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Offering Condolences – Saying & Doing the Right Things

Acknowledging the Death

One of the reasons why people are so uncomfortable at a wake or funeral is because they’re not sure about what to do or say when offering condolences. While death may be an extremely uncomfortable topic, the worst thing you can do is ignore it when it occurs in the family of a friend or colleague. Doing nothing, or pretending it didn’t happen, is not good etiquette.

Whether you are offering condolences by calling, sending a card or flowers, or visiting, the important thing is to make a gesture that lets the family know you’re thinking of them and share their sorrow. (Although this appears to be changing slowly in today’s culture, such forms of communication as texts, emails, and tweets are still too informal for expressing sympathy or offering condolences.)

When hearing the news…

Be a good listener. Let friends and family talk about their loved one and their death. If they don’t want to talk about it, don’t pressure them. Focus on the survivor’s needs.
Refer to the deceased by name, and acknowledge his or her life.
Encourage the family to plan a wake, funeral, and burial (even if cremated), if you are in an appropriate position to do so. Ask to help make arrangements.
Send flowers with a note (see suggestions for notes below) or offer a donation to a charity or an appropriate research organization.
Don’t take control of the situation. The grieving family needs control to help them work through grief.
Don’t bring up other people’s experiences. Let the bereaved focus on their loss.
Don’t pressure the family to clean out the deceased’s belongings. They need to do this in their own time.
Don’t expect things to be “back to normal” in a certain timeframe.

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Making Condolence Calls

If you can’t visit in person, a telephone call expressing sympathy and offering condolences for the family is appropriate.

Don’t be surprised if the phone is answered by someone who is taking messages, or your call goes to voicemail. It may be too much of a burden for the family to answer each call individually. Your message of sympathy will still be valued and appreciated.
Keep your call brief. Remember, the family is likely receiving a large number of calls during a time of bereavement. Keep the focus on the bereaved . This is not the time to talk about yourself or to relate your own recent experience with losing a loved one or a dearly loved pet.
Be a good listener. The bereaved may want to vent or cry or grieve. Let them talk about their loved one and the death. If they don’t want to talk about it, don’t pressure them.
Focus on the survivor’s needs. Don’t ask questions about the circumstances or probe for details about the death.

It is kind to call occasionally after the funeral to check on the family, especially if you were close to the deceased or have offered some type of tangible help. Let them know you care and if you still wish to help, make the offer again. Include them in social plans if possible, keeping in mind their state of mind.

Sending Sympathy Cards

A pre-printed sympathy card is the default choice for most people, and it’s an acceptable way to go. Consider, however, writing a personal note in the card.

Don’t be afraid to use the name of the deceased, to recall a fond memory, or to share a warm anecdote about how the person affected your life. Those remembrances will be treasured by the family and often are kept for years.
If you can’t attend the service, be sure to express your regrets in the card.
A special kind of acknowledgment for a Catholic family is a Mass condolence card—a greeting card that lets the family know a Mass will be said in memory of their loved one. You can obtain a Mass card at your local parish. You may offer a donation when asking that the Mass be said. Some greeting card stores also carry Mass cards. After purchasing the card, contact the parish to arrange for a donation. Mass cards can also be purchased online. An acknowledgment of the Mass will be sent directly to the bereaved.

Those who are bereaved may have an especially difficult time during holidays such as Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or the deceased’s birthday or wedding anniversary. You can help by sending cards to acknowledge those special occasions or the anniversary of the death.

Offering Condolences

Whether you express sympathy via a visit, call, or card, your choice of words is important. It is appropriate and kind to let the family know how much you will miss the deceased, how dear she was, how they made the world a better place, or what an inspiration he was.

Use your own words to convey messages like these:

“I/We are thinking of you. I/we wish there were words to comfort you” “I/We are shocked and saddened by your loss. We care and love you deeply.” He/She was such a fine person.” “What you’re going through must be very difficult.” “It’s too bad he/she died. I will always remember him/her.” “He/she lived a full life and was an inspiration to me and many others.”

What NOT to say…

It is inappropriate to make statements that imply that the death was for the best or that show disrespect for the deceased. It is also inappropriate to probe for details of the circumstances of the death or the person’s final moments. Be careful about making spiritual or religious references unless you know those sentiments will be well received.

Avoid cliches like …

“It’s probably a blessing.” “I know just how you feel.” “He’s at peace now.” “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” “At least he/she is no longer suffering.” “It was her time.”

Don’t tell them what to do …

“You have to be strong now for your family (or business).” “Stay busy to take your mind off things.” “You’ll get over it in time and find somebody else.” “You’re young and can have more children.”

Bringing Food for the Bereaved

In many cultures, it is customary to bring food to the home of the deceased, since there probably will be many relatives arriving who need to be fed, and the family may have neither time nor energy to cook meals. Often the family’s church will organize the bringing of meals, or you can call ahead to see what is needed and when, so the family isn’t overwhelmed. Be sure to either use a disposable container or label your dish with your name and phone number if you need it back.

After the services…

Keep in touch with the bereaved. Be there for them when they are ready.
Remember birthdays and anniversaries of the death.
Offer to clean, cook or do other chores.
If appropriate, find out about support groups for bereaved parents and have the leader call the grieving parent to talk.
Send cards frequently — even six months after the death.
Praise the bereaved for even small accomplishments.

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Funeral Visitation Etiquette: Basic Guide To Visitations & Viewings

While most of us have to attend a funeral visitation and the funeral itself at some point in our lives, there is always a first time for people. What is expected of you? How do you act? What should you wear? Are there certain things to say or not to say? Should you avoid some topics? How do you support a grieving family? What if you don’t know anyone but the deceased? What is proper funeral visitation etiquette?

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Should You Attend The Viewing Or Visitation At The Funeral Home Or Visit The Home?

Navigating which portions of an event you should attend depends on some things. First, what is your relationship to the deceased ? Are you a friend or family member? Is there a service at a church or synagogue, and do you feel comfortable taking part in that service based on your own beliefs? Is the grieving family accepting visitors in their home? Are you hoping to help the family in some way?

If you are a close friend or family member, you should attend both the viewing and the funeral if you can.

If you are thinking about visiting the family at home shortly after their loved one has died and before a funeral service has happened (or perhaps been planned), you might want to plan that ahead. It is customary in many areas to bring food to the family’s home in the days after someone has passed away. Food items you bring should be something they can easily warm up, a cold food item they can just put out, or easy breakfast items.

If the wake or viewing is being held at a funeral home, there will be scheduled times for mourners to go and pay their respects. You should dress appropriately for a funeral . Although there is not a formal dress code, it is customary to wear either business attire or business casual.

What Do You Do At A Viewing Or Visitation At The Funeral Home?

There is viewing etiquette that visitors should follow. You don’t want to do anything to make things harder on family members during their difficult time. So what should you know in regards to wake etiquette?

