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Your Biggest Destination Wedding Etiquette Questions, Answered

We cover all the details, from flying with your wedding dress to accommodations.

Jaimie Mackey was the real weddings editor at Brides from 2013 to 2015. She also worked as a luxury wedding planner and produced over 100 high-end weddings and events in Colorado

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What’s better than planning a wedding ? How about planning a spectacular destination wedding and inviting the people you love to join you? Whether you’re heading to a white sand beach or a centuries-old European city , a destination wedding is hard to beat. Of course, planning a far-flung wedding comes with its own list of logistical problems and etiquette questions. Who do you invite? Do you pay for their accommodations? How do you travel with your wedding dress?

We’ve rounded up the most common destination wedding etiquette questions to help you navigate the choppy waters and make sure your celebration continues with smooth sailing.

Can We Have an Intimate Destination Wedding, Then Celebrate When We Get Back?

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Absolutely! When you’re planning a wedding abroad, you’ll most likely end up with a smaller guest list . That may be due to your preferences, the size of your venue, or how many loved ones are ultimately able to attend a far-flung celebration. If all of these factors mean that your nuptials will only include a dozen or so guests, you can absolutely invite the rest of your family and friends to join you for a reception once you’re home. You could go full throttle with a traditional wedding reception (white dress, live band, and cake included) or keep it more casual with a cocktail celebration or backyard barbecue—ultimately, it's up to you!

When Should We Send Our Save-the-Dates?

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If you’re going to ask guests to book flights (and even bust out their passports) for your wedding, make sure to give them ample time to make travel plans. Instead of the four-month lead time for a local wedding, you’ll want to send destination save-the-dates at least six months in advance—and should have all the travel details outlined on your wedding website before you send invitations at the 12-week mark.

What Do We Need to Include on the Invitation?

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Unlike a traditional wedding invitation, you need to give your guests a lot more information when you’re asking them to join you out of town. In addition to your actual invitation, you’ll want an information card outlining all of the events you’ve planned so guests know how long to be in town. The weekend itinerary should include the date, time, and location of each event. You’ll also want to print a card with lodging details—whether that’s a huge house you’ve reserved for the group or the local hotels where you have room blocks (plus, information on how to get discounts!).

A wedding website is a great idea, especially for celebrations with a lot of logistics. This will allow you to put everything in one place, as well as include details about transportation and local activities.

What’s the Best Way to Travel With My Wedding Dress, Suit, or Other Formal Attire?

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Traveling with formal attire —a wedding dress, suit, tuxedo, you name it!—is one of the trickier parts of planning a destination wedding. The easiest option (especially if your dress has a slim silhouette instead of a full skirt or if you're packing a suit or tux) is to carry it in a garment bag as your carry-on. Ask a flight attendant if it's at all possible to hang the garment bag in the hanging space for first class or, if the plane doesn’t have a closet, wait until all of the rolling bags have been stowed, then lay your dress on top of the suitcases. If the fabric isn’t prone to wrinkling, you could also carefully fold the dress and tuck it into your own carry-on suitcase.

Do We Have to Pay for Our Wedding Party’s Travel and Accommodations?

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Here’s some good news: You are not obligated to foot the bill for any of your wedding party’s travel expenses. That being said, you should try to hook them up as much as possible. Offer reasonably priced lodging options, or consider renting a house instead of hotel rooms so everyone can crash together (at a much more reasonable price). Let them know about your plans ASAP so they can start shopping around for deals on airfare, too.

Do We Have to Pay for Our Guests' Meals, Aside from at Our Reception?

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While the only food you must pay for is what’s served during the festivities (rehearsal dinner, wedding-day meals for the wedding party, the reception dinner, and morning-after brunch ), it’s a kind gesture to pick up the tab at least one other time if you’re asking your guests to join you for more than three days, like at a welcome dinner or lunch on the beach. If you can afford it, paying for one meal a day for your wedding party (such as daily breakfast) will help offset their expenses.

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55 Questions to Ask Your Destination Wedding Resort

Your wedding is one of the most important events of your life and, naturally, you want the ceremony and the reception to be picture-perfect and impeccable to the core. If you have your heart set on a destination wedding, it’s never too early to start looking for an ideal location and the best wedding resort it has to offer to discerning wedding travelers.

To help make the research phase a tad bit easier for you and your fiancé, here are 55 questions you need to ask your destination wedding resort or hotel before making a reservation.

General Questions

Is the resort/hotel available on the date of the wedding?
Is the wedding venue available for use until end of day on that date?
How far out is the beach from the property?
Are there any other events scheduled on the same date or weekend?
What is the weather like during that time of the year?
Is there possibility of rain during that time of year?
What is the best time to make an advance reservation?
Are there any legal formalities to be completed to hold a wedding at the location?
Do the wedding guests need to be vaccinated before arriving into town?
What are the identification documents required to hold a wedding there?

Wedding Venue

How many guests can be accommodated comfortably at the chosen venue?
Will the ceremony be held at the same place as the reception?
If so, how are the two managed?
Will we be assigned a wedding manager?
Is the resort a family-friendly/child-friendly venue?
Does the resort have enough overnight accommodation for the estimated number of guests?
If not, will the wedding coordinator help with arranging accommodation in neighboring hotels?
Are there any discounts on bulk bookings?
Will the resort provide a personalized wedding website for the couple?
What entertainment activities are available at the resort?
Is there a dress code that guests need to follow during their stay?
Can we alter the decorations offered in a preset wedding plan?
What flowers are offered as part of the decoration?
Do we have to bring our own seating cards?
Is it possible to have a wedding/dinner rehearsal?
Can we visit when a private event is going on at the venue?
Does the venue have a salon that can accommodate a large number of guests on the day of the wedding?
Do they offer bridal make-up and hair styling?
Does the resort provide customized wedding cakes? How are they priced?
Does the resort have an in-house professional wedding photographer? If not, can they recommend someone?

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What cuisines are available to wedding parties?
What are the options for table settings?
Can we customize a preset menu according to our guests’ preferences?
Do you offer the buffet system and is it more economical for a large wedding party?
Where is the food prepared—in-house or by an external catering service?
Can we employ our own catering service?
What nonalcoholic drinks are provided for children and teetotaler adults?
What all is offered in alcoholic drinks?
How many types of cuisines can be accommodated in one event?
How many serving staff will be provided at the event?
What does the resort offer in wedding music?
What type of music system do they have?
Can you bring your own music or disc jockey?
Is there a dance floor at the venue and is it big enough for the expected number of guests?
Are there any restrictions on the duration and volume of music?

Pricing, safety and more

What is the estimated cost of your chosen wedding package?
What are the payment methods?
Are there any exclusive offers on booking a minimum number of rooms?
Can a honeymoon package be clubbed with the wedding package?
Will the resort provide a contract?
What is the cancellation policy?
What are the safety provisions in place?
Does the resort offer any activities for children?
Is there power back-up to deal with electricity outage?
Are the event and the venue covered by insurance?

Answers to Your Destination Wedding Questions

I’m so excited to introduce you to our new feature called Ask the Destination Wedding Doctor . Here you’ll find answers to the most frequently asked destination wedding questions — and if you don’t find the answer to your question, you can just fill out the form at the end of this post and we will answer you personally .

I know how intimidating and confusing destination wedding planning can be when you first start— after all, you’re planning a wedding, a group vacation, and a honeymoon all in one. You’re doing it long-distance, sometimes with cultural or language barriers to overcome. I know you have lots of questions. Every day my inbox is full of them.

To help me answer all your questions, I tapped destination wedding guru, Jack Benoff. Jack is the President of Vacationeeze , a family-run travel company with over 25 years of experience in the industry. Jack is actually a doctor by trade, who decided to leave his practice a few years ago to start a travel company specializing in honeymoons and destination weddings. He quickly grew the company and sold it to the Knot and became part of The Knot . After leaving The Knot, he spent time consulting with resorts and then decided to start Vacationeeze to focus on helping clients plan their honeymoons and destination weddings.

On any given week, someone from the Vacationeeze team is traveling to a different destination around the world to meet the wedding planners or host one of their clients and their guests at the resort. Vacationeeze has a great reputation for helping couples plan a stress-free, dream destination wedding.

Jack is an incredible resource and I’m so excited to have him help demystify the destination wedding planning process for you.

What destinations have the least amount of requirements to have a legal wedding?

What locations at the resorts can i be married at, i want to have my wedding at an adults only resort but i have guests that are children, can they attend, what are your most popular destination wedding resorts, i see advertisements for free destination weddings. are they really free, can vacationeeze organize activities for our stay, we want to have a reception in the evening. what can you do for us, how far in advance should i book my destination wedding, how do i get my wedding gown to the resort, what is the best time of day to have a destination wedding, do i need to hire a wedding coordinator for my destination wedding, ask the destination wedding doctor.

Remember, if you don’t see your question answered here, make sure you ask by filling out the comment form at the bottom of this post and we will answer you personally. All questions will be answered so make sure you ask away!

Disclosure : This post is sponsored by Vacationeeze. The information in this post is for general guidance only. Given the changing nature of laws, rules, and regulations, there may be inaccuracies in the information contained in this content as time passes. We are not responsible for any inaccurate or omitted information or for the results obtained from the use of this information. The opinions expressed are the author’s own and do not necessarily reflect the views of Destination Wedding Details LLC. Disclaimer

Most Frequently Asked Destination Wedding Questions

Anywhere in the US will be similar to getting married at home. Mexico and Jamaica are also convenient places to get married legally. In Mexico, you will have to complete some paperwork prior to arriving, have a blood test in Mexico, be over 18, have a witness, and be in the country a few days prior to the legal ceremony. In Jamaica, you will need to be 18, be in the country for 2 days prior to the wedding date, but no blood test is needed. Most other destinations have similar requirements. The reality is that most clients will get legally married in the US and then have a symbolic ceremony at the destination of their dreams.

Most of the resorts Vacationeeze works with offer several location options. The most popular location is on the beach. Resorts such as Generations Riviera Maya and Azul Sensatori now have rooftop venues that look over the resort and the beach and have amazing views. Most resorts also have locations in the gardens, in a gazebo, on a pier, or around the pool. A few of the resorts have their own wedding chapel or church. One or two of the resorts even have private islands for you to be married on. No matter what you are looking for, Vacationeeze can typically find a resort that will help make your dream come true. In addition, at most destinations, you can have events outside of the resorts at places such as waterfalls, cenotes, caves, sailing boats, and many more unique locations.

The simple answer is, maybe. Some adults-only resorts will allow the kids to attend but for a limited amount of time. Some resorts will have restrictions as to where you can hold the ceremony and reception if there are children. In some cases, Vacationeeze will work with resorts that are close to a sister family-resort that allows everyone to stay. In that case, you might have the adults stay at the adults-only resort and have the ceremony at the family resort.

The most popular resorts include: El Dorado Seaside Suites, Secrets Capri, Dreams Riviera Cancun, Secrets St. James in Jamaica, Beaches Negril, Dreams Palm Beach Punta Cana, and The Hard Rock resort in Cancun.

The answer is actually yes. Many of the resorts Vacationeeze works with will provide you a free ceremony and limited reception . Each resort has certain requirements such as a minimum number of rooms booked or that you stay in a certain room type, or that you ( or your guests ) stay a minimum number of nights. Most of the free packages are for symbolic weddings only. Each package typically includes the ceremony, a toast, cake, and a few other special things.

Yes! That is the fun of a destination wedding. Vacationeeze can organize many different group activities such as a private sailing trip, cooking classes, a spa day, a golf outing, an adventure zip-lining trip, and much more. We can also organize sporting events at the resort for your group. If you have an idea in most places we can help make that dream a reality.

Anything you can do at home, we can typically arrange for your destination wedding. If you dream of arriving at your reception in a horse-drawn carriage, we can do that. If you want a barefoot party on the beach with a DJ and special lighting we can handle that. Interested in fireworks on the beach or a bonfire, we can do that also. We can help you customize the menu, hire a photographer, pick your theme and decorations, and select your music to make your event memorable. The cost for events, are typically much less than it would cost you at home.

For your destination wedding, we suggest that you start to plan 12 to 18 months in advance. We have also had clients book 4 months in advance.

We do not suggest shipping your gown in advance as there is no way to assure it will make it to the resort. We suggest that you either carry your bridal gown on the plane or you ask your bridal shop to pack it for you in a carry-on or a box. Once you arrive at the resort you will meet with one of the wedding planners and they will work with you to unpack and steam the gown so it looks brand new.

Each resort has certain times for the ceremony. As we help you plan we need to think about the time of day and time of year. It is not much fun having a wedding on the beach at 1 pm in the afternoon when it is 100 degrees out. We have to think about the weather in selecting the location.

No! This is part of the service we provide. We will work with you to plan the event and travel arrangements for you and your guests. We will also have you work with one of the coordinators at the resorts that we work with. They can help you with everything from selecting your menus, the location for the ceremony, your flowers, and anything else you can think of.

Don’t see the answer to your question? Just scroll to the comment form below, send us your destination wedding question, and Jack from Vacationeeze will answer you personally.

About Cynthia

Cynthia is the founder and editor of Destination Wedding Details.She has over 15 years experience in the Marketing and Event industry and launched Destination Wedding Details in 2010, shortly after planning her own destination wedding. Cynthia uses her experience and genuine passion, to inspire brides who are planning their dream wedding away from home.

Reader Interactions

To Whom it May Concern,

My fiance and I are getting married in the Dominican Republic. We are doing a symbolic wedding. We plan on getting legally married before we leave. We booked all of my fiances’ plane tickets as her current last name. Being that we will be legally married before we leave, is this an issue? We don’t plan on changing her passport and/or license until after we get back. Will this cause us any travel issues.

As long as the name on her plane ticket matches the name on her travel documents (i.e. Passport/license, etc.), she’ll be fine. The key is to NOT change her name on her passport until she gets back. I also got legally married before my destination wedding in Mexico…I booked my plane ticket using my maiden name and I didn’t change the name on any of my documents until after I came back to the U.S.

I would be grateful to know what the legal requirements are for booking outdoor wedding ceremonies at a destination wedding. Does this vary by country?

Can I book two venues, in case of bad weather, does the ceremony always have to happen at one pre-notified location, or are there places the location of the ceremony doesn’t need to be notified and it could be beach, pool, inside venue, another hotel, if need be?

Many thanks,

We are thinking of planning a destination wedding. I was wondering if there are packages that include you flight I want to make this as simple as possible for my family.

Audrey, that is a good question. Typically we will reserve a block of rooms for our clients. This is very important as it will provide you a rate so that everyone is getting the same price and that you actually have rooms for everyone. It also will provide you perks such as private events, room upgrades and maybe even free rooms. In terms of the flights the airlines are not as easy to work with in the US. What we find in the US is that many guests have points or free miles or want to fly specific airlines so it makes it slightly harder. We can request a group rate with the airline but they typically will require 10-20 seats on the same exact flights and sometimes the price they provide for the group is actually higher then what we can book for you without the group. So the bottom line is our goal is always to make this a fun and stress free experience for both you and your guests but we just need to see what the correct solution is. In Canada it is somewhat different as there we typically do create a package with the flights. Hope that helps. Feel free to contact me with any other questions and if you need help planning your wedding.

We have a wedding planned for immediate family only, in Hawaii. But we are having a reception after the wedding to include the extended family and friends back home. Do we send out announcements? Or just invitations to the reception?

Hi there! You can send invitations to the at-home reception that double as an announcement of the destination wedding. That way, guests know the ceremony already happened in Hawaii but they’re invited to a reception at home… For example:

Bride and Groom exchanged marriage vows on DATE in Hawaii

Please join us for a hometown reception to celebrate their marriage on DATE at TIME VENUE ADDRESS CITY, STATE

This blog post covers this topic more in-depth: https://destinationweddingdetails.com/athome-reception-invitation-etiquette.html

And you can find tons of wording examples for at-home receptions here: https://destinationweddingdetails.com/21-beautiful-at-home-wedding-reception-invitations.html

I hope this helps! 🙂

Hi Cynthia & Jack,

My fiancé and I are getting married in Cancun this October. After much discussion and outside family bickering, we decided to forgo our initial idea of having a small intimate wedding with just our immediate family and closest friends and instead open up our guest list to whomever wants to come. Our travel agent found us a fantastic resort with a HUGE discount on rooms that ends at the end of February. After that, all rooms will go back to their normal prices and we anticipate not as many people will come if they don’t book by February. I don’t need a final guest count until July but I’d like to have an idea of the number before then so we can pick the right venues and plan accordingly. We are still planning on having a reception at home for anyone who cannot attend.

