course).

Each layer you peel back reveals a new facet of your being.

Start with a little self-reflection ➡️ What are your passions? What are the moments that have defined you? What are the dreams you’ve been nurturing deep within?

As you unravel these layers, you’ll likely discover a bunch of strengths you probably didn’t even know existed.

For example, maybe you’re a great listener, a creative thinker, or a problem solver.

Embrace these strengths – they’re your superpowers on this journey. 💪

And don’t forget, acknowledging your weaknesses is just as crucial; they are opportunities for growth.

Don’t be afraid to unravel what those weaknesses are. Facing your fears is an essential part of this journey.

To uncover those, you might ask yourself ➡️ Are there aspects of myself I’ve been avoiding? Are there challenges I’ve been hesitant to take on?

Acknowledge them.

When you confront your fears, you’re not just conquering them, you’re empowering yourself.

Setting your intentions is an important first step in this process.

Ask yourself…

What do I want to discover about myself? (Is it a hidden talent, a sense of inner peace, or a deeper connection with your passions?)
What changes do I want to make?
Where do I want this journey to take me?

Write your responses down.

The answers to these questions and others you come up with will give you direction and purpose.

During this process, make sure you remain curious and have an open mind.

Curiosity will lead you to ask more questions, to dig deeper, and to explore the unexplored corners of your thoughts and feelings.

And an open mind will allow you to consider new perspectives, even if they challenge your current beliefs

Now, it’s important right about now to acknowledge that this journey won’t always be a smooth one.

There might be moments of doubt, fear, and uncertainty.

Sometimes negative self talk might try creep in and attempt to throw you off track. Just know that that type of self-sabotaging behavior is a temporary distortion of your thinking. Don’t let it stop you!

When you encounter a limiting belief, pause, question it, and challenge it. Replace it with a positive affirmation or a truth that reflects your capabilities.

These tough moments are a part of the process.

Look at these feelings as an opportunity to pause, to reflect on what you’ve been through so far, and to move forward with greater clarity.

5 Tools & Tips for Self-Discovery

Now that you’re navigating your journey with clear intentions and an open mind, I’m going to equip you with some powerful tools and techniques to make this expedition even more transformative.

#1 – Self Discovery Journaling

Journaling is an incredibly effective way to explore and understand your inner world, unlock your creativity, reflect, discover, and achieve clarity. It’s a great way to show up for yourself every day .

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You won’t be able to get in touch with your inner self if you’re constantly pushing through life without pausing for a moment of reflection.

Mindful living is about using all of our senses to become aware of our thoughts, feelings, and experiences without judgment or attachment to them. It’s living in the present moment and tuning into our inner wisdom.

Similarly, meditation is another incredibly powerful tool for self-discovery – helping to reduce stress and anxiety while promoting empathy and emotional intelligence.

The key takeaway here is that it’s important to prioritize some moments of sitting quietly with your thoughts each day and having regular moments of stillness and reflection during your self-discovery journey.

Ever wanted to learn an instrument, paint, dance, or cook a new recipe ?

Trying new experiences isn’t just about expanding your skill set; it’s about discovering facets of yourself you never knew existed.

Each new endeavor is an opportunity to explore your interests and passions.

Embrace new experiences to open your eyes to the world around you. This could be anything from trying a new activity or cuisine, learning a foreign language, or joining a club.

These are all great ways to challenge yourself and explore different parts of your identity.

Self-discovery is a lifelong journey and that can be tough, especially when you encounter setbacks. That’s why having self-compassion is so important.

Be patient with yourself and have the courage to accept your flaws, mistakes, and weaknesses. Remember that no one has it all figured out – everyone makes mistakes!

Treat yourself with the kindness you deserve.

By learning to practice self-compassion, you’ll be able to keep going on your journey of self-discovery even when the road gets tough.

Remember, the journey of self discovery is about growth , not perfection. So don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s.

The last tip is to make self-care a priority in your life. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and stressed out while on your journey of self-discovery, so it’s important to take care of yourself before anything else.