Silence your Cell: This should seem obvious, but sometimes people forget proper etiquette in social situations. Your cell phone should be silenced or turned off when you go to a funeral viewing or visitation.
Sign the Guest Book: Most of the time, whether it is held at a funeral home or church, there is a guest book to sign. Ensure you do that so the deceased’s family can look back later and see who paid their respects.
Condolences: Your intention is to offer condolences to the immediate family and others grieving the loss. If you do not know who is emotionally most impacted by the loss, you can direct your question to others in attendance.
Say Goodbye: Understanding that the deceased person is no longer with you in body, many people need the closure of visitation to allow them to say goodbye. If there is an open casket, seeing the person affords you closure and a step toward accepting the loss.
Sympathy Card: The funeral is an emotional whirlwind for the grieving family. A nice touch is to bring a sympathy card and to write a short, fond memory inside. In some cultures, giving money is acceptable to help with funeral expenses, especially if the death is unexpected. However, you should know that in some cultures giving money is rude.
Flowers: If you desire to send flowers to the funeral, you should call a florist instead of bringing them yourself. The flower shop will get the funeral flowers there and put them on display before the visitation, so neither the family nor the funeral home staff will have to deal with them during the wake.
Share Memories: Sometimes, the opportunity will arise for you to share fond memories of the deceased. If it does, those grieving will likely enjoy hearing these.
Eulogy: Often, a close friend of the deceased is asked to offer a eulogy or to speak tributes. If you are asked to do this, give what you want to say some thought prior to the event.
Refreshments: There might be an area where they offer refreshments for grieving visitors. Other times it is only meant for the immediate family. Unless refreshments are in a common space, assume they are not for the general public. Most visitors are there briefly instead of the family, who will be there much longer.

What Happens At The Funeral Home?

What will occur at the funeral home varies based on local custom, religion, and what other events will be held. Sometimes when you go to a funeral home, the only thing happening there is a visitation, and then the event continues either later on or the next day at a church or another site.

Some families decide to do everything at the funeral home. When this happens, the obituary might read that there are clear hours for visiting and paying respects, followed by a service. The service can be held right in the main viewing room or at a chapel attached to the funeral home.

The body of the deceased may be displayed in a closed or open casket, or it might not be there at all. In cremations, the deceased person’s urn might be displayed alongside photos of the deceased.

Should You Participate In Prayers Or Rosaries At The Wake?

The decision to participate in prayers at a funeral visitation is a personal one . At Catholic wakes, the group prays the rosary at some point during the viewing. Although non-Catholics are allowed to participate in the rosary portion of the service, you might not feel comfortable doing so. The same is true of other prayers.

Does your religion allow you to say certain prayers? If not, it is okay to excuse yourself. Sometimes you can time out your visitation to avoid the potentially awkward experience of deciding not to participate in something you are not comfortable with.

A funeral service might have a handout that outlines what will happen, including the words for relevant prayers. That can help you know what to do and say. If you want to participate in a rosary service, bring a rosary and even a “cheat sheet” if you need help with what to say and do next.

Funeral Visitation Etiquette About What To Say Or Not Say To The Bereaved Family?

Funeral etiquette regarding what is acceptable to say or not say is important. Things to say:

“I’m sorry for your loss.”
“He was a great man.”
“The world is a darker place without her.“
“Is there any way I can support you?”
“My favorite memory of your loved one is….”
“My condolences.

Things not to say:

“I understand how you feel.”
“It was just his time.”
“At least he’s in a better place.”
“She lived a long life. “
“How did she die?”
“Just stay busy.”
“Was it a suicide?

Understand that these are just general things to say or not say. Every grieving person is different and will react to comments in their own way.

How Should You Respond to Inappropriate Comments If You Lost A Loved One?

I am often shocked at how insensitive people can be after someone experiences a loss. A friend chose a closed casket after losing a family member in a terrible accident, and people asked very crude questions about the state of the body. She gracefully responded with, “I’m shocked you would ask that.”

When losing a family member to lung cancer, I was shocked by how many people asked if she had been a smoker. My response was, “Why does that matter to you?”

In uncomfortable situations, there are some standard responses you can use.

I’m shocked you would ask that.”
“I don’t want to talk about that.”
“If that was information you needed, you would know.
“Why does it matter?“
“Excuse me. “(then just walk away)

Pam Berg is a former English teacher with a passion for writing. She has written for many years on a variety of topics and considers herself to be somewhat of a jack of all trades when it comes to writing. Although most of us tend to want to avoid the topic of death, whether it is us or a loved one, it is inevitable. Pam is dedicated to ensuring that as people are funeral planning they have access to a no-nonsense, straightforward laying out of the facts. However, she also recognizes that this is a topic that needs to be approached in a sensitive manner.

How to Pay Your Respects when Someone You Know Dies

Last Updated: November 10, 2022 References

This article was co-authored by Ken Breniman, LCSW, C-IAYT . Ken Breniman is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Yoga Therapist and Thanatologist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Ken has over 15 years experience of providing clinical support and community workshops utilizing a dynamic combination of traditional psychotherapy and yoga therapy. He specializes in eclectic non-denominational yoga guidance, grief therapy, complex trauma recovery and mindful mortal skills development. He has a MSW from Washington University in St. Louis and an MA Certification in Thanatology from Marian University of Fond du Lac. He became certified with the International Association of Yoga Therapists after completing his 500 training hours at Yoga Tree in San Francisco and Ananda Seva Mission in Santa Rosa, CA. There are 9 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 277,964 times.

Sometimes a death occurs when you aren’t particularly close to the person, but you still want to pay your respects. If a teacher, friend’s parent, or other person in your community dies, it’s nice to express sympathy to the family and honor the deceased. Pay respects by attending any memorial services for the person and offering condolences to their loved ones. Afterwards, it can be helpful to follow a few practices to remember the person.

Attending the Memorial

Make sure you know when and where the service will be held. Review the directions ahead of time to avoid getting lost and arriving late.

Look online or visit your local florist to choose a nice arrangement. Have them sent to the funeral home so that they are there prior to the memorial.
If you are sending flowers from a long distance, it may be helpful to contact florists in the person's area to have them send over your flowers.
Local and online florists can guide you on choosing and ordering arrangements that are designed specially for memorials.
A donation can be an alternative to flowers. Making a donation in the deceased’s name to a cause they cared about is a nice gesture. Check the obituary, as this is sometimes specified there.

Step 3 Ask someone to join you for support.

Another good option is to go with someone who has a similar relationship with the deceased as you. For instance, you might go with another classmate, if a teacher has died. Or, you might attend a friend’s parent’s funeral with another mutual friend.

Step 4 Arrive on time and dressed appropriately.

Do some research before you dress. If the person followed a certain religion, you might look to see if there are general expectations for clothing in that place of worship.
Go for solid-colored clothing choices in mute shades like navy, burgundy, or grey as a rule. Avoid bright colors and busy prints or patterns. Also, try to be modest—don’t wear anything too revealing, such as low-cut tops or mini skirts.
If you are attending a wake or viewing, the attire might be more relaxed or casual. Still, stick to subdued colors. Also, if you are going to a viewing, you can arrive at any time and approach the casket. Just make sure you greet the person's loved ones before viewing the body.

In some situations, a viewing, or wake, may be held immediately before the memorial or on a separate day. Wakes are usually more intimate but allow you to come and go as you please. The funeral itself, on the other hand, is more anonymous but requires you to be present for the entire service.