We are thinking of sending our destination wedding save the dates as emails so that guests will receive the information faster and will have more time to book their trip if they choose to go. That said, I’m not sure how to word the save the date so it includes everything since it’s supposed to be simple. I was thinking of sending the email with two attachments for (1) information on the Cancun wedding and how to book it/cost per person/etc. and (2) information on the at home reception (we still have no idea what we’re doing for that).

So my questions are:

1. Are virtual save the dates an etiquette no no? Are the attachments a tacky idea?

2. How do I word the save the date so that guests know that they have to decide whether or not they are attending the wedding in Cancun, the at home reception, or both?

3. When do I make the RSVP date since Feb 28th is the last day for the discount but we don’t need final number until the end of July?

I’ve seen other questions about how to word their save the dates but I didn’t see a response. I hope you have time to answer this because I’m at a loss and would really appreciate your help!

Have you considered a personal website to collect RSVPs? It sounds like it would really simplify things for you significantly. One that comes to mind is Appy couple — I wrote a review about them here: https://destinationweddingdetails.com/destination-wedding-website.html

The reason I suggest them is because they have a cool RSVP manager that lets you segment your guest list and collect RSVP’s for each event. Here’s an image to show you what I mean..

That way people can RSVP for the destination wedding or the hometown reception, or both right on the website. Then there’s really no need for you to worry about how to word it because it’s so self-explanatory.

On your website, you can say something like, “The deadline to book rooms at the group rate of X amount is February 28” but set your RSVP based on when you need a final number. I actually had to do this myself for my destination wedding — on my personal website, I gave everyone the deadline to book rooms at the group rate but told them the final date to RSVP also. Most people booked by the deadline to get the group rate but a few people waited until the final RSVP date and missed the group discount. I hope this helps!

If my fiance and I get legally married in Hawaii, and God forbid we end up divorced, what state laws are used to govern the divorce proceedings. Hawaii’s or California’s (California is where we legally reside).

Typically the laws of the state where the divorce is filed would govern the divorce proceedings.

I have a few questions:

-I am from Florida and my fiancé is from Ireland, we met while traveling in Georgia, US. He currently lives and works in LA, and i live and work in Jacksonville. Once we get married we are going to relocate (either live together in LA or his job may send us to London) My question is our lives are all over the place and our families are all over the world. How do we pick a wedding destination? I’ve seen people have two weddings but I’m not sure about that either? -My second question, if we end up with a very small destination wedding and were able to pay for the hotel rooms of our guests (because we wanted to due to them traveling a good distance), how do we go about telling them? Do we say this on on the invitation? Do we just call the short list and tell them?

I appreciate your time and assistance!

Best, Sydney

Hello, We are getting married Jan 13 in Mexico. We are sending save the dates this week with a link to personal wedding website with booking info and RSVP section. One of our hotels requires booking by Nov 12 for group rate, so we wrote that rooms should be booked by Nov 1. Should we also make our RSVP deadline Nov 1 to match the group rate deadline, or is requesting RSVPs two months before the wedding way too soon? Dec 1 sounds like a better RSVP deadline but I don’t want everyone getting confused with dates. Thanks so much for your advice!

I would say the most important thing you can do is discuss this issue with your travel agent and review the contract. Each resort provides different terms within their contracts. If the resort contract indicate the deposit must be paid by the 12th then I do think it is a good idea to back up the date a week or so as we always see stragglers in the booking process. Many of the resorts provide other reduction dates in the contract to help with this process. Again I think the most important thing you can do is talk with your travel agent you are working with to better understand the process. This is one of the great things we all do for our client so that you can stay the VIP Bride and groom and not have to become the tour organizer and travel agent.

I am invited to a destination wedding and will be staying off the resort at a condo. I just find out that the resort might ask me to pay a day fee of $100 or more per person to go to the wedding. I would hope that this was mentioned to the bride and groom prior to the final booking. I am not the only one in this situation. What should I do ? Information came thru destinationweddings and not the resort. I have tried to reach the resort but no answer to this question.

I am interested in having a destination wedding but unsure of where to begin. We would really like something simple yet beautiful on a beach. Not intrested in have a fancy reception but maybe a DJ on beach with coctails/beer after the ceremony. We do not expect to have a big group. No more than maybe 20 people would actually attend. Any advice would be helpful. We are on a tight budget and would like to get more bang for our buck. We are flexible on dates next year. I would like anywhere except Mexico. 🙂

Monica. Sorry for the delay in getting back to you. It would be great to better understand what a tight budget means. There are really two budgets when planning a wedding. There is the budget for the events, such as the ceremony, cocktails, reception and the cost for the DJ and photos. Then there is the budget for the guest stay. Since you are going to have around 20 guests, most resorts have packages for under 25 that range from $2000 to $3000 for your ceremony and events such as a private reception. We can always customize a package depending upon your budget. I think the most important thing is finding the perfect resort for you and your guests. I understand that you are not interested in Mexico, but Mexico is the place that you will get the most bang for the buck and the best overall experience for your guests. I would say the next place would be Punta Cana.

What you are asking is exactly what we do. We work with our clients to learn more about the group and then provide suggestions of a few resorts we feel will meet their needs and budget and exceed the guest expectations. If you would like help feel free to contact me at [email protected]

We are having a destination wedding and are currently preparing our invites. Do you put the the travel costs for the guests on the invite?

Do you have a personal wedding website? If so, you should include your website URL in the invitations and put all of those details on the website.

Hi! Read some of the above and hope this is not a second time asking but….my daughter is getting married in NOLA and none of us live near there. I happen to live in the Virgin Islands so things tend to be tricky here. Im wondering if it would be proper ettiquette to send welcome bags via mail to homes – then we could include tips, maps, coupons for Cafe Dumonde, tambourines and all kinds of things New Orleans. We have blocks at different hotels w different price points and I’m not sure we are going to be able to distribute at each hotel wo maddening confusion. Thoughts????

How many welcome bags are you going to be distributing? It might be a bit expensive and complicated to mail them out to each guest. If you’re having a welcome reception or any type of get together prior to the wedding, my advice would be to bring them down to NOLA with you and hand them out there.

Hi. I’m having a small destination wedding in August. We’ve invited a total of 20 people (mostly family and a few very close friends). As a rule, we only added plus ones for married people and those in long term or live in relationships. When I first started planning my wedding, my maid of honour was in a new relationship and I didn’t plan to invite him because I have never met him-I moved away from home about 2 years ago and she still lives in VT. But now, they plan to move and are considering marriage. My fiancé and I envision a wedding that’s super intimate surrounded the people we love most in the world. We’ve cut no corners on making sure we are providing only the best for our guests to thank them for coming and we are spending a very high amount per guest to make that happen because it’s what we want. But, strangers were not included in this vision; spending this amount of money simply to meet someone I’ve never met on the most important day of my life is not an enjoyable thought for me. My wedding is so small it’s almost an elopement and one person I don’t know and our family/friends don’t know would be super awkward in that setting; my friend will be worried about her date and he’d definitely be all alone because no one knows him. She’d also, I expect, be busy with me and I’d be frustrated if she was taking time away from being there for me to make sure he was comfortable in a room full of strangers to him. The understanding is that he isn’t invited to the wedding but is more than welcome to join her on the destination and hopefully they can make a little holiday out of the rest of the weekend after the wedding; but now she wants him to come to my ceremony and reception-this pushes the guest list again and adds to the budget and would be a last minute change and quite frankly, I don’t want to do it. If I wanted to pay a lot of money for strangers to come to my wedding I wouldnt have planned it this way. What do you think?

Hi Melissa,

I hear what you’re saying. And I get where you’re coming from. It’s your wedding so ultimately you do what you feel is right in your heart. You don’t want anything to ruin your wedding day. BUT you asked for my opinion so here goes…

I know you don’t want to spend extra money or spend your wedding day with strangers but from what you explained this is not some random stranger. This is someone that your maid of honor ( presumably your best friend? ) is planning to marry some day. If it were some random person doing this or one of the other bridesmaids, I’d absolutely stick to my guns. But if it were me, I would bite the bullet and let my maid of honor bring her future husband. It’s just one person, but an important person to someone who is very important to you. I had a similar situation at my destination wedding. I initially told my friend that she could bring her friend to the destination but not the ceremony/reception. However once were at the destination, I got to know this person throughout the week and so did my friends/family. It felt super awkward to not invite them to the ceremony/reception so I changed my mind at the last minute and invited them. And everything was fine. The wedding was still awesome. Some of the things we stress prior to the wedding become so insignificant once the day arrives and we realize the magnitude of what we’re about to do (marry the love of our lives).

But again, that’s just my opinion. This is very personal decision. Have a heart to heart with your friend/maid of honor and explain your position to her. It’s your day and I would hope she’d respect your decision.

Hi! My fiance and I are starting to think through where we will have our destination wedding. I’m from London, he is from Augusta, Georgia (USA). My family live mainly in Asia and the Middle East, so we’re having trouble identifying a good spot. 2 Questions:

1) Are there good online sites that help folks decide the best spot to get married in?

2) Is this a common issue couples face? Or do most folks who want a destination wedding, start with a pre-set idea of where they would like to get married.

Congrats to both of you for thinking about having a destination wedding. Having a destination wedding solves some of the logistical travel issues for people with guest traveling from global locations. To answer your questions.

1. I don’t know of any website that helps you decide on where to host your wedding. There are many sites that can provide information, but in my experience planning a destination wedding with guests traveling from all over the globe truly requires someone that has experience in managing global destination weddings.

2. Planning a destination wedding can be a fun but confusing process. I think many couples start with a destination or even a resort in mind. As they start to work with a specialist and get feedback on their ideas things can change.

We work with many South Asian families helping them plan their weddings. We just had a wedding 2 weeks ago with 260 guests. The bride was from Dallas and the Groom was from NYC by way of London. We had guests from India, Texas, Australia, London, Dublin, Jordan, NYC, Dubai, Toronto and 6 or 7 other place in the US. The couple wanted a beach destination. We evaluated where the various guest would be flying from and how many from each so we could determine what destinations would make sense logistically but also meet the dreams of the couple and the families.

The bottom line is, what you want to do can be done but I would not try it DYI. If you want to discuss any other questions or need help please feel free to contact me. If we can’t help I am sure I can find you someone like us that specializes in destination weddings.

We have good friends who just happen to sing and take pictures. So in addition to inviting them to our wedding, we’ve asked them to be a part of it as well. My fiance is in a band and we’ve invited all the band members to attend our destination wedding. However, we’ve asked a couple of the guys to sing a couple songs and play guitar. In addition, I have a friend who is a photographer. She took my son’s senior pictures as well and I’ve worked with her for years. I’m not sure what is appropriate to pay for? All three people are bringing their entire families to the wedding. I don’t want to seem cheap but at the same time, we cannot pay for their family vacations either. They’re traveling about 300 miles and will be staying two nights. We absolutely do not expect to have them sing/take our pictures for free. I’m just not sure what exactly to pay for beyond the regular fees.

Please help me by responding to my question. I’m really torn about this and I want to do the right thing!

The bride and groom are not typically expected to pay for their guest’s travel expenses. But if you were to hire a photographer and musicians they will typically charge you for their travel fees in addition to their professional fee. Obviously, your good friends are straddling the line between guest and vendor so I understand your dilemma. You asked them to perform/photograph your wedding so I would say that it’s good etiquette (and good for your friendship) for you to cover the cost of their travel (or at least offer). That being said, I don’t think anyone would expect you to pay for their family’s travel.

Hi Cynthia! Thanks for getting back to me! I have a complicated situation…ugggh! Would it be fair to pay for “their portion” of the cabin charge plus give them a gas card? They’re all driving. The one friend singing has reserved a four bedroom cabin…. large enough for his wife, two boys, his parents and his brother and his brother’s wife. So his part (if he came alone) would be considerably less than the total fee. We are providing a very nice luncheon, dinner and breakfast the following morning. We’ve also rented boats for everyone’s use! I appreciate your advice! Deanna:)

I think that what you’re offering them is more than fair.

I am having an intimate wedding ceremony in Yosemite National Park with only immediate family invited because of the location. We have decided that we would have a local/home wedding reception with the rest of our family and friends at a later date. Is it bad etiquette to not have a dinner or mini reception immediately following the ceremony since we already have the big reception already planned? We don’t have the budget to do two receptions.

My fiancé and I are wanting to be married in Mexico. I have read where you have to be divorced for one year. Is there a resort in Mexico that does not require a one year wait? If so which one)

Shonda, this is a great question. First let me explain that there really are two type of destination weddings. First you have a legal wedding where you actually go to the destination and get legally married. Depending upon the destination you choose there are various requirements, one of which has to deal with divorce. Those are government marriage requirements and not dictated by the resort. The other type of wedding is called a Symbolic wedding. This is actually what most of our people including our clients do. I think last year we actually only had 1 legal wedding. For the symbolic wedding you would actually get legally married at home at your minister, local judge or other governmental location. Then you come to the resort and you have a ceremony which to everyone seems that you are actually getting married in front of them. You can have a local person marry you or you can even have a friend act as the officiant. I am now in Cabo and we had a wedding yesterday and the sister of the bride performed the ceremony and it was beautiful. Let me know if you have any other questions or we can be of any help in planning a destination wedding for you.

Cynthia – thanks for the feedback! We are all on the same page 🙂

We are getting married in Tennessee June 9, 2018. We have a general idea of how many will be able to attend our destination wedding, but we’d really like to get a more accurate number. Do you have any suggestions on wording for the “save the dates” that maybe gets people to rsvp even though its not the actual formal wedding invitation? Or is that an epic etiquette no no?

Our daughter will be married in Greece this summer and we have close older relatives and friends who we are certain that due to age and finances will not be able to attend. They will, however, be sent an invitation. Question is:

1) Along with the invitation, should the bride and groom write a note to say something like “Beause you are close to our heart, we wanted to share our wedding invitation with you” and not send RSVP card? However, we don’t want to run risk of insulting anyone by bringing to their attention that “we” think they won’t be able to come Or……..

2) Send invitation and RSVP card and no note? . Or………….

3) Send invitation and RSVP (no note) and also call to give a heads up that the wedding will take place in Greece? ( The printer left off “Greece” in the location part of the invitation so it is not clear that the location is out of the U.S.)

Appreciate your advise.

I definitely think that #1 can come off as a little insulting. Plus you’d be surprised at how many times I’ve heard destination couples incorrectly assume that someone won’t come to their wedding.

I would go with option number 3. 🙂

Best of luck!

We are planning our destination wedding for next march in Mexico. Both my fiancé and I have large families and we already know most people won’t be attending. We are trying to decide which is better/more proper for our friends and family that can’t make it to the wedding. A “send off party” or a reception when we get back. We would only be inviting those who we invite to the wedding that can’t make it. What are your suggestions? Thanks!!

This is totally your call…there really isn’t a “right” call here. A send off party can be fun but it’s just one more thing for you to plan before your destination wedding and can put more stress on you. If you have time and don’t mind the extra planning before the wedding, then go for it. Otherwise, a “post-destination wedding reception” is pretty common. Some couples have a full blow reception back home or a simple brunch or backyard BBQ after the destination wedding. You can get really creative with it. 🙂

Hi Cynthia and Jack,

I am scheduled to have my wedding this June in La Romana, DR. The resort I’m working with was fantastic when I went for the site visit, but now they are horrible in answering all my inquiries. All the perks they promised are not being honored. I don’t even see the incentive in having my wedding there anymore. Since most of my guests have booked their rooms, I was seriously considering having my ceremony and reception somewhere else near by the resort. Where can I turn to to make this happen? Yes I’m that crazy. Lol.