Take time for yourself – go for walks, give yourself some “me” time to relax or do something that brings you joy.

An added bonus to this is you’re likely to find new insights about yourself while doing something that you enjoy.

Related: 32 of the Best Self-Care Gifts for Women

As you start exploring and getting to know yourself better, it’s important to recognize that change and growth are not only inevitable, they are also going to be key parts of your self-discovery journey.

Instead of being fearful, I want you to embrace the idea of change and growth.

Accept that you are going to learn and become a different person as you go through this process.

Embracing these moments can be some of the most liberating experiences on your journey to discovering yourself.

Change invites you to step out of your comfort zone, where the magic of self-discovery often happens.

And growth provides the opportunity to learn and build upon new ideas, concepts, and skills.

Welcome the twists and turns of your journey, and know that even setbacks contribute to your growth.

Every experience, positive or negative, is a valuable lesson just waiting to be learned.

Now just a heads up, as you learn more about yourself it’s likely that you’ll find that some things no longer align with who you are and what you want. And you know what? That’s absolutely okay!

Don’t hesitate to let go of the things that no longer serve your growth. Instead, be open to the new ideas that will help you move forward in life.

The self-discovery journey can often be a lonely one. But it doesn’t have to be!

Find people who will support and encourage you on your journey.

Building a strong support network can help you stay motivated and encouraged during your journey.

Ask close family members or friends to check in with you as you make progress. Or consider joining a support group where you can connect with others who are embarking on their own journey of self discovery.

Surround yourself with positive, supportive people who understand what you’re going through. Having an encouraging circle of individuals can make all the difference on your self-discovery path.

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*You are your most reliable support system

Building a support system isn’t just about receiving; it’s also about giving too.

Your unique experiences and insights can inspire others on their own journeys.

So engage in reciprocal support – share your discoveries, ask for the ok to offer advice, and be a source of positivity for those around you.

As you progress on your journey of self-discovery, it becomes crucial to wholeheartedly embrace your true and authentic self.

You might be wondering, “Well, what does that mean?”

Authenticity means being honest and true to yourself. It’s about being real, even when it feels uncomfortable.

It’s about honoring your thoughts and feelings without apologizing for them or feeling ashamed of them. And being aware of what drives you, how you react and respond to different situations and feelings.

Being authentic also includes integrating the new changes you experience into a sense of self that still remains true to you.

Here are 7 ways you can foster authenticity as you continue on your self discovery journey:

Authenticity thrives when you release the need to meet others’ expectations. Embrace the freedom to be yourself, even if it doesn’t conform to societal norms or others’ opinions.

Perfection is an illusion, and authenticity is born from embracing your imperfections. Instead of striving for flawlessness, embrace your quirks and vulnerabilities – they’re what make you beautifully unique.

Authenticity demands that you speak your truth, even when it feels uncomfortable. It’s important to remember that expressing your truth doesn’t mean being unkind or hurtful though. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences without fear of judgment. Your vulnerability can inspire others to do the same and foster an atmosphere of open communication and growth.

Setting and maintaining boundaries that protect your physical, mental, and emotional well-being is an act of self-respect. By clearly defining what’s acceptable to you and communicating it to others, you’re safeguarding your authentic self and fostering healthy relationships. This practice empowers you to create relationships that align with your true self.

Authenticity blooms when your actions align with your values. Reflect on your choices – are they in harmony with who you are? Seek activities, relationships, and pursuits that resonate with your authentic self.

Your journey, with all its triumphs and challenges, is part of your unique story. Embrace it with open arms. Owning your story, without shame or apology, is an act of authenticity.

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of authenticity. To be authentic, you must understand who you are. That’s why I’ve put so much emphasis on the importance of taking time for self-reflection throughout this post. Refine your understanding of yourself through questions such as: How do I want to show up in the world? What values drive my decisions? What parts of me need healing? Pay attention to how other’s words and actions make you feel too – it can help provide insight into what matters most to you.