Showing Sympathy to Their Loved Ones

If you are attending a wake or viewing, you will typically greet and console the person's family before viewing the body.

Avoid phrases that minimize the person's experience, like "I know how you feel." Even if you have lost someone, too, this day is not about your own loss. Focus on the person who has died only instead of comparing their death to someone else's.
If you know the person is religious, it may be appropriate to communicate sincere words, like "I am praying for you and your family."

For example, you might say, “Ms. Henry, I am truly sorry for your loss. Mr. Henry was such a caring man. I’ll never forget that time he pulled over in the rain to help me with a flat tire. He was one of a kind.”

Make your intentions to help clear, such as saying, "I'll come by on Tuesday to help with cleaning or cooking." Pitching in with housecleaning, chores, or yard work can be helpful during this time.
In addition, you might drop off prepared foods like casseroles or sandwiches to ensure the family has food to eat. Other helpful gifts might include plastic or paper utensils, trash bags, paper towels, and household items, since the family may be hosting many guests.
You might also ask someone close to the family what holes exist in their needs. Take the initiative.
Oftentimes, everyone is supportive of mourners immediately after the death, but this support fades as time goes on. For this reason, stay in touch with the family and continue to help out in the weeks after the funeral.

You may leave your number with someone and suggest that they call you later if they’d like to talk more.

You might write a simple message on your card, such as "I am thinking of you and your family during your time of grief."
You might have your card mailed to the site of the memorial (with flowers) or you might send it to the person's family home, if you are close to the family.
Respect the family’s wishes and space. Some might welcome a personal visit, but others may want to grieve privately and be alone for a time.

Remembering the Deceased

Talk about the great times you had with the person, and relay the qualities about them you will miss. If you want, you may try to keep it upbeat by telling funny stories about experiences you shared with the deceased.

Creating a journal can be a useful grieving technique for people who process things visually rather than verbally. It can also help you explore why you might be so affected by a person’s passing.

Step 4 Start a new tradition to honor the person.

You might also ask other mourners to join you. For instance, you might go to lunch every other Friday at the person’s favorite restaurant.

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When someone you know dies, it’s polite to pay your respects to their family and honor their memory. To pay your respects to their family, you can send a condolence card or flowers. Alternatively, send some pre-prepared meals, since they might be too busy or down to cook for themselves. You can give these to the family yourself if you live nearby or arrange for them to be delivered by a courier. If you’re going in person, say something like, “I’m so sorry for your loss.” Then, offer to help if they need assistance with anything. You can also briefly share a fond memory of their loved one, like, “I’ll never forget the time he helped me fix my car in the rain.” If you’re invited to the memorial or wake, you’ll usually have an opportunity to say goodbye to the deceased. You don’t have to do this, but if you want to, just go up to the casket when directed and say goodbye. For more tips from our co-author, including how to start a tradition to honor the deceased, read on. Did this summary help you? Yes No

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How Can You Pay Your Respects in a Meaningful Way?

Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy. Finding the right words and actions to show your support can be a daunting task. You may not need to say a lot, there are simple and meaningful ways to pay your respects, from sending sympathy cards to just being there.

Pay Your Respects to the Family of the Departed

Even if you plan to attend the funeral or Celebration of Life , you should send a sympathy card or note to the family. Use postal mail or hand deliver it to their home for a personal touch and share your heartfelt condolences and memories of the departed.

Attending the Ceremonial Events

When attending a visitation or funeral, respect the atmosphere . While all-black attire isn’t necessary, avoid overly casual or vibrant clothing. Understand that the family may be preoccupied and keep your remarks brief and empathetic.

Flowers are a traditional way to remember the deceased

Flowers and plants are a traditional way to honor the departed but consider whether the family would prefer donations to a memorial or charity in their memory. Consult the funeral home or obituary for guidance on the family’s wishes.

Giving a Eulogy

If the family requests you to speak , don’t feel overwhelmed. Focus on the departed, jot down your thoughts, and practice to ensure a concise and heartfelt tribute. Find a theme that ties your memories together and speak sincerely from your heart.

In times of grief, showing empathy and support is paramount. Your genuine gestures of condolence will mean the world to those who have lost a loved one. Remember, you don’t need to make any grand gestures, it’s just about being there for them.

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60 Thoughtful Condolence Messages to Send to Family or Friends

Let these notes be a source of comfort for those mourning.

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Condolence Messages for a Colleague

Condolence messages for someone who lost a parent, condolence messages for someone who lost a spouse, condolence messages to someone who lost a sibling, condolence messages for someone who lost a child.

“Handwritten notes are one of the most personal forms of communication,” says Tanea Smith, owner of She’s Got Papers , an online stationery boutique. “The recipient may forget the day you called or visited but your card is a keepsake. It will be kept and reread.”

Need some help putting pen to paper? Here are a few things to remember next time you go to write one.

How to Write a Condolence Message

Whether it’s a friend coping with the sudden loss of a spouse or a colleague whose mom recently passed, you can't go wrong expressing heartfelt sentiments, like the ones listed below, along with an authentic and a personal memory or anecdote. But more importantly, there are some things you shouldn’t do.

“Never write, ‘They're in a better place and there's no more pain,’” says Smith. “While you may feel this way, any phrase that brings attention to the death can produce more grief and sadness. You want your words to do the opposite, not highlighting the death but celebrating the life… just be sure to avoid writing things that could be upsetting or misinterpreted.”

Shirley Enebrad, an author and certified grief recovery specialist agrees. “Never make it about you and your experience with loss,” she says. “Focus on the griever and his or her feelings. Absolutely never say, "I know how you feel.” Additionally, it’s always best not to ask how you can help. “Do not ask them to contact you if they need anything,” Enebrad says.

Also, remember to send your sympathy card within the first couple of weeks. However, if you miss that opportunity, it’s never too late. In fact, it might have a positive impact on the grieving recipient who may feel like everyone has moved on while they’re still grappling with their loss.

Condolence Messages for a Friend

“I know there are no words that can ease your pain. Just know that I’ll always be here for you no matter what.”
“Thinking of you during this difficult time.”
“Sending healing prayers and comfort during this tough time.”
“You’re not alone. I’m here to be a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen to anything that you may want to share.”
“My heart goes out to you for the loss of your dear friend. I know how much she meant to you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.”
“I cannot imagine the pain and heartache you’re feeling. I am praying for your peace and comfort.”
“Losing someone so close is so hard. I will be here to support you at any time and any hour. Sending you so much love.
“I know that grief comes in waves. That’s why I intend to be with you throughout this difficult journey.”
“Be kind and gentle with yourself. Take your time and know that you have my full support.”
“I recall how much time you two spent together. You were virtually inseparable. May all your wonderful memories comfort you during this heartbreaking time.”