Carol, I am very sorry to hear this. It sounds like that you are dealing directly with the resort and did not work with an experience travel agent that specialized in destination weddings. When we work with clients we make sure that we have all the perks the various vendors are providing outlined in the contract. Unfortunately it does not sound like the resort provided that to you. I have many ideas on how you might overcome some of the issues you are having. If you would like my thoughts please feel free to call me at 215-454-2080 and we can discuss and I can see how i might be able to help as without understanding the full situation anything I would write here could be incorrect. Please note that I am not soliciting any business from you but just trying to see if I can help you through the situation.

Thank you Jack!!! I will definitely contact you.

my daughter is having a destination wedding, what do we write in the letter with save the date card we need to tell the guests all the info they need for the weekend and resot and travel agent.. . .

We are in the planning process of my daughter’s destination wedding in Carmel, CA this upcoming September. The goal was to have a small , immediate family, somewhat private wedding. It’s only been a month of planning so invites are next on my list. We are paying for hotel rooms for immediate family and grooms family, plane tickets, small reception in town after, etc.. I am so confused on how to handle the invites. Is it an invitation, save the date, or an announcement? I have not sent out invites and my sister already let us know she is going with her family (6 +) and paying their own hotel/flight . Many family members cant afford most likely or I can’t see coming yet I don’t want to have an uncertain amount/and expenses. How do I keep numbers down yet not hurt feelings?

Here’s a link to a post that should help you. It has info on when to send save the dates and invitations. It also has some tips on when you should request RSVP’s so that you can get a better idea of headcount (so you can plan and manage your budget): https://destinationweddingdetails.com/send-destination-wedding-invitations.html

Hope that helps!

Hi, I am planning my wedding in mexico for next year. I have been in touch with my wedding coordinator and have a site inspection booked for this upcoming may. I am not sure what we will be doing during the site inspection? And what are the questions and information I should be inquiring about? I have been to Riu Palace Peninsula before and love the resort so not worried that I will not like it for my wedding. Thank you for your help

Sight inspections are a great idea. We suggest them to all of our clients but most actually don’t do them. They tend to trust our suggestions on resorts. A few times a year I actually organize a group site inspection for clients that are thinking of having a wedding in a given location. We visit the resorts that they are interested in plus a few others. I also meet clients and families to take them as you see different things then if you are there by yourself with the planner at the resort. As I mentioned sight inspections are a great idea. A few things I tell clients to look for or point out.

1. Look at the various venues for ceremonies as well as your events. 2. Ask them to show you plan b locations just in case of a weather issue. 3. Sit and talk with the planners at the resort and learn about their packages and their flexibility. Make sure they will customize to what you want versus what they want you to have. Many resorts are not as flexible as we would like and for that reason we tend not to suggest. 4. Ask to taste the food that they will serve at your events. 5. Understand their policies when it comes to outside vendors. 6. Eat at a few of their restaurants. Confirm if they require wristbands for guest. Confirm if they limit the ala carte restaurants your guests can eat at during the stay or if they need reservations upon check in. 7. Meet their inhouse entertainment and photography teams. Make sure they will do what you want and the prices are something you feel is fair. 8. Ask if the planner you start to work with will be who will be with you that day. 9. Ask how many other weddings are that day if there are many where they are related to yours. 10 Look at the brands of beverages at the bars and make sure you feel these are what your guests are used to and that they are not serving brands that no one knows in flimsy plastic cups. 11. Just get a good feel for the team. Just because a resort is good for a 5 night vacation does not mean it is good to host a destination wedding for your special day.

If you have a travel agency that you are working with already see if they have contacts or experience at the resort as they can help you even before you arrive.

I hope that helps and I applaud you for taking the time to do the sight inspection. Have a great trip and if you need any other help please feel free to contact me.

Needing some help. We are planning a family only ceremony, very small. However, I have had a lot of friends and family that know about the wedding asking how they can support and celebrate with us. We came up with a shower across the miles idea. The shower invitations have a recipe card included so they can fill out a favorite recipe and return. Then at the bottom we include are link to the registry. I know that it is not appropriate to send shower invitations to people who are not invited to the wedding. However, this is the only way I can find to include family and friends who are special to us and allow them to give a gift or not? Is this wrong? Or not a good idea? If you would suggest against it, do you have a better idea?

While I love the idea of a “shower across the miles” and the recipe card, I don’t think it should include a link to your registry. Usually when someone receives a shower invite and not an invitation to the wedding, the perception (right or wrong) is that the couple is fishing for gifts. Maybe you can just keep it to the recipe card or turn the recipe card into something like the “recipe to a good marriage” where they give you advice and well wishes.

Another popular trend with destination wedding couples is to have an “at home reception” after the destination wedding. It can be a reception/brunch/backyard bbq (or something along those lines) to celebrate with those who couldn’t travel. Good luck!

What is the etiquette to cancel a destination wedding? All of our guests have already paid the deposit, which is non refundable, and I have guests going from other countries who have already paid for it in full. We feel so bad for everyone losing their money by canceling that we are actually considering going through a fake wedding just so people won’t lose their money. What do you think? The wedding is the first week of June 2017.

Over the past few years I have had to work with a few clients to answer this question. I don’t think there is any perfect answer. Please consult with the travel professional you worked with arrange the trip. Here are some thoughts.

1. Review your contract with the resort and determine if there is a reduction clause that you can use to minimize the penalties to you and your guests.

2. If there are any guests that have purchased trip cancellation insurance they should use that.

3. If the wedding is in June then some of the guests that have paid in full might be able to get some of their money back. This depends upon the group contract you have.

4. In past I have had clients(the family or bride/groom) reimburse everyone that was going to attend that paid.

5. Depending upon the circumstances of the cancellation we have had a group of guests still travel. In one case we were able to negotiate with the resort for our client to allow name changes.

Hope this is helpful. Jack

We are planning my daughter’s destination wedding for next Spring in Negril, Jamaica. We struggling with picking a date taking weather and crowds into consideration. We’re trying to choose between mid March, early April or early May. Any thoughts?

That is a great question. My experience is that mid March through May is a great time to be in Negril. You can never beat the sunsets and vibe of Negril. I would say from an expense side that March is also going to be more expensive than April and May. It is also important to pick the right resort. As you might know there are many smaller resorts in Negril that won’t have venues in case of rain or as we call it “Plan B”. There are a few nicer medium size resorts that have many nice venues. If you need any help selecting a resort or managing the wedding please feel free to contact me. Jack

Hi there! I am planning on renting out complexes that sit next to each other on the beach. We would like to offer up the houses to family and friends and would love for people to be able to communicate with one another in case they want to rent a house together. The houses are all 3 bedrooms so if two or three couples want to pair up I would like for them to have a way to speak to one another. My question is… are there wedding websites that allow for guests to chat with each other?

Hi Colleen,

Appy is a wedding website and app that allows guests to chat with each other. Here’s a link to their website: http://www.appycouple.com/

Hope this helps:)

My wife and I are going to a destination wedding in October. I understand that you generally do not give a gift since your gift was incurring the expenses of going to the wedding. My issue is that the Bride and Groom are paying for all invitees rooms for two nights. What would proper etiquette?

I’m wondering what a proper gift etiquette would be?

Hi Rob. This is an interesting one. I attend several of our client’s weddings and as far as I can see most people are giving gifts, but the majority of times the guests are paying for their stay and travel expenses. That is actually one of the first questions we ask the client. Enjoy your stay at the wedding. Jack

Hi Rob –

Has the couple (or their parents/bridal party) said anything about gifts? When I had my destination wedding, I let it be known that I didn’t want or expect gifts. I wrote something in the invitations that said “Your presence is the only gift we wish to receive”. I also spread the word via my parents. Despite our request, a few guests still gave us gifts anyway but it totally wasn’t something we were expecting at all but were very grateful for. We got a few cards with cash in them. One family member surprised me with a gift card to one of the salons at the resort. Someone else gave me and my hubby a couple’s spa treatment at the resort. We thought those were thoughtful gifts and we were very grateful because we weren’t expecting anything.

I’ve been to many destination weddings where the couple has specifically requested “no gifts” and for the most part, I’ve obliged. I’ve also been to destination weddings where they haven’t mentioned anything about gifts, in which case I’ve given them card with cash but probably a little less than I would’ve given for a traditional wedding. Whatever you do, I would stay clear of bringing a gift to the destination that the couple will have to travel back home with. 🙂

I’m having a destination wedding in January 2018 in Riviera Maya. One of my best friends is a teacher and will have a hard time getting off work to begin with, but if she is allowed the time off, she said a couple days will be days she will simply not be paid for (she has no paid time off benefits). She said she will lose roughly 600-700 dollars for that paycheck along with paying the actual cost of the flights and accommodations. We looked at getting married and having the majority of the wedding trip on her time off for school break. But of course those times are prime traveling times and our entire all inclusive trip would be at least a 1000 dollars more a person because of that, and we will have 40+ other guests. My fiancé and I will be paying for the expected costs involved with a destination wedding.. such as a welcome party, and the actual ceremony and reception, plus our own travel and accommodation costs. Is there any etiquette for a situation like this? Should I be offering to pay for any of her costs?

Katie –

This is a tough one as there is no perfect answer. We have been helping clients plan their destination weddings for over 20 years and periodically we run into situations similar to this. In some cases, I have seen the host pay a portion or the full cost. Other times we request a shorter stay for the guests. The other thing is that when we work with the client to pick the resort, we try to find resorts that will provide free ceremonies and receptions as well as provide free rooms and room credits. Those perks could ultimately help when these unique situations arise.

Hi Katie! I had a similar situation with my one of my best friends when I was planning my destination wedding. I was getting some free room credits from my resort because I had a large group, so I passed those free nights on to her and I payed for her flight, because I could afford it at the time. As Jack said, there’s no perfect answer and only you know if you can afford it and want to take on that expense. Only you can answer that. It’s not necessary or expected to pay for anyone’s travel expenses when you’re having a destination wedding. But for me, it came down to how much I wanted my friend to be there with me, how difficult I knew her financial situation was, and the fact that I had plenty of money to cover her costs. It’s a personal decision.

Hi, I’m going to be getting married in the Dominican Republic in June. I was planning on using 350ml Ron Barcelo as party favors, but I don’t think I’m allowed to purchase them in the duty free store upon my arrival. Any recommendations where I can get this item at a reasonable rate? I don’t want to ask the resort.

There are a few options. You can ask the wedding planner to help with this. You can also just go to a local supermarket or bodega close to the resort. Another idea that works many times is to talk with one of the bellman at the resort and see if they can help directly or get you a taxi to help on the mission. You also need to check with the resort if they permit gift bags and/or if they charge to deliver them. It is also important to remind your guest that if they want to take the gift home they should remember to pack them in their luggage as they can’t take them in their carry on.

Hi Carol – In addition to all of Jack’s great suggestions, you might also want to check out this site: http://www.dominicanfavors.com

They’re not really an online store, but you can order online and pay for it when you arrive in DR. I’m pretty sure they have 350 ml Barcelo bottles.

Hi Cynthia, Thank you so much for the reference. I tried their website, but almost all their items are not available. Did they go out of business?

Hey Carol –

I’m not sure, but if you check out their Facebook page, you’ll notice they’ve posted and have commented as recently as February. Maybe something’s wrong with their site. If I were you, I’d call or email them. Jack also had some great suggestions about picking up those items at local stores or markets in DR. I don’t think you’ll have a problem finding barcelo bottles out there. 🙂 I’ve seen them all over the place when I’ve visited.

Destination wedding, is it customary to EXPECT the wedding party to pay for the travel expenses to be in the wedding at a remote location other than the local venues.

Air fare, hotel, rental car, attire, burn week vacation time? This is an exorbitant expense to expect

Rhonda this is a great question. The majority of times, the couple does not pay for those items. If you pick the right resort or destination, then the guests will look at this as a vacation and not an obligation. Sometimes we see the host pay for some of their guests travel expenses. Other times we see the hosts subsidize some of the guests cost. If you plan far enough in advance the guest can make monthly payments to the trip. As we work with clients we learn more about the guests and their budgets so we can find the perfect destination at a price most people can afford.

The only time we could schedule our wedding for was 2pm. The reception is not not until 6pm. We will probably do a cocktail hour and I know that taking pictures will take up time, but what suggestions do you have for things to do with our guests in that time frame to still make the day special and not have them just waiting around?

Chaey. Those are great times. Depending upon the resort, there are many things you can do. In the past we have organized a cooking class or a tequila tasting. We have also done a massage class or even a spa afternoon for a group. We recently had the same situation and we did a shopping trip to a jewelry factory and a bike ride. We have a wedding in the near future with similar times and we are doing a mixology party. Have fun and enjoy your special day.

I look forward to answering any questions you might have about planning your destination wedding. jack

Hi Jack, I hope you can help me with some clarity on proper etiquettes for my daughter’s destination wedding. Do we still do a Bridal Shower, Jack & Jill party and engagement party if we are doing a destination wedding? My thought is no because of the cost of doing a destination wedding that everyone will be absorbing. Looking forward to hearing back from you, Susan

Susan thanks for the question. My experience is that most of our clients still have showers and other events at home. That way those that are not attending the destination wedding can still celebrate with the family. Sometime we work with our clients to organize a shower brunch at the wedding destination. We also have been helping clients plan bachelor or bachelorette trips prior to the wedding or even during the destination wedding. As an example, right now I am in Mexico at a client’s wedding and tomorrow we have organized a bachelor party zip line trip and a night at a club for the women. Each client we work with seeks a different experience and we try to customize to provide everyone attending a memorable trip.

My fiancee and I are planning our wedding in Mexico early April 2018. We want to send out save the dates and invitations ASAP so our guests can start to save. The problem is we are still looking for quotes and quotes depend on the number of guests. However we won’t know the number of guests until we send out invites. But people can’t rsvp if they don’t know how much it is. Can you offer some suggestions? I feel like I’m going in circles.

Congrats on planning your wedding in Mexico. There are many great resorts to work with there. You indicated that you are still looking at quotes. Are you dealing directly with the resorts? it is important to not only look at the prices they are providing but also any perks they may offer. The most important thing is to work with someone that has experience with resorts that you are looking at. When you are looking at quotes there are really two things. First is the quote for the rooms and the other is the quote for the events and ceremonies. As you have found most resorts have different prices for different packages and are based upon the number of people attending. The way we typically work is to request proposals from the resorts based upon a number you feel comfortable will attend. Within the proposal we also ask for a reduction and escalation clause. This will give us the ability add rooms/guests or reduce rooms and guests and still have the price stay the same for the stay. So this will solve the problem of price changes for the guest stay and budget. The only variable could be the flights.

We deal with the problem of estimating guest counts all the time. Here is a simple formula that I have used over the past years that has proven to be pretty close with most clients. Make a big list of everyone you are going to invite. Then take everyone you know needs to attend such as family, the two of you and anyone else that you know 99% will attend. Then look at the rest of the list. Based upon my experience 30% of those people will actually provide a deposit when it is due. So now just add the 99% to the 30% and you will have a good estimate of the number of people that will attend. The other important thing about this number is it then helps you select a resort. As an example if you think you will only have 20 people attend you might not want to book a 1000 room mega resorts. Or if you think you are going to have 100 people you probably don’t want to book a 200 room resort.

What we do is create a brochure ASAP to be sent with the save the date. This has all the info and the prices so people can plan. It also gives them the dates for deposits. It makes it very easy for everyone and gets people excited.

Enjoy the planning process. If you need any help or have questions about the resorts, planners at the resorts or anything else please feel free to contact me.

Hello Jack,

My fiancé and I are looking at weddings in Mexico. It isn’t an all inclusive resort and we are looking at renting a villa to have the wedding ceremony and reception and that fits all of our 22 guest for the 4 day stay. The problem is that the villa is quite expensive. So my question is if it is ok to divide the cost of the bills for the 4 days with our guest and we just pay for the wedding expensives?