Cultivating authenticity is an ongoing process, and it looks different for everyone. It’s about being true to who you are in each moment, without the need to hide or conform. As you continue on this journey, remember that your authentic self is your most valuable treasure.

It takes courage to embark on a journey of self-discovery. And while you’re on it, be sure to take time for moments of celebration and appreciation – you deserve it!

Give yourself credit for all that you have achieved along the way, no matter how small.

Remember those times when you faced your fears head-on? That’s something to celebrate.

Or that moment when you embraced your unique quirks instead of trying to hide them? That’s definitely a victory worth acknowledging.

Each step you take, every insight you gain, and all the hurdles you overcome are stepping stones to your growth.

So, how can you celebrate yourself?

Treat yourself to a day of indulgence – whether it’s a favorite meal, a relaxing bubble bath, or that book you’ve been wanting to read.

You could write yourself a heartfelt letter, acknowledging your progress and the qualities you admire in yourself. Or gather with friends who uplift you, and share your wins with them.

And don’t forget to take a moment in quiet solitude to honor your journey, appreciating the remarkable person you are becoming.

These celebrations aren’t just about rewards; they’re affirmations of your commitment and an expression of self-love.

It’s never too late to start anew – you are the author of your own story.

Your journey of self discovery is about learning to understand, accept, and love yourself. So trust in the process.

You have all the tools and capabilities you need to create a fulfilling life story.

The journey is ongoing, with new experiences and revelations each day. And it’s not just any journey; it’s YOUR journey.

So stay curious, be brave, embrace change – and remember that wherever life takes you, authenticity will always be your superpower.

I sincerely hope that this guide proves to be invaluable to you as you embark on your journey of self-discovery.

May it provide you with the guidance and insight you need to take those initial steps towards uncovering your true potential.

But this isn’t the end; no, it’s just the beginning!

I invite you to download my FREE Self Discovery Journal .

This printable workbook will help you gain clarity about your life goals and values, uncover your passions, and find meaningful ways to express yourself.

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You are capable of anything you put your mind to – so believe in yourself as much as I believe in you. 😘

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The Power of Journaling for Well-being: A Path to Self-Discovery and Healing

Finding moments of tranquility and self-reflection can be challenging in our fast-paced, digital world. However, one ancient practice continues to stand the test of time as a powerful tool for improving mental and emotional well-being: journaling. Keeping a journal is more than just jotting down your thoughts; it’s a transformative journey that can enhance self-awareness, manage stress, and promote emotional healing.

Self-Reflection and Self-Awareness

Journaling provides a safe and private space to explore your innermost thoughts and feelings. You can better understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors by putting pen to paper. This self-reflection can increase self-awareness , helping you identify patterns and triggers that affect your well-being. This newfound insight allows you to make positive changes and build healthier habits.

Journaling for Stress Reduction

Writing in a journal can serve as a therapeutic release valve for stress. Research has shown that expressive writing can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. By putting your worries on paper, you can gain control over your emotions and reduce their intensity. Journaling can lead to improved mental clarity and a greater sense of calm.

Emotional Healing

Journaling can be vital for processing and healing from emotional traumas or challenging life experiences. Writing about these experiences allows you to explore your feelings in a safe environment, facilitating emotional catharsis and closure. It can also help you reframe negative thoughts and find silver linings in difficult situations, fostering resilience.

Goal Setting and Tracking

Keeping a journal can also support personal growth and goal achievement. You can stay motivated and accountable by setting specific goals and tracking your progress . Journaling can help you break down your goals into manageable steps, making them more achievable.

In conclusion, journaling is a simple yet potent tool for enhancing overall well-being. It offers the benefits of self-reflection, stress reduction, emotional healing, and goal achievement. By incorporating journaling into your daily routine, you can embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing, ultimately leading to a happier and more balanced life.

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How to know yourself: Tips for beginning your self-discovery journey

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What does self-discovery mean?

How to start a self-discovery journey, 7 elements of self-discovery, why is self-discovery so important, 5 benefits of self-discovery, how to keep yourself engaged with your self-discovery journey, moving forward.