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“Thinking of you and your family as you celebrate the life of your beloved.”
“May your happy memories give you peace and comfort during this challenging time.”
“I am sharing in your sadness as you remember your loved one.”
“Praying for you during this difficult time. If you ever want to talk, I’m here.”
“Deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss.”
“Words cannot express how saddened we are to learn of your loss. Please take your time. We are all here for you.”
“My heartfelt sympathy to you and yours at this sad time.”
“Please accept my sincere condolences.”
“My heart breaks for you. I’m here to listen to any stories you may want to share about your loved one.”
“I didn’t have the pleasure of knowing your mom, but I’m sure she was a special person because she raised an amazing human being: you. Wishing you peace and comfort during this unimaginable time.”
“Your dad’s amazing personality lives on through you. Sending you love during this difficult time.”
“There is no one in this world like your mother. She was a special person, and she will always be with you.”
“Your mother will forever remain in our hearts and memories.”
“Your father was such an inspiration in my life —I’ll never forget the valuable lessons he taught me.”
“Nothing I can say will take away the pain you’re experiencing. Just want you to know that I care about you, and I share in your sadness.”
“May you look back on the precious memories and find peace in knowing that your father raised an amazing person.”
“A mother’s love is eternal. Hold on to that infinite love and let it be your guiding light.”
“I will always cherish the wonderful memories I have with your dad. He will be forever missed.”
“From what I’ve heard, your mother was a phenomenal woman. What good memories you must have. Lean on them to remind you of the joy she brought into your life”
“I’m a firm believer that when we lose someone close to us, like a father, they continue to live on through us and give us unbelievable strength. They’re so connected to us that they become a part of us.”

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“Love never dies. Your wife’s love for you is everlasting.”
“Your husband was such a wonderful man. He was also an outstanding partner who will live in our hearts and memories forever.”
“No words can express how sorry I am for the loss of your wife. I didn’t know her personally, but I know how much you loved her, and I am here for you.”
“I know your husband must’ve been an amazing man because you always beamed with pride whenever you spoke of him. Sending you an abundance of love.”
“It was such a privilege and honor to work with your wife. She was an incredibly smart and thoughtful woman. May her memory live on forever.”
“I’ll always admire the love shared between you and your husband. You shared a one-of-kind bond that can never be broken.”
“I’m deeply sorry for the loss of your beloved partner. You complemented each other like no other couple I know. May your precious memories bring you comfort.”
“I was incredibly saddened to hear about the passing of your dear wife. She was always so thoughtful and kind. She will truly be missed.”
“Your partner was such a special person. They will live in my heart forever.”
“Someone who shared so much life with you will always be a part of you. Bonds like yours are forever.”
"Your sister/brother was such an important part of your life, and her/his loss is felt deeply by so many. Please accept my sincerest condolences."
"Your sister/brother will always be remembered for the amazing person she was. May her/his memory bring you comfort and peace."
"Your sister/brother's spirit will live on through all the lives she/he touched. She/he was an incredible person and will be greatly missed."
"Losing a sibling is never easy, but please know that you have a friend in me who will always be there for you."
"Please know that you are in my dearest thoughts and prayers. I hope that you find comfort in the memories you shared with your sister/brother."
"Your sister/brother's memory will always live on through the love she/he shared with others. May her/his light continue to shine on through you."
"I was both shocked and saddened to hear about the loss of your brother/sister. She/he was an incredible friend and I know the best sibling anyone could ask for. Please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss."
"Hearing about your sister/brother’s unexpected passing has left me heartbroken for you. No one is ever prepared to say goodbye under such tragic circumstances. Stay strong and lean on loved ones who can offer comfort during this unimaginably painful time. You are not alone."
"The world has lost a good man, and you have lost a brother. This is a loss for all of us, but the grief and sorrow that you feel are the deepest and most poignant and personal. Please reach out if there's any way we can help."
"I didn't know your sister, but I'd like to know more about her. If you ever want to remember her or share, I would like to hear about who she was and your times together."

"There are no words that can express the depth of sorrow I feel for your loss. Your precious daughter/son's memory will forever remain in our hearts."
"From our family to yours, we cannot tell you how much we are going to miss (insert child's name). She/he was truly an incredible child that we feel honored to have known."
"I pray that as the months and years pass, you find peace in the beautiful memories you created together as a family. She will live on in your hearts."
"I so appreciate you opening up to me about your miscarriage. I know I can't do anything to make this better, but I am here for you for whatever you need at anytime."
"The loss of a child is a pain that words cannot heal. I offer my heartfelt condolences and hope that the cherished moments you shared will bring you some comfort."
"Although I never met (insert child's name), I've heard just how incredible she/he was. I hope you do not hesitate to reach out for anything that you need during this time.
"I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Please know that my heart aches for you and your family during this unimaginable time of grief."
"During this time of grief, may you find solace in the love and memories you shared with your son/daughter. Her/he spirit lives on in the lives she/he touched."
"Your daughter/son had an incredible impact on the world in his short time here. She/he will always be remembered and cherished."
"I offer my deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved daughter/son. Her/his time with us was too short, but her/his impact was immeasurable."

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Why write sympathy notes.

When someone dies, all we have left are our memories. Sympathy notes that express your condolences bring comfort to the bereaved. The most meaningful ones include your thoughts, personal memories and, if possible, a treasured story.

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12 Ways You Can Pay Respects If You're Far Away

Updated 05/11/2022

Published 03/20/2020

Dr. Alejandra Vasquez, JD, CT

Certified Grief Counselor

Pay respects to a loved one that passed even as you shelter in place, are quarantined, or are far away with one of these ideas.

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When a "shelter-in-place" mandate is in effect, and you've been ordered to avoid all non-essential business and travel, there's little you can do to avoid staying at home and adhering to the government's enacted policies. To avoid escalating an already dire situation, most state and local governments have required its citizens to stay at home to prevent the spread of disease. Sadly, death waits for no good time to announce itself. But it begs the question, what happens then when you get the news that a loved one has died and there is no in-person funeral?

Unfortunately, when a pandemic or similar disastrous situations are happening, visitation at hospitals and attendance at funerals can be limited or altogether eliminated. With COVID-19, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention or CDC has set in place certain restrictions to prevent or curtail the spread of disease. They've done so to prioritize the health and safety of the public. If you are experiencing loss in the middle of serious uncertainty, the following ways may help you pay respects while in quarantine.

1. Create a Video Memorial

When a family has opted to not have a funeral service , or a global crisis like COVID-19 has made it impossible to hold one, you can still honor the life of the person who died and pay your final respects.

One way is by creating a video memorial to share with family and friends. You can ask everyone in your social circle who knew them well to participate by sending you photographs and sharing stories about the deceased. You can then turn these memories into a video that you send out electronically to everyone who participated.

2. Video Chat With the Family

When you are unable to make the journey to pay respects, consider video chatting with the family to offer your words of sympathy and condolences. There are free apps you can download so that anyone with access to a smartphone can take part in video conferencing.

You may have to take the time to walk the older generation through the download and setup process. But once it's done, they can now use this function to video chat with other friends and family. Most older adults may have some difficulty with technology. Having patience and being prepared to offer them a tutorial will go a long way in showing them how much you care.

3. Visit the Family at Home at a Later Date

Depending on your faith, funerals and end of life rituals usually involve having family and friends attend a gathering or memorial service to pay their respects and say their goodbyes. During quarantine for COVID-19, it may not always be possible to hold gatherings of large groups, even for funerals and burials.

You might consider scheduling a time with the family for you to visit them in their home to pay your final respects in the future. If you are feeling any symptoms of illness, you may want to consider postponing your visit for a later time, too.