Destination Wedding Etiquette for Guests (Your FAQs – Answered!)

Have you been invited as a guest at a destination wedding? Looking for the right guest etiquette when it comes to joining the happy couple on their big day?

There is a lot of information out there on the web, and quite frankly, I’ve seen a lot of poor advice online when it comes to guest etiquette at destination weddings .

I can assure you this is not one of those posts. 😂

As someone who has been on both sides of the destination wedding spectrum, I can attest that being a guest at a destination wedding is almost as stressful (if not more stressful!) than being the actual bride!

I have been a part of destination weddings for over 7 years and have helped over 7000 brides plan their day. And let me assure you, I have heard it all.

I completely understand that you, the guest, will have questions. This is especially understandable if you’ve never been to a destination wedding before, or if you don’t travel much!

This post contains affiliate links which means I earn compensation when you click on the links at absolutely no extra cost to you! Feel free to read my disclosure policy . Thank you for supporting my blog!

I hope this blog will help clear up some of your questions and it becomes a reference manual if you have general questions when it comes to attending the couple’s destination wedding.

Why am I writing this? As someone who got married in Mexico, we were questioned daily about certain things, and after a while it can become exhausting. I can also say that as a first-time destination wedding guest this summer, I had a whole slew of questions I wanted to ask.

Remember – the couple is not only planning their wedding, but they’re also preparing to travel as well – they have a lot on their plate!

If you can find the answers to some of your questions here (or elsewhere online), you can free up some of their time when they have a million and one things on the go leading up to the big day.

If you find that some of your questions aren’t answered here, please contact me or drop a comment below and I will get back to you!

Destination weddings are not free! This is one of the biggest misconceptions many guests think when they’re invited to one.

Ps. This post is geared towards destination weddings in Mexico and the Caribbean, though most of these same questions apply!

Pps. If you’re a destination wedding bride reading this, send this to your guests!

Destination Wedding Guest Etiquette

Here’s a compilation of frequently asked guest questions when it comes to destination weddings.

These responses are based on my personal experience of being a part of destination wedding planning groups for the past 7+ years! That being said, each bride/groom/wedding couple is different!

When in doubt, clarify any questions that can’t be answered with a quick Google or Facebook group search with your wedding couple to avoid any miscommunication!

Destination Wedding Guest Travel Questions

Can i book through a different travel agent/outside your room block.

When a wedding couple invites you to their wedding, they will provide booking details. It’s expected that you would book through their travel agent for a few reasons.

It’s easy for you to book through their agent. They have all the wedding details, plus a room block with rates for you set up and ready to go!
It helps the wedding couple keep track of who is attending their wedding, who is booked, or who still needs to book.
It helps the bride and groom secure wedding perks to help them with their wedding (not always, but most of the time there are special incentives for the couple if a certain amount of room nights are booked).

If you find a cheaper rate, ask the travel agent if they’ll price-match it.

Room blocks are set up for the wedding couple to ensure there is enough availability for their guests.

It also helps them obtain any wedding perks like a free wedding event, money back, etc. You don’t see any of the behind-the-scenes with that sort of thing, and while you aren’t obligated to help them save money, it makes a huge difference to them.

Destination weddings can add up big time, and sometimes even cost as much as having a wedding back home! Part of the reason why many couples opt for a destination wedding is to save some money. Booking within a room block can help them save even more!

Can I bring friends to a destination wedding?

If you’re attending the destination wedding solo, you should clarify with the wedding couple first if you are able to bring a friend.

Your invitation is addressed to you, so it would be assumed you would be attending solo if you do not have a partner.

It makes sense that you’d want to spend your vacation with someone you know, and it will also lessen the cost, since a single supplement will apply.

You should keep in mind that if you are able to bring your friend, they may not be invited to any of the wedding activities . This can also be clarified by the wedding couple. Just don’t be offended if they say no!

Can I bring my kids to a destination wedding?

On your invitation you receive from the wedding couple, it should specify whether or not children are welcome. Your invitation should also be addressed to everyone in your family, if all family members are welcome.

If it is only addressed to you and your spouse, you should clarify with the wedding couple prior to booking any rooms, especially if it’s at a family-friendly resort.

If the resort is an adults-only resort, then no, you cannot bring kids .

These adults-only resorts have a minimum age of 16-18 years old to be able to be on the property.

I’ve seen brides post about guests asking if they can bring their baby to their wedding, especially if the property is a sister-property (like El Dorado Casitas Royale and Generations Riviera Maya) that are side-by-side.

You cannot bring a baby/toddler/child to an adults-only resort, even if it is only for the ceremony.

Can we stay somewhere else?

I would beg you not to.

Part of the fun of a destination wedding is having everyone together!

I fully understand that it’s also your vacation. If you really have your heart set on staying somewhere else, try to compromise and stay a few days at the couple’s wedding resort to be there for all of the wedding events before moving on to your chosen location.

Keep in mind, if you stay at a different resort, not only will you have to pay for transportation there and back, but also a day pass for the wedding resort.

The wedding couple is not obligated to pay for your passes .

These can range anywhere from $45-$150 USD per person. It adds up, especially if there are wedding events spaced over a couple of days!

So if you’re planning to stay elsewhere to save money, there are definitely hidden costs to be aware of.

Can I just show up and surprise the wedding couple?

There is only one answer for this: no .

There is a lot that goes into planning a destination wedding, and if the bride is anything like I was (and so many more that I know!), any last minute surprise like that won’t be a good one.

Destination weddings aren’t free.

Packages are set to include a certain number of guests.

If you show up unannounced, it not only causes the wedding planner to scramble to rearrange seating, coordinate meals, etc, but also you’ll be incurring an additional cost to the bride, not to mention the shock of showing up at the last minute.

I say this in the nicest way possible: make sure you RSVP. If you don’t it’ll be assumed you aren’t attending. Please do not show up without RSVPing!

Is it safe to travel to Mexico/Jamaica/Dominican Republic, etc?

Yes! You will either be on-resort or on an excursion. You will be completely safe.

The media likes to play up the safety factor exponentially, but where you are travelling to is no more dangerous than where you live at home.

I wouldn’t recommend walking the streets downtown at night by yourself, but I highly doubt that 1) you would do that at home and 2) you would be doing that during your stay!

As always, be smart. If you do go off-resort on your own, keep your personal belongings on you at all times, go with another person, and take reputable transportation wherever you’re headed.

Do I have to pay for drinks/meals/activities?

If it’s an all-inclusive resort, literally everything is included. That’s part of the reason why I love all-inclusives, and part of the reason why it’s such a great option for destination wedding brides and guests.

With the exception of private dining, separate wine list, an upgraded menu, spa services, etc., everything is included in the price you pay!

This includes drinks, all meals, activities, evening entertainment, room service (most resorts do not charge, but I have stayed at one that did, and it was not good business practice!), room service, tips (more on this later!) , and anything else you can think of!

While tips are included, you’ll find that the norm is to tip the staff who work so hard to give you an amazing experience!

Is there a shuttle from the airport to the resort?

Depending on how you booked your trip, you may need to arrange for transportation separately. Your wedding couple may have something set up for you. It’s best to check with their travel agent.

Canadian travellers: all-inclusive packages include transportation! Unless otherwise specified, your package includes flights, transfers, and the resort stay.

This is of course unless the bride and groom arrange private transfers from the airport to the resort. This will be outlined by the travel agent.

What should I pack for an all-inclusive resort?

Packing for an all-inclusive resort is actually much easier than you think!

If you’re wondering what to pack for an all-inclusive vacation , I have a whole separate guide on what you should (and shouldn’t!) be bringing. I also include a printable checklist to help you out!

I manage most of my trips in a carry-on bag only, so if I can do it, so can you!

This is especially helpful if you have connecting flights, if you don’t want to wait for luggage, or if you’re worried about losing your bags.

That’s one of my biggest fears, which is why I only ever travel with a carry-on !

Destination Wedding FAQs for Guests

The wedding couple may have provided you with information and resources for their destination wedding.

Many brides send out invitations with pertinent information, digital invitations with links to references, or create Facebook groups for keeping guests up-to-date.

What is expected of me during the wedding trip?

The bride and groom understand that this is also your trip that you paid for and took time off work for.

They don’t expect you to be around them 24/7. At the recent destination wedding I attended at Excellence El Carmen in Punta Cana , the bride had arranged a few activities for guests to join in on. Otherwise, the time was yours to spend as you wished!

Want to lounge on the beach or by the pool? Up for playing some games or taking an art class? Working out or spending time at the spa? The world is your oyster!

You’re expected to attend the wedding and reception plus any other events they have going on (unless it’s stated as optional), but otherwise you can do whatever you like! All-inclusive resorts offer so. many. activities. You will never be bored, I promise!

What is the wedding dress code?

The wedding dress code at destination weddings is one thing I would say to get specific details on.

Everyone interprets dress code differently. Most brides opt for beach casual or beach chic, but that could mean a million things to different people.

Some will say long pants or shorts for men and a collared shirt, and a dress for women, but it’s entirely up to their discretion.

Just a note to ladies – don’t wear all white (unless the bride says it’s ok!).

I ran into a snag at the destination wedding I was at.

The bride said beach colours like greens, blues, pinks, corals, etc. It wasn’t until the day of the wedding she meant solid colours and no patterns. Oooops. And guess what I brought for the wedding?

I panicked all day long and overthought my dress. It was a gorgeous long white and green off-shoulder dress that I changed at the last minute for something else. And then I saw others wearing patterns and white dresses!

I would highly, highly suggest running your outfit by the wedding couple to avoid any faux-pas. Each wedding (mostly the bride, haha!) is different, and their interpretations about what is acceptable/suitabe is different.

Do I bring a gift to a destination wedding?

From the perspective of a bride, I would say that 95% do not have a registry and would actually say no gifts. Your presence is gift enough! You, as the guest, have already spent money to attend the wedding. It can’t be expected that you would also give a gift.

This should be outlined in their wedding details, but you can always check with them tactfully to see if there is a registry. That will give them the option to let you know if they do, or if gifts aren’t required.

What is nice though, is to give a card on their wedding day for the couple to look back on. It’s nice to have those memories.

What is the resort dress code at an all-inclusive resort?

Most resorts list their dress code on their website.

The wedding couple may also provide this information for you. In general, all-inclusive resorts I’ve been to have required men to be in long pants and closed-toed shoes as well as a collared shirt.

Women are free to wear capris or dresses with sandals (just no flip flops!).

You’re free to wear whatever you like during the day! It’s not recommended to show up up in wet bathing suits if it’s an indoor restaurant for breakfast or lunch, and remember to wear a coverup everywhere else.

Luckily for us women, cover ups are tiny and you can bring a variety with you to change up your look!

What is there to do at an all-inclusive resort?

There is always so much going on at an all-inclusive resort. From sports to organised games, evening entertainment to spa packages, I promise you will not get through everything there is on offer!

I always try to take part in a few games or classes while I’m there to try something new. Whether it’s a language class, painting, trapeze yoga (yes, it’s hilarious!), mixology, etc., there’s always something fun to pick from!

You’ll find out what’s available to do with the resort activity boards, through the resort app (if they have one), or turndown letter (if they have one!). You can also check out the resort’s website for details.

What excursions are available?

If you’re wanting a change of scenery, you can always go on an excursion!

You can find suppliers in the resort lobby (or ask where you can find them) and you can take a look through what excursions are available to you.

Excursions last from half a day to a full day and include transportation. It’s a great way to experience life off-resort and immerse yourself in some of the best activities your location has to offer!

Related : Fun Excursions in Cancun and Riviera Maya to do on your next trip!

How much should I tip at an all-inclusive resort?

While tipping is included at all-inclusive resorts, I think you’ll soon find that you’ll want to tip. The staff at these resorts work so hard to provide you with a great experience.

I’ve made a point to chat with staff one-on-one to learn what their lives are about. They deserve every dollar that comes their way.

Tipping is actually one of my favourite things to do. If we can afford to travel, we can certainly afford to tip. It doesn’t have to be much, but it shows your token of appreciation!

This is what we tip at all-inclusive resorts, as well as the usual norm for travellers. Don’t feel obligated to tip these amounts, either!

Drinks: $1-$2/drink
Breakfast: $2-$5/couple
Lunch: $5/couple
Dinner: $5-$15/couple
Housekeeping: $3-$5/day
Turndown service: $3-$5/day
Mini fridge attendant: $2-$3/day
Spa services: 20% of services

I split tips into envelopes to help keep them organized. A little goes a long way. 🙂

Can I take photos during the wedding?

Most guests would want to take photos of the wedding they’re attending. And most brides would want their guests to cover their wedding. That’s only natural!

However, enthusiastic guests can sometimes impede the efforts of hired professional photographers and can block some important shots!

Because of this, some brides may actually tell you it’s an unplugged wedding . This means they want their guests to enjoy the ceremony and not take any photos.

I know it’s hard to do that, but I also find that being present in the moment is worth it. If you’re seeing the wedding through the eye of the camera, you can lose out on being in the moment.

If this is the case, the wedding couple will let you know beforehand.

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Destination Wedding Planning: 8 Key Questions and Their Answers

Embark on your destination wedding planning with ease and confidence. Our guide '8 Essential Questions and Answers for Your Destination Wedding Planning' offers crucial insights into the most important aspects to consider. From understanding the nuances of budgeting to selecting the perfect locale, this guide simplifies the complexities of planning a wedding abroad. It's your essential companion to ensure your special day is as magical and stress-free as possible. Dive into our Q&A to transform your dream wedding into a beautiful reality.

Planning a destination wedding can be an adventure filled with unique challenges and exciting decisions. To help you navigate these, we've put together '8 Essential Questions and Answers for Your Destination Wedding Planning.' This guide will tackle the most important aspects you need to consider, from budgeting to choosing the right location. We aim to provide clear, helpful answers to the common questions that couples face, making your wedding planning journey smoother and more enjoyable. Let's start this exciting process together, ensuring your big day is as beautiful and memorable as you've dreamed.

#1: Where do I start with planning my destination wedding? Start by creating a Pinterest board to envision your wedding. Then take the time to consider destinations, vacation experiences, and discuss guest expectations. Assess your wedding budget, involve financial contributors in discussions, and gauge guest comfort with spending.

Special Tip: Consider using survey tools like SurveyMonkey or starting a Facebook group to poll guests on if they would be in attendance, preferred stay duration (4 nights, 5 nights etc...), and a comfortable budget range for accommodations.

‍ #2: How far in advance should I start planning my destination wedding? Start planning 8-12 months in advance. Popular destinations book quickly, and allowing ample time helps guests make travel arrangements.

‍ #3: What does a Destination Wedding Travel Agent do for the couple and guests? · Listen to your preferences and guide you to the right destination. · Help choose ceremony and reception locations. · Confirm wedding date and request locations with the wedding team. · Negotiate group room block rates. · Assist guests with travel arrangements, airport transfers, and travel insurance. · Communicate with the resort on your behalf. · Provide a wedding website and online guest list. · Answer guest questions about the destination, resort, and more. · Organize group excursions or activities. · Design your honeymoon.

#4: What does a Destination Wedding Travel Agent not do? We leave wedding planning and design to on-site professionals. Resorts usually have dedicated wedding coordinators who handle all the details, ensuring a perfect day.

#5: How will my guests book their accommodations? Guests will receive a booking link from either your wedding website, invitations, or directly from the agent. The link provides essential hotel and destination information, along with an easy-to-use booking engine for accommodations, transfers, and trip protection.

#6: What happens if it rains on the wedding day? Your on-site wedding coordinator or hired wedding planner will have backup venues incase of inclement weather, ensuring your celebration can proceed seamlessly.