Life moves fast. We have errands to run, work to do, and commitments to uphold. Learning how to begin self-discovery could be the last thing on our mind.

Our busy routines rarely give us time to consider what kind of life we actually want. Do you reflect on who you are while standing in line at the grocery store? Most likely, no. It can be hard to find the space to discover and become our most authentic selves . However, there are endless benefits that make taking the time worth it.

If you’re wondering how to begin self-discovery, know that the first step is making a commitment. Your journey will require you to focus, take action, and prioritize your needs. Remember, you can’t make a change without putting in the work.

Ready to find out how to begin your self-discovery jour ney? Let’s start by defining what self-discovery is.

Self-discovery is the process of understanding your true self: your values, your needs and wants, even what food you like and dislike. You might have naturally learned some of these things about yourself over time. Yet, for a lot of people, we have a way of losing touch with our values and hiding our own motivations and preferences, even from ourselves. Going deeper into self-discovery can transform your life.

It’s one thing to know your personality type or your favorite meal. But true self-discovery starts when you evaluate your life and think about what’s energizing and what's not. What will bring more joy into your life? What inspires you to jump out of bed each morning?

Once you’ve discovered more about yourself, you’ll have an easier time finding your life purpose and being your authentic self in work as well as in personal life. Understanding what’s been missing from your life will help you learn about yourself.

But don’t think you can finish this journey overnight. Self-discovery is an ongoing process. It requires you to dive in and examine all areas of your life and take the time to reflect . You’ll need courage and resilience to stick with the process — in the process of looking inward, you may learn things about yourself that you find hard to accept .

Discovering your inner self also requires lots of self-awareness , otherwise known as self-knowledge. Self-knowledge usually refers to your knowledge of your own feelings, beliefs, and desires . If you have more of this in your life, you’ll have better emotional regulation . This will help you better your personal and work relationships and improve your stress management .

Knowing more about the way your mind works also improves your empathy, helps you exercise better self-control, be more creative, and have higher self-esteem. You’ll even be more honest as a result.

There are endless benefits to learning how to start a self-discovery journey. The important thing is to take the first step and get started.

You may feel intimidated by the prosp ect of embarking on a journey of self-discovery. Where do you even begin? The steps to self-discovery aren’t set in stone. That means you can start with whatever action feels right for you. Remember that having the courage to begin this journey is already admirable, so keep that momentum going.

Here are 11 tips you can follow to learn how to discover yourself:

Work to be your best self each day, no matter what you’re doing
Take risks and try new things
Hone in on your passions and what makes you excited
Understand your strengths and think about how you can apply them everywhere
Start journaling your thoughts so you can reflect on them later
Make sure you surround yourself with people who support you
Learn from your mistakes and move on
Think back to your childhood and connect with your inner child again
Be curious and ask questions
Build habits that support your personal growth and goals
Practice positive self-talk and reward yourself for your wins

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Discovering your true self will help you feel more confident in your decision-making abilities. This is true for all areas of your life because self-discovery helps you understand yourself on a deep level. You’ll know better than anyone else what’s good for you.

As you work to improve your sense of self-awareness, here are seven elements to keep in mind:

Reflect on where you started and what you’re accomplishing each day
Zero in on what gives you energy and what zaps your energy
Visualize the person you want to be
Follow where your passions and interests lead you
Let go of your inner critic and any self-doubt
Choose a life of meaning and be purposeful with your actions
Be proud of your power, grit, and resilience during challenging times

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Self-discovery is important because it helps us live more meaningful lives. You learn how to take better care of yourself when you understand yourself. Plus, you might find a more fulfilling career if you’re connected to your true self. And if you’re on a career path you’re truly passionate about, you’re more likely to succeed .

Perhaps you’ll learn that, although you’re an introvert, you’re also a people person. Taking care of our social health is always important, but maybe you need more social connection than you’d initially realized.

This also gives you more clarity on what you want your future to look like. By understanding yourself, you can chart a future that satisfies your needs and supports your well-being . Without self-discovery, you won’t live the most passionate and fulfilling life possible.