4. Create an Online Memorial Page

Practicing social distancing and avoiding close contact with others until the pandemic eases is the responsible thing to do. You can do your part while still paying your respects by creating an online memorial page dedicated to your loved one who has died.

You may want to discuss with the family if the page should be made public, or if it should be accessible to only close family and friends. When deciding who should have access, consider going over a "guest list" with the family to make sure no one is omitted from participating. Being careful to include everyone close to the deceased should help in avoiding any hurt feelings later on when everyone is able to reunite again.

5. Send a Gift

Sending sympathy gifts to offer condolences is appropriate at any time, especially when faced with social distancing or other similar situations. If you’re unable to leave your home to visit the family, you can send a bouquet of fresh flowers days or weeks after the notice of death. A simple message expressing your condolences will let them know you are thinking of them and are acknowledging the death of their loved one.

When deciding whether to send flowers, consider the type of flowers and the message you'll include. Many people may not want to receive flowers that remind them of a funeral home or death. Consider sending seasonal flowers that aren't associated with death and dying. A potted plant that they can later hang in their patio or replant in their garden also makes a lovely gift that will remind them of their loved one for months to come.

While flowers are customary to send to the family, there are also many other thoughtful gifts that you can send to convey your regret for their loss. Various online retailers offer sympathy gifts that can be delivered to your loved one's home. Some sympathy gift ideas include:

Amazing Grace music box
Memorial wind chime
Subscription to a meal delivery service
Piece of art
Gift basket with fresh fruit and other foods
Scented candle
Commemorative piece of jewelry
Bird feeder
Engraved plaque
Small birdbath or water fountain

6. Sign the Online Guestbook

A digital memorial or online guestbook provides an opportunity for you to send sympathy messages to the family and share your memories of your loved one with others. It also serves as a way to honor the memory of your loved one's life and accomplishments.

A guestbook online has the option to be available indefinitely for others to memorialize their thoughts and messages of love and condolences. When signing the digital guestbook, consider leaving a well-thought-out message that is both appropriate and tasteful - keeping in line with the tone of the deceased’s personality and social standing when they were still alive.

7. Light a Candle

During a national or international crisis, sometimes it can be impossible to leave for anything other than "essential" travel. You can still honor the life of your deceased loved one from inside the confines of your home by lighting a memorial candle and setting aside some quiet time for prayer and reflection.

Consider setting up a special altar with a photograph of your loved one, some flowers, and a special prayer candle dedicated in their honor. This can be your go-to shrine where you can sit and talk to your loved one, and a peaceful place for solitude when you need some alone time to process your grief.

8. Send a Card

As long as the post office is still open for business, you can send your loved ones a sympathy card in the mail. If you are stuck at home, you can make a DIY card using the supplies you have on hand.

Start by looking through any old cards that you may have received from others, and any new ones that you may have purchased and stored away for a rainy day. You can recycle these cards by cutting and pasting to make a new one that fits the occasion.

If you have children, now may be a good time to raid their construction paper supply. Don't feel obligated to explain your homemade card. When you are in quarantine, it's understandable that you’re working with what you have on hand. The message conveyed in your words of sympathy is what's important.

9. Make a Donation

You can always choose a favorite charity or one that was close to the heart of your loved one that passed away, and donate in their honor . The donation amount should take into consideration your budget and ability to give, not the financial or social standing of the person who passed away.

Unless you can afford to give without causing you any financial strain, use your best judgment in deciding the amount to give, not the family’s pressure to give more than you can afford.

You can opt for a one-time gift, or consider setting up legacy gifting where you give a certain amount at predetermined times of the year. When you donate in someone’s name, you won’t be listed as the donor. The person whose life you are honoring will be the name used when referencing your donation.

10. Read Scripture or Religious Books

Another way of paying your respects while quarantined is to bring out those books on scripture that you’ve been meaning to read and never have. You can pledge to read the Bible from cover to cover, memorize passages in the Quran, or learn to recite the Buddhist precepts for righteous living.

These are examples of the many ways that you can use your free time in a way that not only honors your loved one's memory, but that allows you to grow in your spirituality. You can also consider taking this time to teach your children or younger members of your family about faith-based traditions and rituals passed down from generation to generation.

11. Have an Online Family Funeral

One way of having a funeral without actually having one is to schedule a time for your family to host a group video chat so that you can have a private viewing and memorial service in the privacy of your homes.

You can enlist the help of your funeral director in video conferencing the part of the services that would normally be held in person such as the viewing, eulogy and prayer session led by your religious leader. Family can then each take turns in saying a few words of remembrance and offering virtual hugs and condolences.

12. Stitch a Quilt

A beautiful way to honor someone you love and have lost is to gather favorite pieces of their clothing and sewing them into a memorial quilt to give as a gift to the spouse or family. The blanket will offer comfort and protection from the cold on those days when a little extra support is needed in the grieving process.

It's best to use unlaundered old favorites that still hold the scent of your loved one. Much like a child's security blanket, this one will provide a special closeness to the departed that will surely bring comfort to the recipient.

Paying Respect No Matter The Circumstances

Facing unchartered territory when it comes to navigating through the rules of social distancing can be very difficult. Global crises can change the way we live, work, and interact with one another.

Fortunately we still have options when it comes to dealing with the death of a loved one, and the time frames in which we choose to celebrate and honor their lives. These uncertain times will pass, and then we can revisit how we choose to memorialize their passing.

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How To Offer Condolences

With so many forms of communication available, it can be challenging to figure out the most appropriate means of contacting someone who has just experienced a death.

The goal of contacting someone who has just experienced a death is to let the person know you’re thinking about him or her, and that he or she has your support and sympathy. To this end, the form of communication you choose should be the one that is least stressful or overwhelming for the bereaved to receive.

Managing Your Expectations

In general, when offering condolences, it’s important to keep in mind what the bereaved is going through, not only in terms of the emotional pain and difficulty he or she is likely experiencing, but also in terms of the complex and stressful funeral planning he or she may be dealing with. In light of these realities, the bereaved may not immediately respond to your contact. This is natural, and is generally not a reflection of the bereaved person’s feelings towards you but rather a response to the difficult situation he or she is in.

Unless the bereaved or someone working closely with the bereaved has invited you to his or her home or a family home, it is best not to show up unannounced. However, if you have been invited to the home (by the bereaved or someone working closely with the bereaved) or if the family is receiving people at their home, it is appropriate to stop by.

Before you visit : Before you visit, check to see if the bereaved or the family needs anything that you can bring ( prepared food , toilet paper, trash bags, etc.). If you bring prepared food in your own dish, write your name on the bottom of the dish so that the family is easily able to return the dish to you. It is almost always appropriate to bring flowers with a condolence card.

During your visit : Between the time a death occurs and the funeral or memorial service takes place, there is often a lull in which the family is making arrangements but is otherwise unoccupied. Because of this, visits to the home can range in time, from a quick visit to hours spent with the family. Be prepared to stay at the home or leave the home as needed. You may also meet people at the family home who you don’t know. Be proactive and introduce yourself , share how you are related to the bereaved or the person who died, and try to make other guests feel as comfortable as you would like to feel. Also be prepared to help as needed. From straightening up the house to running errands to playing with children, there are likely going to be many things you can do to help while you’re visiting. If there aren’t things for you to do, however, don’t feel like you should be doing something and don’t badger the bereaved or the family to find things for you to do. Merely being with the family in their home may be enough.