#7 When do I send out Save the Dates? As soon as you confirm and sign your wedding and room block contracts with the resort. Giving guests plenty of time to start planning is essential. ‍ #8: Do we, the wedding couple, receive any perks when booking a destination wedding? Yes! All-inclusive resorts offer perks based on the number of room nights booked. Perks may include free room upgrades, free room nights (monetary value refunded), and complimentary wedding events like cocktail hours and receptions. Perks are typically based on a specific number of room nights booked.

Feeling more confident and ready to transform your dream destination wedding into a beautiful reality? Click here for the Destination Wedding Discovery Form to fill out our wedding discovery form and kickstart the journey. We can then schedule a time to connect and delve into the dreamy details of your special day.

Still not sure if a destination wedding is the right fit for you? No worries! I’m here to guide you through the possibilities. If you have any additional questions or need personalized guidance, feel free to reach out at any time.

Cheers to crafting a celebration that reflects the uniqueness of your love story! Warm Regards, Ann Marie Patt Certified Destination Wedding Travel Advisor Romance Travel Specialist DWHSA (Destination Wedding & Honeymoon Specialists Association) Member ASTA (American Society of Travel Advisors) Accredited Travel Advisor

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I’ve Been to 4 Destination Weddings Across the World With Just a Carry-on — Here’s How I Did It

From Maui to Turks and Caicos, these travel essentials covered everything from takeoff to the ceremony, and beyond.

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Over a decade ago, when my husband proposed, I knew instantly I wanted to have a destination wedding. We both came from small families and had a close set of friends, so luckily we were able to pull it off without a hitch and held our dream wedding in Todos Santos, Mexico. I love attending weddings in general, but there’s an extra air of excitement when dashing off to a cool location to be a part of something special.

Since then, we’ve been to four destination weddings and they’ve all been so different from one another. For one, we attended a small ceremony in Turks and Caicos at the beautiful Seven Stars Resort . When my best friend, got married, over 100 guests gathered in California’s wine country to celebrate. On our third destination wedding, we even got to visit a dude ranch, which was quite an adventure. More recently, we watched my cousin say “I do” in Maui — so I’ve had a lot of practice getting my destination wedding packing list to a science, and you should know that I only fly with a carry-on.

Traveling for someone's special day? Here is a list of my absolute must-have clothing, footwear, and gear items, along with the best travel accessories to bring to ensure that everything arrives at your destination smoothly.

Zeagoo Two-piece Linen Set

Linen is an excellent fabric for warm-weather locations because it’s breathable and lightweight. That’s why I brought this two-piece set to Turks and Caicos; it’s made with a linen-cotton blend, so it doesn’t get as wrinkled as 100-percent linen items would. The top is a drapey, button-front shirt with a roll-tab sleeve and two chest pockets, which can easily be worn on its own with a pair of shorts or a skirt. I’ve also used it as a beach cover-up several times. The full-length pants are loose with a comfortable drawstring waistband, making them great for long travel days.

PrettyGarden Elegant Mock-neck Cocktail Maxi Dress

Let me tell you how excited I am that I discovered this dress. It’s made with a silky satin fabric and is super figure-flattering because of the elastic cinch at the waist. The unique asymmetrical shoulder design creates a look of elegance and accentuates the clavicle. It was such a win that, when I wore this to the rehearsal dinner at the swanky Grace’s Cottage restaurant in Turks and Caicos, I got compliments all night. Still super psyched from that destination wedding, I’m eyeing a couple of other colors already; the dress is offered in 32 colors, from small to 2XL.

Everlane A-line Denim Shorts

If you've read my tips on how to pack a carry-on or my favorite three outfits to pack , you already know I’m a huge fan of Everlane and the brand's approach to sustainable fashion and commitment to quality and reasonable prices. I own these shorts in three colors because they fit like a dream. They’re high-rise, which holds you in at all the right places, and they have a 5.5-inch inseam, making them long enough to wear from the beach to a casual lunch. One thing to note about the shorts is that because they’re 100 percent cotton, so they don’t have any stretch. I often paired these with my Current Air Tuscan Citrus Top or this cute pink crop blazer for my friend's wine country wedding.

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Toms Diana Sandals

For beach weddings, practicality and function are key for packing. Many hosts are going to have the ceremony on the sand so everyone can enjoy beautiful ocean views, which means that bringing 4-inch stiletto heels is probably not a good idea. Instead, for the destination weddings I've attended, I've opted to bring wedges, espadrilles, or flats. By far, the almost-sold-out Alissa slides from Journee are my favorite because the platform was only 1.5 inches, making them a comfortable choice for navigating uneven streets and the boardwalk (remember: you’ll have to take into account where you’re visiting because some of the destinations might not have paved streets). These platform sandals from Toms exude the same comfy elegance, and they're on sale for $56.

Furtalk Foldable Sun Straw Hat With UPF 50

This irresistible hat comes in eight colors and is a great purchase for both home and vacation. Made of paper straw with UPF 50+ protection, its wide brim helps to keep the sun out of your eyes. I found this especially useful for walks along the beaches in Turks and Caicos and Maui. It also offered coverage when we went couples' horseback riding at the dude ranch. The interior sweatband wicks away moisture and provides comfort on hot days. It comes in two sizes, so be sure to measure your head and check the size chart accordingly. Foldable and easy to pack, it will sit easily in your luggage or carry-on bag.

Ciormis Sparkly Metallic Pashmina Shawl Wrap

A wrap for chilly nights is a must. This metallic shawl adds a touch of glamor to your outfit for the reception or rehearsal dinner (and comes in handy on chilly flights when you need a blanket). When we were in Maui for my cousin’s wedding at the recently renovated Grand Wailea , I wore this nearly every night and can vouch that it goes with everything. The viscose blend fabric is soft and eco-friendly; you can simply hand wash it in the sink of your hotel room if needed. It is available in 11 colors and, at just $16, you’re going to want more than one.

Smismivo One-piece Halter Swimsuit

Feeling confident in a bathing suit is usually a challenge for most of us. When I was trying to find one to purchase and came upon Smismivo’s one-piece, I couldn’t get over all the positive reviews. I had to try it for myself and I’m so glad I did. The ruched design along the front of the body helps to shape and smooth. Removable pads offer additional support should you need it. Available in a variety of colors, it's a summer travel essential you'll want to put at the top of your packing list. The brand also makes several silhouette-enhancing two-piece suits — like this one , which hugs in all the right places.

Paravel Medium Cabana Tote

One of my most memorable experiences at the Maui wedding was a 2.5-hour snorkel tour my husband and I did with our friends to see magnificent turtles. Of course, I brought my trusty Paravel Cabana Tote , which held everything I needed for the day’s adventure. I love this Oprah-approved bag so much because it’s compact, but fits a lot. Also, it’s stain-repellent with a water-resistant lining and has several pockets for storing essentials. It’s so reliable that I also use it as a weekender bag when heading out on smaller trips. Removable straps allow you to wear it as a tote or crossbody.

Bsubseach Women’s Kaftan Dress

Kaftans are versatile and work well in any situation as a beach cover-up, a dress for dinner, or a casual, just-hanging-out look. I found myself wearing mine on repeat because you can just throw it on and accessorize with a cute bag and a pair of sandals. This Amazon shopper-favorite kaftan is lightweight and comfortable, offered in 20 colors, and is one size fits all.

BB Rhombus Crossbody Purse

I am a huge fan of G’Juan Xavier’s Goddess clutch in pink, so when I spotted a similar version in white, I couldn’t resist. Because I’m a practical shopper, I won’t drop a ton of money on white because I’m afraid it’ll get ruined. The BB Rhombus was still a great score for me and got plenty of use when I traveled for my loved ones' weddings; I was able to use it day and night, freeing up my luggage for other things. The PU leather is water- and scratch-resistant so you don’t have to worry about it when you’re busy having fun. And, it’s super versatile; the sturdy chain strap can be worn two ways: with a long strap as a crossbody or it can be converted to a shorter double strap to wear over your shoulders.

Supergoop Unseen Sunscreen

Before I gave the Supergoop Unseen Sunscreen a try, I hated putting on SPF because every formula seemed to be thick and sticky. Not this one; I love how weightless it feels against my skin. Now I pack it everywhere I go. It’s also scent- and oil-free to keep it from staining your clothing or belongings. Soothing yet effective ingredients like frankincense and meadowfoam seed keep your skin safe from the sun and hydrated, and it helps extend your wedding day glam with its primer-like formula.

PrettyGarden Floral Maxi Wrap Dress With Ruffle Sleeves and Hem

PrettyGarden’s floral wrap dress is perfect for rehearsal dinners because it’s classic and elevated without being too fancy. The ruffled sleeve and hem offer a lighthearted, flirty feel, and the wrap complements any waistline. Available in over 40 colors and prints with a size range from S to 2XL, it also makes for an excellent daytime travel dress because of its easy, bohemian feel.

Madewell Sidewalk Low Top Sneakers

Chances are, if you’re a guest of a destination wedding, there’ll be outdoor activities, so you’ll want to bring a pair of comfortable sneakers — like these from one of my favorite brands: Madewell . These kickers go with everything from denim shorts and midi skirts to casual dresses and pants. I found them invaluable when we were in Calistoga , California’s wine region, for my best friend’s wedding. Between lots of window shopping and wine tasting, we did tons of walking, but I was able to stay comfortable. I like how these have the brand’s Cloudlift insoles, which offer more cushioning for your feet. They also have a little more height than my other sneakers because of the platform outsoles.

Everlane Linen Side-button Jumpsuit

Everlane’s Linen Jumpsuit offers effortless elegance with its relaxed bodice, cute cropped legs, and self-tie belt. The square neckline is very flattering; it can be worn with or without a tank underneath. This was a great piece for all my destination wedding adventures (think: strolls along the beach, wine tasting, casual dinners, and bar hopping with the girls). It comes in five colors, sizes from 00 to 16. If you prefer sleeves, the brand's cross-front jumpsuit is an excellent option.

Petal & Pup Janelle Shirred Eyelet Button-up Top

This gorgeous top pairs well with the Everlane’s denim shorts I mentioned earlier; it also works with the brand’s Ava midi skirt — and basically any bottoms that you have packed in your suitcase. It’s lightweight and made of 100 percent cotton with all-over eyelet designs and delicate shirring across the front of the body. It comes in two colors, pink and cream; if you prefer tank tops, the Tanya Tiered Ruffle Eyelet Tank gives a similar look.

Best Travel Accessories for Destination Weddings

Whether you’re the one getting married, a bridesmaid, or a guest, one thing's for sure: you will want to be as prepared as possible. And since I’ve been to four destination weddings around the world, I’ve got plenty of recommendations on the best travel accessories to pack. Keep scrolling to find out what you need to fill the holes on your packing list.

Conair Portable Hair Dryer , $17
Bagail Compression Cubes , $17 (originally $27)
Misslo 65-inch Barment Bags , $20
Meiyouju Travel-size Sewing Kit , $8
L'Ange Hair 2-in-1 Travel Curling Iron and Flat Iron , $82
Wepikk Travel Cocktail Shaker Mixology Kit , $40
Beautural Portable Steamer , $28 (originally $38)
Momax Universal Travel Adapter , $20
Suez Five-pocket Expandable Document Organizer , $6
Abiudeng Large Double-layer Makeup Bag , $24 (originally $28)
Melsbrinna Passport Holder , $14 (originally $25)
Benevolence LA Plush Velvet Jewelry Box , $17 (originally $26)

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85 questions to ask your wedding destination resort

85 important questions to ask a wedding destination resort.

Is the resort available on the date you need it?
What other events are going on at the venue on the same day/week/weekend?
Is there another private event scheduled for the area you are requesting at a different time during the same day?
How far in advance do you need to book the venue?
What is the weather typically like in the month of your wedding?
What are the local marriage requirements?
Are there any vaccinations required?
Do we need to send any documentation prior to arrival (proof of citizenship, passport, etc.)?
Who is the onsite wedding coordinator?
How many guests can the venue accommodate?
Are there overnight accommodations or do they partner with local hotels?
Does the venue provide a website for your wedding information?
Can they provide references you can contact?
What other types of activities are scheduled at the resort?
Can your package include weekend activities for the guests?
What is the dress code?
Are children allowed on premises?
Can guests drink the water?

Decorations

What do they use for table settings?
What decorations does the venue provide?
What type of flowers do they offer or do they recommend a florist?

Wedding Day Preparations

Do they recommend or offer hair stylists?
Do they recommend or offer make-up artists?
Can the venue accommodate the ceremony?
Are the ceremony and reception held in the same area? If same area, what can be expected for set up and take down to switch over from the ceremony to the reception?
How many days before the wedding do you need to arrive?
What time of the day is the ceremony?
Does the venue provide an officiant or recommend one?
How long are you able to have the area?
Is an outdoor area included for a cocktail reception?
Do they have outdoor covered areas such as canopies or tents in case of rain?
Do they have indoor space available if you need to move people outside to inside?
What does a typical layout of the area look like on the wedding day?
Do they have photographs to show you of other receptions?
What are the seating arrangements?
What are they different ways the venue serves food? Buffet, family style, individual plates?
Do they provide in-house catering? If not, do they have a preferred list of caterers?
What does the venue provide for drinks with the meal?
Can they accommodate special diets?
How many choices can you offer your guests for meals?
How many wait staff will be provided?

Photography

Do they have a photographer or can they recommend one?
Are there any photograph or video restrictions?

Transportation

Does the venue offer airline booking services for your guests?
Do they offer transportation to and from the airport?
Can they provide a wedding cake?
Where/how will the cake be displayed during the reception?

Alcohol/Liquor

Does the venue have a liquor license to serve alcohol?
Does the venue provide the alcohol and bar service?
What drinks are included in the pricing? All-inclusive?
Do they provide a cash bar or an open bar?
Does the venue hire the bartenders and is there a charge per bartender?
Do they charge for unopened bottles after the reception?
Is there a corkage fee?

Music/Dancing

What do they offer for music?
Can you supply our own music or CD?
What do they have for a sound system? Speakers, microphones, etc.?
How many people does the dance floor accommodate?
What time do they allow the music to play until?
What are their wedding packages and what is included?
What is the cost to have both the ceremony and reception at the venue?
What is the total cost and what is required for a deposit?
What are the guest room rates?
Is there a wedding discount for blocks of rooms?
Is there a discount if you decide to stay for your honeymoon?
What is the currency exchange rate?
Do they offer payment plans?
What type of payment can they take – cash, check, credit card?
What it their cancellation policy?
What are the insurance requirements for you and your vendors?
Do the resort rooms have safes to secure valuables?
Is there a secure area to store the wedding gifts?

We hope this list of questions helps guide you in preparing for your big day at a destination of your dreams. But, even with the best planning, there are situations that can occur that are out of your control. That is why we recommend wedding insurance .

Markel offers wedding cancellation insurance, which reimburses you for lost deposits and non-refundable amounts if you have to cancel or postpone your wedding due to unforeseen circumstances like extreme weather (think hurricane or tropical storm) wreaking havoc on your destination wedding location. It can also cover stolen gifts, a wrecked gown, lost wedding rings and more. Coverage can be purchased anytime at least 14 days before your event, and policies start as low as $130 .

In addition, Markel offers wedding liability insurance, protecting you from incidents such as property damage to the venue or injury to a guest. Up to $2 million in wedding liability insurance can be purchased from Markel any time at least 1 day before your event and covers your ceremony and reception, rehearsal and setup/takedown. Policies start as low as $75 .

Dec 3, 2023

Destination I Dos: 5 Destination Wedding Questions to Ask Your Travel Agent

destination wedding couple walking under sparklers

Destination weddings are all about creating memories in breathtaking locations. As a travel professional specializing in making these dreams a reality, I've seen it all—the highs, the lows, and everything in between. Today, let's talk about the crucial destination wedding questions to ask your travel agent before you hire them.

Asking the following five questions before hiring your destination wedding planner will help you find that perfect maestro:

1. What services do you include?

a planner working on various aspects of destination wedding planning

This question may seem basic, but it's the cornerstone of your destination wedding planning journey. Beyond the obvious—venue selection, resort location, travel logistics, and vendor coordination—ensure you discuss finer details. Does the destination wedding travel agent handle legal requirements for your chosen destination? Are they well-versed in local customs? Will they assist with guest travel arrangements? Clarity on services ensures your celebration unfolds seamlessly against the backdrop of your chosen paradise.