Let’s say that you do some reflecting and realize that your favorite projects at work are the ones you lead . That probably means that you have a talent or a passion for leadership. With that in mind, you can work to become a manager . You’ll have a clearer career path and find a role that you’re more passionate about.

And when you know yourself, you can recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Maybe you’re skilled at mindfulness , empathy, or compassion . Or you could be an amazing writer or public speaker . The best way to find out is to begin your self-discovery journey.

This process can help you see where you need to grow, too. If you need to strengthen your communication skills , for example, taking the time to reflect on yourself will show you that.

The impact of your self-discovery will touch other people’s lives, too. You can put your newly sharpened skills to work in your social life and form deeper relationships . This authenticity will help you become a better friend, coworker, and family member.

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The road to self-discovery can look different for many people. But for everyone, it brings benefits that help you become your true self.

To put that into perspective, here are 5 benefits that you can experience after finding yourself:

1. Your relationships will thrive

Your relationships will be healthier when you better understand your core values and what you want out of your life. You’ll be able to identify toxic traits — yours or not — and solve deeper issues you have. You can then improve your social health by being more honest and open.

2. You’ll experience less self-criticism

Rather than criticize every mistake you make , you’ll know that mistakes sometimes happen because we’re human. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Plus, with more self-awareness, you’ll learn to avoid some mistakes. Understanding why you’ve made an error is the first step to preventing it from happening again.

3. You’ll feel more creative

Self-expression is key for letting others know how you feel and for becoming more creative . But how can you express yourself if you don’t know who you are? Self-reflection will help you find your identity and learn how to express it.

4. You’ll have a better ability to focus on what you truly want

The ongoing process of discovering yourself requires you to be committed and focused . That practice will help you set and achieve goals with a better sense of self in mind. You can plan a future that embodies who you really are.

5. Your self-confidence will increase

Believing in yourself and your abilities can impact your professional and personal life. With more confidence, you’ll walk into new experiences as a whole person ™, not someone who shies away from challenges or change. And as you begin your journey of self-improvement, your confidence will continue to grow.

Self-discovery isn’t something that you start and finish in one afternoon. It could take months, a year, or more to get to a point where you feel content with what you’ve discovered.

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Throughout that process, here are a few ways you can keep yourself engaged and learning:

Stay organized with the career and person goals you’re working to achieve
Find journal prompts that keep you stimulated and thinking
Listen to podcasts, read books, and watch videos about other people’s journeys to make you feel inspired
Ask yourself questions like “Why do I like these things?” or “What impact do I want my choices to have on my life?”

Remember, finding your true self and defining your life purpose will be more than worth it.

The journey of self-discovery doesn’t involve only thinking about the future. It asks you to take a look at your past, too. Spending time revisiting past feelings and experiences can be tough. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help from your friends and family.

Knowin g how to begin self-discovery is only the first step. In this process, you’ll need to get out of your comfort zone and ask yourself some hard questions. As you start, feel proud of yourself. It’s never too late to become more in touch with yourself and you’ll be so grateful you took the leap.

If you feel like you need some extra accountability to stay focused, BetterUp can help. You can experience what it’s like to reach new heights with a support system that brings out the best in you.

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Kickstart your path to self-discovery and self-awareness. Our coaches can guide you to better understand yourself and your potential.

Elizabeth Perry, ACC

Elizabeth Perry is a Coach Community Manager at BetterUp. She uses strategic engagement strategies to cultivate a learning community across a global network of Coaches through in-person and virtual experiences, technology-enabled platforms, and strategic coaching industry partnerships. With over 3 years of coaching experience and a certification in transformative leadership and life coaching from Sofia University, Elizabeth leverages transpersonal psychology expertise to help coaches and clients gain awareness of their behavioral and thought patterns, discover their purpose and passions, and elevate their potential. She is a lifelong student of psychology, personal growth, and human potential as well as an ICF-certified ACC transpersonal life and leadership Coach.

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