For tips on how to help before the funeral, see our article How You Can Help a Grieving Person Before the Funeral .

If you are an intimate friend of the bereaved, calling to offer your condolences is appropriate, and may be a source of strength and support for the bereaved. However, if you are a more casual friend, a phone call may be overwhelming at an already stressful time. If you’re unsure whether or not you should call, it’s usually a good idea to call.

Sending an email expressing your condolences is always a good idea, as it allows the recipient to take his or her time responding. Though the bereaved may not be checking his or her email in the days immediately surrounding the death, he or she can respond when it’s most convenient.

As texting is becoming a more widespread form of communication, there are many people who might feel perfectly comfortable receiving a condolence text. However, many people still think of texting as a too-casual form of communication, especially for something as serious as a condolence note. Before you text the bereaved think about whether he or she would appreciate a text message or would feel like a text is insensitive.

Sending A Handwritten Note

The most traditional method of reaching out, sending a letter or card expressing your condolences to the bereaved is always welcome, and gives the recipient plenty of time and space to respond. If you don’t have the mailing address for the bereaved or the family, try to get that information from someone other than those you’re sending the letter to, such as a friend or extended family member. Sending a handwritten note is often the most appropriate way to reach out when contacting an older person.

Facebook, Twitter, And Other Social Media Outlets

The public nature of Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites makes offering condolences there tricky. As a rule, on social media sites you should only offer your condolences if the person has acknowledged the situation, or how he or she is feeling. You should not be the one who announces to the world that the person has just experienced a loss. That said, if the person has acknowledged the loss publicly, you should feel free to express your condolences in response. You may also send the person a private message expressing your condolences.

For advice on what to say (and what not to say) to someone who has just experienced a loss, see our article How to Express Sympathy: What to Say and What Not to Say .

Key N. Korean officials pay condolence visit to Russian Embassy in Pyongyang over Moscow attack

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SEOUL, March 26 (Yonhap) -- Senior North Korean officials visited the Russian Embassy in Pyongyang on Tuesday to express their deep condolences to the victims of the recent terrorist attack in Moscow and their bereaved families, state media reported.

Five leading officials from the ruling Workers' Party of Korea (WPK) and the defense and foreign ministries paid a condolence visit to the embassy at dawn Tuesday, according to the Korean Central News Agency (KCNA).

The officials are Jo Yong-won, secretary for organizational affairs at the WPK; Pak Jong-chon, vice chairman of the WPK's central military commission; Ri Il-hwan, a WPK secretary; Defense Minister Kang Sun-nam; and Foreign Minister Choe Son-hui.

They "expressed deep condolences to the bereaved families and victims, saying that the Korean people share sorrow with the Russian people at this moment," the KCNA said, adding that they also voiced North Korea's "consistent stand against all sorts of terrorism."

Gunmen opened fire at the Crocus City Hall concert venue outside Moscow on Friday, leaving at least 139 dead, with the Islamic State group claiming responsibility.

North Korean leader Kim Jong-un sent a message of condolence to Russian President Vladimir Putin on Saturday over the deadly shooting, expressing his "deep condolences and sympathy" to the victims and their bereaved families, according to state media.

Since the summit between Kim and Putin in September last year, North Korea and Russia have been deepening their bilateral ties amid suspicions that Pyongyang has provided weapons to Moscow for its use in Russia's war with Ukraine.

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75 condolence messages to offer your love and support

These kind gestures will remind loved ones they're not alone in their grief.

There's no greater sadness than losing a friend or loved one.

In the difficult days following a loss, it's often the support of friends and loved ones that help lesson the pain, bringing comfort and peace during a time of deep sorrow.

“It’s very lonely when you lose someone because your feelings and experience are unique,” Dr. Robin Grant-Hall, clinical psychologist, tells TODAY.com. “People who care need to let the person know that you are there for them.”

However, it's not always easy to know what condolence message to write in a card or to text to someone who is going through a hard time.

According to Grant-Hall, when expressing your sympathy, it's important to recognize the loss , as well as offer someone the much-needed reassurance that in the weeks and months ahead, you'll be there to support them.

To help put your feelings into words, we've gathered a list of condolence messages and sympathy quotes to assist you in composing a text or card.

Though your kind gesture may not ease their sorrow, it will remind them that they are not alone , that you're thinking of them and sharing in the burden of their loss. And nothing means more than that.

Condolence messages to offer support

From across the miles, we send our heartfelt sympathy and healing prayers during this difficult time.
A love that deep never fades in memory, it only grows stronger in your heart. Wishing you peace and comfort during this sad time.
May happy memories help lesson your sorrow during these difficult days. Thinking of you.
Keeping you close in our hearts. Our deepest sympathy.
Please know that I am just a call or text away. Reach out anytime for any reason. I'm here for you now and always.
As you navigate the difficult days ahead, please know that you aren't alone. We are here to help.
Sometimes there are no words for a loss so great. Praying for healing in the days to come. Thinking of you.

A light that dims here on earth, shines that much brighter in the night sky.
A memory on the breeze, a whisper through the trees that says, “They will never be forgotten.”
May love and comfort wrap you in their warm embrace during this difficult time.
In these moments, when there are no words, know that the ones we love remain beside us, now and always.
During this difficult time, may faith, family and friends bring you peace.
The light will be on in my heart for whenever it gets too dark.

Sending you strength today and peace in all the days ahead.
Those we love never truly leave us, but rather remain a song that will forever be carried in the wind.
May every sunrise remind you of the lingering beauty of yesterday's sunset.
Those who live in our memories are never truly gone.

Short condolence messages

“It's so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” — John Steinbeck
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” — Mahatma Gandhi
“Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.” — Mark Twain
“Every sunset brings the promise of a new dawn.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Only in darkness can you see the stars.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

“Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are.” — Markus Zusak, “I Am the Messenger”
“The wind is us — it gathers and remembers all our voices, then sends them talking and telling through the leaves and the fields.” — Truman Capote
“The stars show us the path but the flowers travel with us.” — Bhuwan Thapaliya

Short condolence messages for the loss of any loved one

The candle may go out, but the memory of its light remains.
We’ve shared so much through the years and I’m here now to share the weight of your loss. Whatever you need, I’m standing by.
Our/my heartfelt condolences for your loss.
Our/my thoughts are with you during this sad time.
Words of sympathy feel inadequate in expressing grief and sorrow for a loss so great. Sending a warm embrace and all my love during this sad time.
Wishing you peace and comfort during these difficult days.

I’m here to lend an ear or shoulder should you need one.
Even when we can’t see them, the stars still shine. Deepest sympathy.
I’m so sad for your loss. Thinking of you.
Sharing in your sorrow and here for you in the days ahead.
Thinking of you and sending my love during this difficult time.
My heart goes out to you and your family. My deepest condolences.