2. What is your communication style?

Various Contact Us Methods. White Phone, Email And Post Icons

Effective communication is the key to any successful relationship, including the one you share with your destination wedding planner. Understanding their communication style—whether it's through the laid-back charm of emails, old-school phone calls (gasp!), or the personal touch of video conferences—is crucial. Consider time zones if you're planning a destination wedding in a different country. You want a planner who keeps you in the loop, respects your preferences, and ensures that every decision aligns with your vision.

3. What is your availability?

Destination weddings require meticulous planning, and you want a wedding planner who is as dedicated to your special day as you are. Clarify their availability during the planning process. How often can you expect updates on your wedding in paradise? Knowing your planner's availability ensures that you're not left in the dark and that adjustments can be made promptly if needed.

4. Are you the owner or an employee of the destination wedding travel agency?

a professional planner writing on a notepad

Understanding the organizational structure of your wedding planner's business is essential. Some planners operate independently, while others are part of a travel agency. Knowing this can impact the level of personal attention and flexibility you receive. If they are part of a seasoned crew in a travel agency, inquire about autonomy. This insight helps you gauge the extent of personalization and customization you can expect.

If they are independent, you’ll likely find the service to be more hands-on and personal because the destination wedding specialist has more control over how many couples they work with and thus has more ability to give better overall service.

In addition to these questions for your travel agent, it's crucial to be aware of all the considerations before booking a resort directly for your destination wedding . Our detailed article on this topic provides valuable insights and tips that can help you make informed decisions. Understanding these nuances will ensure that your destination wedding is not only beautiful but also smoothly organized.

5. How many destination weddings do you do per year?

Quality over quantity is a mantra worth remembering when it comes to destination wedding planners. While experience is valuable, you also want to ensure that your planner can devote ample time and attention to your celebration. A planner handling an overwhelming number of weddings may face challenges in providing the personalized touch your event deserves. Strike a balance between experience and dedication to make your wedding truly exceptional.

Bonus Question: Can you show me a portfolio of other weddings you’ve done?

A portfolio is a visual testament to a planner's expertise. It showcases their ability to bring diverse visions to life. Ask to see photos, testimonials, or even videos from previous weddings they've organized. This bonus question provides you with tangible evidence of their skills and allows you to envision your own dream day through their lens.

As you embark on the adventure of planning your destination wedding, remember that these questions aren't just about gathering information; they're about finding a partner who shares your passion for creating an unforgettable celebration. Your dream destination wedding is on the horizon, and with the right planner, it's destined to be a masterpiece of love and joy.

Your journey towards a destination wedding is as unique as your love story. By posing these questions to your potential wedding planner, you're not just seeking answers; you're laying the foundation for a celebration that mirrors your personalities and love.

If you're ready to kickstart your journey, schedule a free 30-minute strategy session with me. Remember, this isn't just any vacation; this is your destination wedding and it has to be perfect!

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Destination Weddings, Honeymoons, & Romantic Getaways

Helping busy couples plan amazing experiences, essential questions to ask when interviewing a destination wedding planner.

destination wedding couple on a white sand beach

Planning a destination wedding can be both exciting and overwhelming all at once. To ensure that your special day goes off without a hitch, it's crucial to find a skilled and experienced destination wedding planner who understands your vision and can handle the unique challenges of organizing your dream wedding in a far off destination.

When interviewing potential destination wedding planners, there are several key questions to ask depending on what is important to you both:

How many destination weddings have you actually planned?

How many weddings do you typically plan per year?

How long have you been planning destination weddings?

Have you personally visited any of the destinations we are planning for?

How many resorts have you personally visited?

Are you an actual travel agent, a wedding planner, or can you do both?

Is anyone on your team a certified wedding planner if we need one?

Do you only recommend certain resort brands? Or are all options on the table?

Do you have relationships with the resort's wedding department or management in case we encounter any issues?

Is destination wedding planning or travel your full-time job, or do you have another profession?

Do you offer 24/7 availability while traveling and what are your normal working hours?

If you fall ill, do you have a team or someone that can assist?

How easy will it be to get in touch with you throughout the planning process and what are your hours?

How familiar are you with the legal requirements and marriage laws in our chosen destination?

How familiar are you with (multicultural, multi-faith, religious, LGBTQ+, etc) ceremonies?

Do you work with a tour operator or wholesaler when securing a room block, or do you go directly to the resort for rates? and Why?

Can you explain the benefits of a contracted room block vs a flexible group and how do you know which is right for my group?

Will you assist with both the travel arrangements and the various components of the wedding itself? If not, who should I go to if I have a question?

Will you be able to help me with budgeting, wedding colors, and wedding questions?

Can you provide recommendations for outside vendors and services in the destination area?

Do you offer a wedding website, or will I need to create my own? What about a way to track RSVP's?

How and when will my guests receive their final documents?

Do you provide anything additional to my guests besides hotel confirmations?

Does your agency book flights, and why or why not?

Do you include transportation services in the rates, and is this transportation shared with other members of the public or private?

Do you offer travel insurance for our guests?

Do you offer payment plans for our guests?

Do you have an easy way for guests to make their payments?

Do you offer any special perks above and beyond what the resort already provides?

Do you charge additional fees to help us plan our honeymoon or a pre-wedding site visit?

What is your approach to handling unexpected challenges or issues that may arise during the planning process?

Do you offer any additional services, such as organizing pre-wedding events or activities for guests or onsite wedding management?

Who will assist us during the actual wedding planning process?

Do you charge a fee, and if not, why not?

What is your fee structure and what is included in your services?

How are you different from other Destination Wedding Planners?

Can you provide references or testimonials from previous clients who have had a destination wedding through you?

These questions will help you gauge the expertise, professionalism, and level of service offered by potential destination wedding planners. Remember to take notes during your interview to compare and evaluate each planner's responses afterward.

Besides the travel planning, it's worth asking if the person has experience in both destination weddings and traditional wedding planning if that is what you need. While some planners specialize solely in destination weddings, others may offer a broader range of services. Understanding their background and expertise will help you make an informed decision.

Planning a destination wedding should be an enjoyable experience, and finding the right destination wedding planner can make all the difference. By asking these key questions, you'll be well on your way to selecting the perfect professional to bring your dream wedding to life.

Ready to start your destination wedding planning journey with a skilled professional? Don't hesitate to get in touch with us! We're here to provide you with expert guidance, every step of the way. Let's turn your dream wedding into reality. Contact us today at www.romanticstravel.com/destination-weddings

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100 Engaging Wedding Trivia Questions to Entertain Your Guests

Elevate your wedding celebration with the playful charm of wedding trivia questions! This engaging addition not only spices up the festivities but also brings guests closer, weaving the rich tapestry of your love story throughout the evening. Perfect for couples seeking an unforgettable touch that personalizes their special day, wedding trivia questions promise laughter, learning, and a delightful journey into the heart of your relationship.

What are Wedding Trivia Games?

Wedding trivia games are an innovative way to sprinkle extra joy and engagement into your wedding festivities. Going beyond the realm of typical trivia, these games are intricately tailored to the couple’s unique story, featuring an array of formats from interactive digital quizzes to nostalgic, classic pen-and-paper setups.

The essence of wedding trivia lies in its ability to merge entertainment with personal anecdotes, making each question a gateway to the couple’s world. Whether it’s a question about the couple’s favorite movie or the story of their first trip together, wedding trivia invites guests to not just observe but actively participate in celebrating the couple’s journey.

This interaction not only entertains but also fosters a deeper connection among guests, creating a shared experience that enriches the celebration.

What is the Bride and Groom Trivia?

Bride and Groom Trivia focuses on the heart of the wedding—the unique story of the couple. This special trivia variant dives deep into the relationship, exploring everything from the whimsical to the profound aspects of the couple’s journey together.

Questions might range from “What was the couple’s first concert together?” to “How did the proposal happen?” and “What’s the most memorable trip they’ve taken?” This personalized approach allows guests to not just learn about but celebrate the milestones, inside jokes, and little-known facts that make the couple’s relationship special.

Moreover, Bride and Groom Trivia can be a delightful way to involve the couple in the festivities, as they can enjoy seeing their guests’ reactions to stories and moments that are significant to them.

It’s also an excellent opportunity for guests who might not know one half of the couple as well as the other to get a fuller picture of their love story, thereby fostering a sense of unity and celebration that’s centered on the couple’s shared life and dreams.

Why Incorporate Wedding Trivia?

Wedding trivia questions serve as a brilliant tool for transforming the wedding atmosphere into one of warmth, laughter, and shared memories. By incorporating trivia into your wedding, you create unique opportunities for guest interaction, moving beyond mere spectating to engaging in the couple’s narrative.

This engagement is crucial for weddings where guests may come from various parts of the couple’s life, providing a common ground for interaction. Moreover, wedding trivia personalizes the event in a manner unmatched by traditional entertainment options.

Through questions tailored to the couple’s likes, dislikes, milestones, and quirky moments, guests are offered a window into the couple’s life together. This not only entertains but also builds an emotional connection, making the celebration more intimate and memorable.

Additionally, wedding trivia can beautifully complement the wedding theme, with questions designed around it, thus enhancing the overall cohesiveness and aesthetic of the wedding day.

How to Host Wedding Trivia

Hosting wedding trivia is a creative process that involves more than just coming up with questions. It’s about crafting an experience that resonates with the couple’s story while ensuring guests are entertained and engaged. Here are detailed steps and tips to make your wedding trivia a hit:

Choose Your Format: Decide between a digital quiz, a live-hosted game, or pen-and-paper questions. Consider your venue and guest preferences.
Select Your Questions: Mix personal anecdotes with general wedding knowledge. Ensure questions are a good balance of easy, medium, and challenging to keep everyone engaged.
Timing is Key: Schedule trivia during cocktail hour or dinner for optimal participation. Keep it concise to maintain energy and interest.
Prizes for Motivation: Offer small, themed prizes to winners. Think personalized keepsakes or special privileges at the reception (like a song request).
Tech and Tools: If using a digital format, test your tech ahead of time. For live games, ensure your host is charismatic and engaging.

With these steps, your wedding trivia will be a memorable addition to your special day, bringing smiles and laughter to all your guests.

Wedding Trivia Questions

Bride and Groom Trivia Questions

Who said “I love you” first?
Who is the better cook?
Who is more likely to deal with a spider in the house?
Who is the bigger morning person?
Who is more likely to forget an anniversary?
Who is the better dancer?
Who made the first move?
Who is the messier one?
Who is more likely to cry at movies?
Who is more of a social butterfly?
Who has the weirder quirks?
Who is more likely to get lost?
Who is more likely to bring home a stray pet?
Who is the bigger sports fan?
Who is more likely to binge-watch a TV series in one sitting?
Who is more likely to initiate a Netflix binge-watch?
Who is the better driver according to friends and family?
Who takes longer to get ready for a night out?
Who is more likely to surprise the other with breakfast in bed?
Who has the quirkier family traditions?

Get to Know Wedding Trivia Questions

If you could travel anywhere, where would it be?
What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?
Do you prefer coffee or tea in the morning?
Are you a cat person or a dog person?
What’s one book you could read over and over?
What’s your go-to karaoke song?
What’s your favorite movie of all time?
Do you have any hidden talents?
What’s your dream job?
What’s one food you can’t stand?
Beach vacation or mountain getaway?
What was your favorite subject in school?
If you could have dinner with anyone, living or dead, who would it be?
What’s your guilty pleasure TV show?
What’s a skill you wish you had?
What’s your signature dance move?
If you could only eat one cuisine for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What’s your favorite season, and why?
If you could learn any language fluently, which would it be?
What’s your idea of a perfect day?

Relationship Trivia Questions

Where did you go on your first date?
What was your most memorable vacation together?
How long had you been dating before you got engaged?
What’s a hobby you both enjoy doing together?
What’s your favorite restaurant for date nights?
What movie have you both watched more than five times?
What’s the most unusual date you’ve ever been on?
Who is the more romantic partner?
What song best represents your relationship?
What’s one thing your partner does that always makes you laugh?
Who is the planner in the relationship?
What’s the biggest challenge you’ve overcome together?
What’s one dream you both share for the future?
If you could describe your relationship in one word, what would it be?
What’s one tradition you’ve started together?
What’s one song that always reminds you of your partner?
Where do you see yourselves in 10 years?
What was the first gift you ever exchanged?
Who is more likely to make a grand gesture for Valentine’s Day?
What’s a small thing your partner does that means a lot to you?

Reminiscent Trivia Questions

What’s your earliest memory together?
Which trip did you take that you’ll never forget?
What’s the best gift you’ve received from your partner?
What was the first meal you cooked together?
Which movie did you see on your first movie date?
What’s a funny mishap that happened early in your relationship?
How did you celebrate your first anniversary?
What’s one piece of advice you’ve received that has helped your relationship?
What was the theme of the party where you met?
Who said “I love you” first and where were you?
What hobby or interest have you taken up because of your partner?
What’s the most embarrassing moment you’ve experienced together?
What’s one thing you’ve learned about love from your partner?
Which concert was your first together?
What challenge did you first face as a couple and how did you overcome it?
What was your favorite moment from your first holiday together?
How did you celebrate your most recent anniversary?
What’s a movie you both loved but didn’t expect to?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve given each other?
Describe the moment you knew they were “the one.”

Traditional Trivia Questions

What is the traditional flower symbolizing love that is often used in wedding bouquets?
In which culture is it traditional to wear white as a symbol of mourning, rather than for weddings?
What does it mean when it rains on your wedding day, according to folklore?
Which country has the tradition of carrying the bride over the threshold?
What is the origin of the phrase “tying the knot”?
From which culture did the tradition of exchanging wedding rings originate?
What does the term “honeymoon” historically refer to?
In which country is the wedding cake traditionally a fruitcake?
What is the significance of “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue”?
Which culture introduced the concept of a bridal shower?
What is the traditional role of the Best Man in a wedding?
Why are wedding rings worn on the fourth finger of the left hand?
In which country is it a tradition to break a glass at the end of the wedding ceremony?
What is the purpose of the wedding veil, historically speaking?
Why do many brides carry a bouquet?
What is the origin of bridesmaids wearing matching dresses?
In which culture is the wedding cake cut by the bride and groom together as the first task in their new life?
Why do some brides wear a garter on their wedding day?
What does the “ring bearer” traditionally carry in a wedding?
In which country is it traditional to have a “money dance” with the bride?

Wedding trivia questions are more than just entertainment; they’re a pathway to sharing your unique story with those you love. By choosing questions that resonate with your journey, you can create an immersive experience that guests will remember for years to come.

Ginger Orr is the curious mind behind Cute Insides, delving into the charming intricacies of a wide array of topics. She reveals the delightful 'cute' inside everything, from tech to culture, with a uniquely engaging touch.

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Destination Wedding Questionnaire

I specialize in upscale, boutique destination weddings in Hawaii, Mexico and the Caribbean. I’ll handle all the travel details so you can focus on the details of your special day! You’ll work directly with onsite wedding coordinators for all aspects of your wedding. Once I have a general idea of what you’re looking to do, we’ll schedule a time to meet or chat to discuss the details!

Name * First Last
Fiancé/Fiancée * First Last
Cell Phone *
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Desired Wedding Date * MM slash DD slash YYYY
What are your travel dates? *
Destination # 1 *
Destination # 2
What airport will you be flying from? *
Do you have a resort, property or cruise already picked out?
Have you done any research online or already received a quote?
What budget did you want to try and work with? (minimum air/resort cost is generally $1500 per person for 3 nights) *
What services or amenities are you looking for ? *
What type of activities are you most looking forward to experiencing? * example: Horseback riding, scuba, golf, sailing, hiking, museums, historic sites etc.
Are there any special mobility, or dietary needs to be aware of? *
Estimated Number of Adults *
Estimated Number of Children (age 2-11)
Do you like to be in the middle of the action with plenty of restaurant and nightlife choices or are you looking for something quieter and off the beaten path?
What style of accommodations are you interested in? (ex. ocean view, suites, # of bedrooms etc.) *
Additional Information:
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Important: At most resorts there is a 15 room, 3 night minimum required to qualify for any wedding amenities. A minimum deposit of $100 per room is required to secure your room block which you pay up front. As your guests confirm their reservation, the deposit you paid is either returned to you or applied to your stay at the end of the trip. Complete details will be provided with your proposal.

Once your resort/cruise/villa is selected, the wedding date secured by deposit (fee varies by property) and your room block secure – we will create a special link on our website with all of your event details. You will share this link with your guests and they will contact us directly to book. It is important that your guests all book through one source so that you will qualify for your wedding/group amenities.

We will answer all of their questions and take care of all the booking details including airfare and travel insurance. We will keep track of the guest list and keep you up to date on your guest count. Any special perks or incentives offered by the resort or cruise line will be passed on to you!

Please note we are not wedding planners and while we can refer you to local vendors and contacts we do not get involved with the actual wedding planning. You will be responsible for all legal aspects of your wedding.

For large groups there may be an upfront planning fee of $150 to set your contract up. Learn more about our Plan To Go Service Agreement

17 Questions to ask your destination wedding planner

If you are here, we can only imagine you are planning to hire a destination wedding planner! This is a HUGE decision as you will work closely with whoever you hire for the next 12-24 months. You want to feel comfortable, and you also want an expert who has been there before and is ready and with you every step of the way.

We hope these questions will be SO helpful when starting the process. Are you in Canada? Our boutique travel agency is based near Calgary and we would love to be considered. We have been in business over five years now and have personally travelled to hundreds of resorts and dozens of destinations. To schedule a consultation, click this link to contact us. We work with couples all over Canada.

How long have you been doing this for?
Who handles the travel for myself and my guests? Our destination wedding planners handle this directly for all of our couples but not everyone offers this service.
How long have you been doing this for? What is your background?
Do you do this full-time or part-time? Do you work with a team? Will it be you planning my wedding or an associate planner? Knowing you are going to work with one person from the beginning is important if you value that personal connection and don’t want a “corporate” feel.
How many weddings have you planned? How many weddings do you take on every year?
What destinations are your favourite? What resorts do you love to work with? Why?
What is the average wedding budget you work with?
What hours do you work? What is a typical response time? What is your preferred method of communicating? Phone? Email?
What is your favourite wedding trend right now? Not only do you want to hire someone who has similar taste than you (although a good planner will be able to execute your vision regardless of their personal style), this question often reveals how passionate your planner is about the industry.
Is it possible to incur fees down the road if my guest count/wedding budget changes? What is your payment schedule like? Cancellation policy? Make sure all of these answers find their way into the contract!
Do you travel with the group? For how many nights? Do you stay on-site?
What do you include in your wedding planning packages? Additional events? Are travel costs additional?
Do you have a list of preferred vendors? Most experienced planners will have vendors they love to work with although not everyone will have a formal list.
Do you help us stay on budget? Do you help us breakdown our budget? Who pays the vendors and keeps track of their payment schedule?
Are you available on our wedding date?
If I haven’t chosen a wedding date yet, what is your policy if you are already booked? Do certain dates have an additional charge? New Years Eve for example, typically has an additional charge because travel is more expensive.
What factors affect our planning quote? Do you offer a la carte services or planning packages only? For example, we offer destination wedding planning packages with and without us travelling to the destination with you.

BONUS: Not hiring a destination wedding planner? Here are 4 questions to ask a destination wedding travel agent:

Which airlines/tour operators do you love working with? Why? Trust us, if someone is experienced, they will definitely have preferences.
Are there any resorts running promotions now that would be a good fit for my group?
What methods of payment do you accept? Do you sell travel insurance as well?
If working from home (more and more common!), what hours do you work? Who takes care of my file when you are on vacation?

We are ready to put our money where our mouth is! Are you ready to ask us your questions? The easiest way is to set up a consultation here. Wondering if we are the right fit? You can read more about us here and read our testimonials here.

25 Best Destination Wedding Locations in 2024

If you’re looking for a truly unique and memorable wedding, then a destination wedding in one of these locations is the way to go. But with so many beautiful places in the world to choose from, how do you pick the perfect spot? In this article, we review location options to help you plan the best destination wedding for you and your family and friends. Of course, many of these locations include the captivating Caribbean islands, but we’ve included destination wedding ideas from all over the world.

A destination wedding is a great way to have an intimate ceremony with your closest family and friends. It also allows you to have a unique wedding that’s tailored to your specific desires. Destination weddings are usually held in a location that has meaning to the couple, such as where they met or had their first date. This makes destination weddings even more special and memorable.

Destination weddings tend to be more intimate than traditional weddings, as only close family and friends are typically invited. This can make for a more relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere. Finally, destination weddings often come with built-in activities and excursions that wedding guests can enjoy, making it a truly unforgettable experience.

Here are 25 of the best destination wedding locations for 2024:

The Bahamas

If you’re looking for a truly unique destination wedding location, look no further than the Bahamas. This tropical paradise offers everything you could want for your special day, from white sand beaches and pristine turquoise waters to luxurious resorts and world-class cuisine. Here are just a few of the reasons why the Bahamas should be at the top of your list for destination weddings:

The Bahamas is home to some of the most beautiful beaches in the world, making it the perfect place to exchange vows surrounded by natural beauty.
There are a number of Bahamas-based resorts that offer everything you need for a destination wedding, from on-site catering and event planning to accommodations for your guests.
The climate in the Bahamas is ideal for a destination wedding , with average temperatures hovering around 80 degrees year-round.

If you’re looking for a destination wedding location that has it all, look no further than Jamaica. With its white sand beaches, turquoise waters, lush mountains, and friendly people, Jamaica is the perfect place to tie the knot . Here are just a few of the reasons why:

Jamaica is home to some of the world’s most beautiful beaches, making it the perfect place to exchange vows by the sea.
The island has a wealth of accommodation options to suit every budget, from luxury resorts to cozy villas.
Jamaican cuisine is incredibly flavorful and varied, so you and your guests will be spoiled for choice when it comes to wedding meals.
Jamaica is easy to reach from many major airports, making travel plans a breeze.

So whether you’re looking for a relaxed beach destination or an action-packed adventure, Jamaica has everything you need for an unforgettable destination wedding.

If you’re looking for a breathtaking destination wedding location, look no further than Belize . Here are just a few reasons why Belize is the perfect place to tie the knot:

The country is home to some of the most beautiful beaches in the world. Imagine exchanging vows with your toes in the sand and the turquoise waters of the Caribbean Sea as your backdrop.
Belize is a relatively small country, so it’s easy to get around and find the perfect spot for your wedding. Whether you’re looking for a jungle setting or a more urban environment, Belize has it all.
Belize is extremely welcoming to tourists, so you and your guests will feel right at home. The locals are known for their laid-back attitude and warm hospitality.
There are plenty of activities to keep your guests entertained before and after the big day. From zip-lining and cave tubing to exploring ancient Maya ruins, there’s something for everyone in Belize.

If you’re looking for a truly unique destination wedding location, Barbados is the perfect place:

The island is home to some of the most beautiful beaches in the world, making it a perfect setting for your ceremony and photos.
Barbados is a melting pot of cultures, so you and your guests will be able to experience the best of everything the island has to offer.
There are plenty of activities to keep your guests entertained, from exploring the island’s history and attractions to enjoying the nightlife and local cuisine.
And of course, the weather is perfect all year round.

Cancun, Mexico

Cancun is the perfect destination for your dream wedding with its beautiful sandy beaches and turquoise waters, Cancun offers a stunning backdrop for your special day. And there’s no need to worry about the logistics of planning a wedding abroad—there are plenty of experienced professionals in Cancun who can help you with everything from finding the perfect venue to arranging transportation for your guests.

Plus, Cancun is home to some of the best hotels in Mexico , so you and your guests can enjoy luxurious accommodations while you celebrate your love. Whether you’re looking for a small and intimate ceremony or a large and lavish affair, Cancun is the perfect place to say “I do.”

Saint Lucia

Saint Lucia is a beautiful destination for a wedding . With its white sandy beaches and lush green mountains, it’s the perfect place to exchange vows.

The island is also home to some of the best resorts in the Caribbean, so you and your guests will be spoiled for choice when it comes to accommodation. And with its excellent food and drink scene, Saint Lucia is the perfect place to celebrate your nuptials in style.

Puerto Rico

If you’re looking for a truly unique wedding destination, Puerto Rico should be at the top of your list.

From the stunning beaches to the cobblestone streets of Old San Juan, Puerto Rico offers a wealth of beautiful backdrops for your big day. And with its year-round warm weather and convenient location, it’s no wonder that Puerto Rico is becoming one of the most popular destination wedding locations. Plus, your guests won’t need a U.S. passport to travel.

But there’s more to Puerto Rico than just its gorgeous setting. The island also boasts a rich culture and history, making it a truly special place to exchange vows. From the traditional food to the vibrant music, your best Caribbean wedding destinations in Puerto Rico will be an unforgettable experience for you and your guests.

If you’re considering a destination wedding, Greece is an excellent choice. With its awe-inspiring scenery and rich cultural heritage, it’s no wonder that more and more couples are choosing to tie the knot in this Mediterranean country.

However, there are also a few things to keep in mind before making the decision to have a Greek wedding. Greece can be a very expensive place to get married, so you’ll need to make sure you have a good budget in place. Additionally, due to the large number of tourists who visit Greece each year, it can be difficult to find a venue that is both available and affordable . While most Greek weddings are peaceful and trouble-free, there is always the possibility of some disruptions due to strikes or other political unrest.

Despite these potential challenges, a destination wedding in Greece is an experience you and your guests will never forget.

Las Vegas, U.S.

Las Vegas is one of the most popular destination wedding locations in the U.S. Couples are drawn to the city’s dazzling array of wedding chapels and luxury hotels, as well as its reputation for 24-hour fun.

However, there are also some drawbacks to getting married in Las Vegas. The city can be expensive, and the heat can be unbearable during the summer months. Additionally, because Las Vegas is such a popular wedding destination, it can be difficult to stand out from the crowd.

If you’re considering a destination wedding in Las Vegas, carefully weigh the pros and cons before making your decision.

Antigua is a beautiful Caribbean island that is perfect for a destination wedding. With its white sand beaches and turquoise waters, Antigua offers a stunning backdrop for your special day. And, with plenty of activities to keep guests entertained, Antigua is the perfect place to host a destination wedding .

From snorkeling and scuba diving to hiking and biking, there are plenty of ways to explore the island. And, with numerous restaurants and bars, guests will have no trouble finding a place to enjoy a delicious meal or refreshing drink.

Whether you’re looking for a romantic setting for your ceremony or a fun-filled destination for your reception, Antigua is a perfect choice for your destination wedding.

Cabo, Mexico

If you’re looking for a truly unique destination for your wedding, look no further than Cabo, Mexico. This beautiful city boasts a stunning array of natural scenery, from the pristine beaches to the dramatic cliffs. And with its mild climate and abundant sunshine, Cabo is the perfect place to tie the knot year-round .

Of course, no destination wedding would be complete without a luxurious setting, and Cabo offers plenty of options in that department as well. Whether you choose to exchange vows on a secluded stretch of beach or in front of a luxurious resort, you’re sure to create memories that will last a lifetime.

Oahu, Hawaii

When it comes to the coolest destination weddings, there are few locations that can rival the beauty of Hawaii . With its pristine beaches and stunning scenery, Oahu is the perfect place to exchange vows. There are a number of factors to consider when planning a destination wedding, but one of the most important is finding the right venue.

Fortunately, Oahu offers a variety of options, from private beachfront villas to luxury resorts. And with so many activities available, guests will never be bored. From snorkeling and surfing to hiking and shopping, there is something for everyone on this idyllic island.

London, England

If you’re looking for a destination wedding location that is both chic and timeless, consider London , England. From the iconic sights of Big Ben and Westminster Abbey to the stunning natural beauty of Hyde Park, London has it all. And with a wealth of world-class hotels and restaurants, you and your guests will be spoiled for choice.

Whether you’re looking for an intimate ceremony or a grand affair, a destination wedding in London is sure to be an unforgettable experience.

Tulum, Mexico

Tulum , Mexico is the perfect destination wedding location. The beautiful beaches and clear blue waters make it a paradise for couples looking to tie the knot. And with its proximity to the U.S., it’s easy to get to Tulum from most major U.S. cities.

Not to mention, the weather is almost always perfect for a destination wedding. So if you’re looking for a place to have your dream destination wedding, look no further than Tulum, Mexico.

Dominican Republic

The Dominican Republic is a popular destination wedding location due to its stunning beaches and lush landscapes. Plus, there are plenty of resorts that offer wedding packages, so you can have your ceremony and reception all in one place.

When it comes to choosing a resort, be sure to read reviews and compare prices. And don’t forget to factor in the cost of travel for you and your guests.

If you’re looking for a truly unique destination wedding location, look no further than Curacao. This small island off the coast of Venezuela is home to stunning beaches, crystal-clear waters, and plenty of sunshine. It’s also located outside of Hurricane Alley which means you won’t have to be as mindful of hurricane season when planning your destination wedding .

Plus, there’s no need to worry about accommodating a large wedding party— Curacao is the perfect place for intimate destination weddings. And what could be more romantic than exchanging vows in front of a beautiful Caribbean sunset?

Rome, Italy

Rome is one of the most popular destination wedding locations in the world. And it’s no wonder why—the city is absolutely stunning, with a wealth of historical and cultural landmarks to explore. If you’re looking for a truly unforgettable destination wedding, Rome is the perfect location.

There’s a wide range of venue options to choose from, whether you want an outdoor ceremony in front of the Colosseum or a grand ballroom reception at a luxury hotel.

And of course, no destination wedding in Rome would be complete without a traditional Italian feast. From sumptuous starters to delicious desserts, your guests will be absolutely spoiled for choice.

If you’re set on an Italian destination wedding also check out the Amalfi Coast , Capri , Florence , Sicily , and Lake Como .

Cozumel, Mexico

Cozumel is a beautiful destination wedding location that offers plenty of reasons to say “I Do” here. First, the island is renowned for its clear blue waters and white sand beaches, making it the perfect place to exchange vows with your toes in the sand.

What’s more, Cozumel boasts year-round warm weather, so you can plan your wedding for any time of year. And if you’re looking for an adventure-filled honeymoon, there’s no shortage of activities on the island, from scuba diving and snorkeling to exploring ancient ruins.

Aruba is a destination wedding location that offers something for everyone. With its beautiful beaches, stunning scenery, and year-round sunshine, Aruba is the perfect place to exchange vows.

Whether you want to get married on the beach at sunset or in a lush tropical garden, Aruba has the perfect setting for your dream destination wedding. And with its convenient location and direct flights from major U.S. cities, Aruba is easy to get to and easy to travel around.

Looking for a truly unique destination wedding location? Look no further than Costa Rica ! Here are just a few reasons why Costa Rica is the perfect place to tie the knot:

Costa Rica is home to some of the most stunning natural scenery in the world, from lush rainforests to pristine beaches, both of which are an ideal backdrop for your wedding photos.
Costa Rica is a very welcoming and hospitable country, and your guests will be sure to enjoy their time here.
There are plenty of activities to keep your guests entertained, from zip-lining and hiking to soaking up the sun on the beach.

Tuscany, Italy

Italy is a popular destination wedding location for many reasons. The first reason is that the country is home to some of the most beautiful scenery in the world. From the rolling hills of Tuscany to the dramatic coastline of Amalfi, there are countless breathtaking locations to choose from.

Another reason to consider a destination wedding in Italy is the food. Italian cuisine is renowned for its fresh, flavorful ingredients, and couples can enjoy a truly memorable dining experience on their big day. Last but not least, Italy is also home to some of the best wines in the world.