Sending thoughts of comfort and all my love.
If you were here, I’d give you a hug. I’m so sorry for your loss.
With love and remembrance, we share in your sorrow.
There are no words for such a sad time. My condolences.
Caring thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

Condolence messages for the loss of a friend or coworker

Those we love never truly leave us. Sending our love and sympathy to you.
Sending you strength and support during this difficult time.
I wanted to reach out and let you know that I’m here for anything you need. I’m so sorry for your loss.
In this sorrowful time, sending thoughts of comfort and hope that you find strength to get through the difficult days ahead. We’re here for you.
I share in your grief and send you all my love in this time of sadness.

Our deepest sympathy to you and your family. Hoping that the support of loved ones brings you comfort during this sad time.
A hug from me to you to let you know that today and every day, you are in my heart and thoughts. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Gone, but never far from our hearts. Deepest sympathy for your loss.
You need only look in your heart to find what is lost. Sending our condolences to you and your family.
If there wasn’t so much love, it wouldn’t be this hard to say goodbye. Our thoughts are with you.

Condolence messages for the loss of a parent

Your mom was the brightest light in a sky full of stars. Sending love and support during this hard time.
There’s nothing to say to ease the loss of a mother. We are here for you and send our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
In loving memory of your mom. Thinking of you and hoping you find peace and strength in the days ahead.
Mothers never truly leave us. You need only look in your heart and she’ll be there. So sad for your loss.
Wishing you comfort and remembering the kind spirit that was your mom. Our condolences for your loss.

May you find peace and comfort in your father’s memory.
Though I didn’t know your father, I know you, and that means he must have amazing. I’m so sad for your loss.
There isn’t anyone I know who didn’t look up to your dad. He was one of the kindest, most genuine people I ever met. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
May you always feel his hand on your shoulder and hear his laugh echo in your heart. Our heartfelt condolences for the loss of your father.
It’s hard to say goodbye and even harder when it’s to someone like your dad. He was one-of-a-kind and will be missed by everyone.

Condolence messages for the loss of partner

In loving memory of your husband, a person whose kindness and generous spirit touched the lives of everyone who knew him. He will be so missed.
When something like this happens, it leaves everyone figuring out how to pick up the pieces. There are no words, only love and support during this sorrowful time. I am here for you.
Our deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved husband. He leaves behind an eternal flame in our hearts. Our thoughts are with you.
Even when we cannot see the sun, it is still there, shining down from the sky and spreading its warmth so that we may one day bask in it again.
There are no words for the loss of your wife, a person who was cherished by everyone who knew her. Our thoughts and love are with you in this time of sorrow.
She shined so bright that the memory of her light will never dim. Sending strength and comfort.
Everyone who knew her considered themselves lucky, myself included. I’m here to offer an ear or shoulder should you need one.
In loving memory of your wife: She was loved deeply by everyone who knew her. Hoping the support of friends and family bring you comfort at this difficult time.

Condolence messages for the loss of a family member

Although I never met your sister, I feel like I knew her through you. I’m so sad for your loss and wish you strength in the days ahead.
Your sister was sincerely one of my favorite people and I know she was yours, too. Hoping the love of friends and family see you through this sad time.
In heartfelt memory of your loved one, someone who brought a smile to every occasion. Thinking of you.
Brothers are special. Yours was exceptional. Wishing you peace and comfort at this sad time.
Thinking of your cousin and how much you loved him/her. There’s nothing to say for a loss so great. Our condolences at this sad time.

We are saddened to learn of your loss. Please know that we’re thinking of you and are here for anything you may need.
Remembering your grandmother/grandfather with love at this sad time. Sending condolences to you and your family.
My condolences on the loss of your uncle. I know how special he was to you and hope you find peace during this sad time.
Your (loved one) was completely outrageous — in all the best ways possible. It’s hard to imagine a world without them in it. They leave behind so many wonderful memories, which I hope brings you comfort during these difficult days.
With a loss so great, there are simply no words to ease the pain. If there were, I would use them now. Please know that I’m here.

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Sen. Eteng Jones Paid condolence visit to Mother of former First Lady on the demise of her Husband

SENATOR ETENG WILLIAMS PAYS CONDOLENCE VISIT TO THE MOTHER OF FORMER FIRST LADY, MRS MARY AKPO ON THE LOSS OF HER HUSBAND CHIEF FRANCIS INGWUBEL AKPO

The Senator Representing Cross River Central Senatorial District, Senator Eteng Jonah Williams, on Monday, paid a condolence visit to the Mother of former First Lady of Cross River State, Mrs Mary Akpo, in Abuja, over the loss of her husband, Chief. Francis Ingwubel Akpo.

He passed at the age of 83 on Friday 29th March, 2024.

Senator Williams described the death of the father of former First Lady, Dr. Mrs. Linda Ayade as a great loss not only to the Akpo family but also to the entire Cross River State

He said the late patriarch was a devout Catholic and a man of great virtues who lived a life of service to God and humanity.

“On behalf of the people of Cross River Central Senatorial District, I express our deepest condolences to our former Governor and his beloved wife, Sen. Prof Ben Ayade, CON and Dr. Mrs Linda Ayade, my dear brother and his wife, Prof. John Inyang and Mrs Philomina Inyang, Papa’s Wife, Mrs. Mary Akpo and the entire Akpo family at this moment of grief.

“We pray that God Almighty will grant the deceased eternal rest and give the family the fortitude to bear the loss,” the statement read.

Senator Williams also urged the deceased family to take solace in knowing that their father lived a fulfilled life and left behind a legacy of service, dedication, and very highly placed children and in-laws in society.

Responding, Prof. John Inyang who reminisced on the bond he had shared with his late father-in-law, described Late Chief Francis Ingwubel Akpo as his mentor and confidant, stating that no one can fill the gap created by his death.

Prof Inyang thanked the Senator for the love shown to the faint even at this trying moment.

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Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu of Lagos State, on Friday, paid condolence visit to the Speaker of the state’s House of Assembly, Rt. Hon. Mudashiru Obasa, over the death of his beloved father, Alhaji Sulaiman Obasa.

Governor Sanwo-Olu was accompanied by the Secretary to the Lagos State Government, Barr. (Mrs) Abimbola Salu-Hudeyin; Head of Service, Mr. Olabode Agoro; Chief of Staff, Mr. Tayo Ayinde; and other members of the State Executive Council.

Sanwo-Olu and his cabinet members, during the visit to Obasa’s residence in the Agege area of Lagos, presented a condolence letter to the Speaker and his family on behalf of the Lagos State Government.

Alhaji Sulaiman Obasa, a businessman with an interest in transportation, oil and gas, died early Tuesday, May 21, 2024, at the age of 83 and was laid to rest that day according to Islamic rites.

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Speaking during the condolence visit, Governor Sanwo-Olu said, “We are here to commiserate with you (Obasa) on behalf of the cabinet and the entire people of Lagos State.

“This period has been difficult for all of us in Lagos State in one form or another.

“Losing one’s parent is a very difficult experience, but we are consoled by the fact that Alhaji Sulaiman Obasa lived a fulfilled life and brought forth good children who are carrying on his legacy.

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“I pray that God will be with you and the entire Obasa family. God will uphold us, and everything we are doing will be to the benefit of Lagos State and the residents of the state.”