Whether you’re looking for a light Prosecco or a robust Brunello, you’ll be spoilt for choice when it comes to choosing your wedding wine. So if you’re looking for a destination that ticks all the boxes, Italy’s wine region should be at the top of your list.

Panama is quickly becoming a popular destination wedding location for couples looking to escape the hustle and bustle of traditional wedding venues. Here are just a few reasons why Panama is the perfect place to tie the knot:

With lush rainforests and pristine beaches to its soaring mountains and sprawling deserts, Panama has something for everyone. And what could be more romantic than saying your vows surrounded by such stunning scenery?
From the moment you arrive in Panama, you’ll be embraced by the locals and treated like family. This is the perfect place to celebrate your love with your closest friends and family.
Whether you’re looking for an intimate beachfront ceremony or a grand ballroom reception, you’ll be able to find it in Panama.
There are plenty of options for accommodations, so you can find the perfect place to stay for your honeymoon .
Panama is extremely affordable making your on-the-ground costs inexpensive compared to similar destinations.

Ireland is a destination wedding location that has it all: gorgeous scenery, great food and drink, and rich history and culture. And, of course, there’s the added bonus of getting to say you got married in Ireland. Here are just a few of the many reasons why getting married in Ireland is a great idea:

From the wild and rugged coastline to the rolling green hills, Ireland is a feast for the eyes. And there are plenty of beautiful places to tie the knot, whether you’re looking for an intimate setting or a grand and dramatic backdrop.
Ireland is renowned for its food and drink, and you’ll be able to enjoy both at your destination wedding.
From ancient castles to quaint villages, there’s plenty to explore. And your guests will love getting a taste of Irish culture, whether it’s listening to traditional music or enjoying a pint of Guinness.

Puerto Vallarta, Mexico

Puerto Vallarta is a popular destination wedding location for couples looking for a truly unique and memorable experience. Here are just a few of the reasons why Puerto Vallarta is the perfect destination for your wedding:

From the stunning beaches to the lush jungle landscapes, Puerto Vallarta has it all. And with so many scenic locations to choose from, you’re sure to find the perfect spot for your destination wedding.
Puerto Vallarta enjoys year-round sunshine and warm temperatures, making it a great destination for a winter or spring wedding. And if you’re looking to escape the heat, you can always head up into the mountains for a cooler climate.
From fresh seafood to traditional Mexican dishes, there’s something for everyone in Puerto Vallarta. And with so many great restaurants to choose from, you’re sure to find the perfect catering option for your destination wedding.
From your hotel staff to the locals you meet on the streets, everyone in Puerto Vallarta will make you feel welcome and ensure that you have a truly enjoyable experience.

Nantucket, Massachusetts

If you’re looking for a beautiful destination wedding location, look no further than Nantucket , Massachusetts. This charming island off the coast of Cape Cod is the perfect setting for a romantic wedding. Here are just a few reasons why you should consider tying the knot in Nantucket:

The island is home to some of the most stunning beaches in New England, making it the perfect place for a beachfront ceremony.
Nantucket is home to a number of historic venues that would be perfect for your reception, including the iconic White Elephant Hotel.
The island is known for its quaint charm and picturesque views, making it an ideal setting for your wedding photos.

So if you’re dreaming of a destination wedding, be sure to add Nantucket to your list of potential locations. You and your guests will fall in love with this special place.

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Advice | Ask Amy: I got a mysterious invitation from a teen I never met

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We were together 16 years before divorcing. Thirty years later, I have a close bond to my 53-year-old former stepdaughter, but I have never been successful in having a bond with the son.

Now I have received an invitation to his daughter’s high school graduation party.

I am flummoxed and am unsure about how to respond to this gesture. I do not know this young woman and have never been included in their lives.

Should I just send a nice card?

– On the Fence

Dear On the Fence : Yes, just send a nice card. There is never a downside to sending a nice card.

In the far corners of your personal universe, someone, somewhere, suggested that this young woman should reach out to you to invite you to her graduation party.

The graduate’s aunt (the former stepdaughter you’ve stayed close to) might have encouraged her brother and his daughter to make an effort to get to know you a little bit.

Some people might accuse this girl of “trolling for gifts,” but my theory is that the high school graduation celebration is often the first party for which young people have inviting privileges that includes a wider circle than their immediate friends – and they tend to cast a wide and sometimes awkward net.

Dear Amy : My 83-year-old widowed mother is depressed, and I don’t know how to help.

She refuses to see a therapist and sees drugs as a crutch. She has always been a very private person, is generally distrustful of doctors, and would never let down her shields to a stranger.

I have told her that I am not a therapist, but she has lately begun to confide in me about things that, even as an adult, I shouldn’t be hearing.

Depression runs in the family. I have seen a therapist in the past and am on medication, so I understand and empathize, but it’s getting to the point where I dread seeing her, and yet I know that I’m her only lifeline.

How do I help her?

– Worried

Dear Worried: People sometimes start to reveal long-repressed or suppressed trauma very late in life, when – for a variety of reasons (medical, emotional, and cognitive) – their defenses are down. Studies of WWII survivors have shown that the strong and stoic “Greatest Generation” have experienced nightmares, remembered traumatic events and suffered from depression very late in life.

Quoting from one study: “In aging individuals, the classical symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may not be manifest, yet considerable distress may occur in the face of re-awakened memories of traumatic experiences.”

Therapy helps. Medication helps. And yet many elders are resistant to the idea of treatment in the ways your mother is.

My first suggestion is that you should resume in-person (or telehealth) therapy right away, in order to process this burden, which is a trigger for you.

I urge you to seek healthy ways to be open and present for your mother, while resisting the temptation to try to provide answers or your own brand of therapy for her.

Being in the moment with her is a special and challenging kind of witnessing. You stroke her hand. You say, “Mom, I’m so sorry. I’m so very sorry.” You sit quietly, and if you’re able, you stay quietly in the moment with her, letting her speak.

I wonder if you might be able to urge your mother toward treatment by asking her if she would consider doing this “for” or with you.

A good and competent therapist helps their client transition from being a stranger – to a trusted and helpful ally.

Dear Amy : “Sad Future Bride” had no men in her life to walk her down the aisle, and her mother didn’t want to do it, either.

I thought about the symbolism of their entry: two people alone, meeting halfway, and traveling the rest of the way together. Sounds like the definition of a marriage, doesn’t it?

– Wedding Witness

Dear Witness: This is great. I hope it catches on.

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.

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Believe it or not, it isn't enough that your destination wedding planner know how to coordinate a wedding—they'll also need to be well-versed in the culture and laws of the country you're getting married in. And, of course, finding someone whose personality clicks with yours is definitely a top priority. Overall, a great wedding planner will not only make you feel like they've got it all under control, but will also make you feel at ease. These six questions will help you gauge whether your potential planner is right for you when you meet with them.

1. What's the typical budget of couples you've helped plan weddings for? Do you charge a flat fee or do you take a percent of our budget? And are rates affected by our guest list size or destination?

Why you want to know: You should know that some planners will only work within a particular budget range. That could mean weddings over $50,000 or weddings over $500,000 (yes, you read that right!). Either way, this should be at the top of your list of questions. For a destination wedding, there will probably also be other fees involved. You'll most likely have to factor in travel and hotel rooms for your planner and their team. If you're not able to find someone that can work within your budget, ask your venue about hiring extra help locally. Maybe you find someone to organize the escort card table, programs and other little details that you would otherwise have to take care of.

2. Have you planned weddings at my destination and venue before?

Why you want to know: A planner who knows the area, local customs and language will probably have an easier time pulling together all the details. And it's not necessarily a major red flag if they haven't done a wedding at your particular resort, but it is a bonus. Follow up with similar questions like: Do you know the marriage license laws? Are you familiar with popular area vendors like florists and makeup artists? And do you have any local ideas (like a steel drummer in the Caribbean or a mariachi band in Mexico) that would make the wedding day extra special?

3. Can I see photos from weddings you've done at my destination? If not, do you have photos from weddings that look similar to what we're going for?

Why you want to know: Photos will give you the best sense as to how your planner's weddings really turn out. And of course, you want to be sure that you and your planner are on the same page style-wise. You never know: Your planner's idea of an elegant wedding might not align with yours. Ask to speak to other couples they've worked with in the past and read reviews online .

4. Which other wedding vendors do you like to work with?

Why you want to know: This question will help you gauge their knowledge of the local industry—having go-to sources for things like local transportation and food should be pretty much a given. Your wedding planner may or may not give out specific names before you sign a contract (don't worry—they're trade secrets!) but you'll want to be plugged in to their enthusiasm about their colleagues.

5. Can I hire you to help me with my honeymoon arrangements?

Why you want to know: Many stateside destination wedding planners will also offer honeymoon prep services because they're already familiar with area properties, excursions and other insider tips.

6. How does the contract and deposit process work?

Why you want to know : Everyone works a little differently. Some planners will have you put down a deposit and sign a contract before you start talking vision and logistics. Others will present a plan to you before you sign. For full-service planners, you might end up giving them your credit card to use to pay for all the details, while others will guide you through the process but won't make payments for you. There are pros and cons to each, and only you can decide what works best for you. Either way, it's important you know how your planner works before you sign a contract.

Touring destination wedding locations? Don't forget to ask these top questions, here .

Find the must-know tips for planning a destination wedding here .

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Here are 9 common questions wedding guests ask when they get the invite to your destination wedding: 1. "When should I book by?". The couple's wedding website should indicate your booking deadline, but if you want the most options with the best rates, it's best to book early. Since the bride and groom need to know who is attending in ...
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General Questions. Is the resort/hotel available on the date of the wedding? Is the wedding venue available for use until end of day on that date? How far out is the beach from the property? Are there any other events scheduled on the same date or weekend? What is the weather like during that time of the year?
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Mexico and Jamaica are also convenient places to get married legally. In Mexico, you will have to complete some paperwork prior to arriving, have a blood test in Mexico, be over 18, have a witness, and be in the country a few days prior to the legal ceremony. In Jamaica, you will need to be 18, be in the country for 2 days prior to the wedding ...
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Technically speaking, you can have a destination wedding anywhere in the world. But just because you can journey 5,000+ miles from home, doesn't mean you should. As a general rule, try to make travel as simple as possible for your guests—for instance, by avoiding locations that require people to book multiple connecting flights.
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Liberty Travel's consultants, for example, know exactly what it takes to plan an elegant ceremony in an exotic locale—and are more than happy to offer advice to recently engaged couples. With that in mind, here are the top six destination wedding questions you should ask your travel advisor (and what sort of answers you can expect to receive).
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If we can afford to travel, we can certainly afford to tip. It doesn't have to be much, but it shows your token of appreciation! This is what we tip at all-inclusive resorts, as well as the usual norm for travellers. Don't feel obligated to tip these amounts, either! Drinks: $1-$2/drink. Breakfast: $2-$5/couple.
Frequently Asked Destination Wedding Questions
A: Legit question! We often say that the couple can expect to pay under $10,000 for the trip, ceremony and reception. This can vary, of course, but it is a good estimate. Your guests can expect to pay about $1100 for a 3 night/4 day all-inclusive experience in Mexico or the Caribbean.
Destination Wedding Planning: 8 Key Questions and Their Answers
Embark on your destination wedding planning with ease and confidence. Our guide '8 Essential Questions and Answers for Your Destination Wedding Planning' offers crucial insights into the most important aspects to consider. From understanding the nuances of budgeting to selecting the perfect locale, this guide simplifies the complexities of planning a wedding abroad.
43 Wedding Planning Questions, Answered by Experts
A: Typically, save-the-dates should go out six to eight months before the wedding, while formal invites should be sent, at the latest, six to eight weeks before the date. If most guests will need to plan extensive travel, consider sending out formal invitations at least three months in advance. 27.
15 Destination Wedding Travel Essentials
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10 Questions To Ask Yourself When Planning Your Destination Wedding
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Questions to Ask Your Wedding Destination Resort
85 questions to ask your wedding destination resort. Planning a destination wedding is exciting, but can also be overwhelming. Typically, it isn't practical to visit each prospective location prior to your wedding because of the extra expense and time. That is why it's important that the destination you choose can accommodate all of your needs.
21 Practical & Fun Wedding RSVP Questions for Guests
You'll see two sections for questions, one called "Wedding Day" to collect any queries pertaining to the main event as well as another called "General Questions" to add in additional inquiries, like those pertaining to travel arrangements or some funny wedding RSVP questions.
32 Essential Wedding Website FAQs Your Guests Will Appreciate
32 Essential Questions to Answer on Your Wedding Website FAQ Page. Ensure that your wedding guests have all the important details at their fingertips by including answers to common questions on your wedding website. Your wedding website is the online hub for your big day and should have the answers to every question your wedding guests may have.
Destination I Dos: 5 Destination Wedding Questions to Ask Your Travel Agent
Destination weddings are all about creating memories in breathtaking locations. As a travel professional specializing in making these dreams a reality, I've seen it all—the highs, the lows, and everything in between. Today, let's talk about the crucial destination wedding questions to ask your travel agent before you hire them. Asking the following five questions before hiring your ...
5 Must-Ask Destination Wedding Questions to Ask Your Agent Before You
This question may seem basic, but it's the cornerstone of your destination wedding planning journey. Beyond the obvious—venue selection, resort location, travel logistics, and vendor coordination—ensure you discuss finer details. Does the destination wedding travel agent handle legal requirements for your chosen destination?
12 Questions to Ask Your Destination Wedding Venue
1. Can I legally get married at your venue? Legally getting married abroad is dictated by individual circumstances and the country/locations formalities, if you adhere to these regulations and would prefer a legal as opposed to symbolic ceremony, you will need to ask the venue if they hold a licence to do so. 2.
10 BEST Questions to Ask Destination Wedding Travel Agents
2. Not all Destination Travel Agents do destination weddings well. 3. Not all Destination Travel Agents do destination weddings everywhere. You don't know every city well. Same with travel agents. Only work with an agent who has significant experience holding events in the destination and location you want.
Essential Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Destination Wedding Planner
Planning a destination wedding? Get the inside scoop on the crucial questions to ask your destination wedding planner. From experience with destination weddings to knowledge of local venues and vendors, uncover the key factors that make a planner the perfect fit. Discover insights into their availability, contingency plans, and problem-solving approach.
100 Engaging Wedding Trivia Questions to Entertain Your Guests
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Destination Wedding Questionnaire
Destination Wedding Questionnaire. I specialize in upscale, boutique destination weddings in Hawaii, Mexico and the Caribbean. I'll handle all the travel details so you can focus on the details of your special day! You'll work directly with onsite wedding coordinators for all aspects of your wedding. Once I have a general idea of what you ...
17 Questions to ask your destination wedding planner
Here are 4 questions to ask a destination wedding travel agent: Which airlines/tour operators do you love working with? Why? Trust us, if someone is experienced, they will definitely have preferences. Are there any resorts running promotions now that would be a good fit for my group?
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25 Best Destination Wedding Locations in 2024. By Ashley Rossi Ashley Rossi Ashley has been a travel writer and editor for nearly a decade for brands like Tripadvisor, SmarterTravel, Family Vacationist, Roadtrippers, and more. Her travels have taken her from Borneo to the Arctic Circle in search of engaging stories that inspire people to book a trip out of their comfort zone.
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Ask Amy: Angry aunt thinks she can ditch us and remain in our kids' lives My niece was recently wed. She was an older bride marrying for the second time and I was pleased to see their processional.
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6 Questions to Ask Your Potential Destination Wedding Planner
That could mean weddings over $50,000 or weddings over $500,000 (yes, you read that right!). Either way, this should be at the top of your list of questions. For a destination wedding, there will probably also be other fees involved. You'll most likely have to factor in travel and hotel rooms for your planner and their team.
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The Fabulous Four: Directed by Jocelyn Moorhouse. With Susan Sarandon, Bruce Greenwood, Megan Mullally, Sheryl Lee Ralph. It tells the story of two friends who travel to be bridesmaids in a surprise wedding of their college girlfriend.
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