Responding to the gesture by Governor Sanwo-Olu and the State Executive Council, Obasa commended the cordial relationship between the executive and legislative arms of government in Lagos State.

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The Speaker also used the medium to debunk the insinuation in some quarters that he is not on good terms with Governor Sanwo-Olu. He said both of them are “siblings from the same father” who have the same purpose, intention, and mission, which is to serve the people of Lagos State.

“I hold him (Governor) in high esteem and respect him. I don’t have any issues with the Governor. Some people said I was fighting with the Governor, but there is nothing the Governor brought to me that I rejected. There is nothing that he will ask me to do that I will not do because we are siblings from the same father.

“There is no way brothers will fight, and the father will be looking at them fighting. We have the same purpose, intention, and mission, which is to serve the people of Lagos.

“Mr. Governor, you are my brother anytime, any day. Any time you call, I will be there with my colleagues. I thank God for you because whatever we do in the House of Assembly is because you are supporting me. If you don’t support me, there is no way I will get the attention, love, support, and cooperation of the other 39 members.

“As a Speaker, I am just first among equals; we are all the same in the House of Assembly. It is because of your understanding and cooperation that we have a team in the House of Assembly, and the team is working for you.” Obasa assured Governor Sanwo-Olu.

Obasa also charged public office holders to be accountable to the public.

He said, “There is no amount of money that you have acquired that will sustain you. The only thing that will remain is what you have done for your community. Our purpose and intention are to leave a good legacy. So, when we raise our voice, it is because we think we have not done something that we are supposed to do.

“We shouldn’t be selfish and particular about ourselves but about the public because there will come a time when we will leave the office and people will make reference to what we have done and our achievements in office.”

Governor Sanwo-Olu presented a condolence letter, which he personally signed on behalf of the Government and people of Lagos State to the Speaker.

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He fell ill on a cruise. before he boarded the rescue boat, they handed him the bill.

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On the last full day of a Bahamas excursion, Vincent Wasney had three epileptic seizures. While being evacuated, he received a bill for expenses incurred during the cruise. Kristen Norman for KFF Health News hide caption

On the last full day of a Bahamas excursion, Vincent Wasney had three epileptic seizures. While being evacuated, he received a bill for expenses incurred during the cruise.

Vincent Wasney and his fiancée, Sarah Eberlein, had never visited the ocean. They'd never even been on a plane. But when they bought their first home in Saginaw, Michigan, in 2018, their real estate agent gifted them tickets for a Royal Caribbean cruise.

After two years of delays due to the coronavirus pandemic, they set sail in December 2022.

The couple chose a cruise destined for the Bahamas in part because it included a trip to CocoCay, a private island accessible to Royal Caribbean passengers that featured a water park, balloon rides, and an excursion swimming with pigs.

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It was on that day on CocoCay when Wasney, 31, started feeling off, he said.

The next morning, as the couple made plans in their cabin for the last full day of the trip, Wasney made a pained noise. Eberlein saw him having a seizure in bed, with blood coming out of his mouth from biting his tongue. She opened their door to find help and happened upon another guest, who roused his wife, an emergency room physician.

Wasney was able to climb into a wheelchair brought by the ship's medical crew to take him down to the medical facility, where he was given anticonvulsants and fluids and monitored before being released.

Vincent had had seizures in the past, starting about ten years ago, but it had been a while since his last one. Imaging back then showed no tumors, and doctors concluded he was likely epileptic, he said. He took medicine initially, but after two years without another seizure, he said his doctors took him off the medicine to avoid liver damage.

Wasney had a second seizure on the ship a few hours later, back in his cabin. This time he stopped breathing, and Eberlein remembered his lips being so purple, they almost looked black. Again, she ran to find help but, in her haste, locked herself out. By the time the ship's medical team got into the cabin, Wasney was breathing again but had broken blood vessels along his chest and neck that he later said resembled tiger stripes.

Wasney was in the ship's medical center when he had a third seizure — a grand mal, which typically causes a loss of consciousness and violent muscle contractions. By then, the ship was close enough to port that Wasney could be evacuated by rescue boat. He was put on a stretcher to be lowered by ropes off the side of the ship, with Eberlein climbing down a rope ladder to join him.

But before they disembarked, the bill came.

The patient: Vincent Wasney, 31, who was uninsured at the time.

Medical services: General and enhanced observation, a blood test, anticonvulsant medicine, and a fee for services performed outside the medical facility.

Service provider: Independence of the Seas Medical Center, the on-ship medical facility on the cruise ship operated by Royal Caribbean International .

Total bill: $2,500.22.

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What gives: As part of Royal Caribbean's guest terms , cruise passengers "agree to pay in full" all expenses incurred on board by the end of the cruise, including those related to medical care. In addition, Royal Caribbean does not accept "land-based" health insurance plans.

Wasney said he was surprised to learn that, along with other charges like wireless internet, Royal Caribbean required he pay his medical bills before exiting the ship — even though he was being evacuated urgently.

"Are we being held hostage at this point?" Eberlein remembered asking. "Because, obviously, if he's had three seizures in 10 hours, it's an issue."

Wasney said he has little memory of being on the ship after his first seizure — seizures often leave victims groggy and disoriented for a few hours afterward.

But he certainly remembers being shown a bill, the bulk of which was the $2,500.22 in medical charges, while waiting for the rescue boat.

Still groggy, Wasney recalled saying he couldn't afford that and a cruise employee responding: "How much can you pay?"

They drained their bank accounts, including money saved for their next house payment, and maxed out Wasney's credit card but were still about $1,000 short, he said.

Ultimately, they were allowed to leave the ship. He later learned his card was overdrafted to cover the shortfall, he said.

Royal Caribbean International did not respond to multiple inquiries from KFF Health News.

Once on land, in Florida, Wasney was taken by ambulance to the emergency room at Broward Health Medical Center in Fort Lauderdale, where he incurred thousands of dollars more in medical expenses.

He still isn't entirely sure what caused the seizures.

On the ship he was told it could have been extreme dehydration — and he said he does remember being extra thirsty on CocoCay. He also has mused whether trying escargot for the first time the night before could have played a role. Eberlein's mother is convinced the episode was connected to swimming with pigs, he said. And not to be discounted, Eberlein accidentally broke a pocket mirror three days before their trip.

Wasney, who works in a stone shop, was uninsured when they set sail. He said that one month before they embarked on their voyage, he finally felt he could afford the health plan offered through his employer and signed up, but the plan didn't start until January 2023, after their return.

They also lacked travel insurance. As inexperienced travelers, Wasney said, they thought it was for lost luggage and canceled trips, not unexpected medical expenses. And because the cruise was a gift, they were never prompted to buy coverage, which often happens when tickets are purchased.

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The resolution: Wasney said the couple returned to Saginaw with essentially no money in their bank account, several thousand dollars of medical debt, and no idea how they would cover their mortgage payment. Because he was uninsured at the time of the cruise, Wasney did not try to collect reimbursement for the cruise bill from his new health plan when his coverage began weeks later.

The couple set up payment plans to cover the medical bills for Wasney's care after leaving the ship: one each with two doctors he saw at Broward Health, who billed separately from the hospital, and one with the ambulance company. He also made payments on a bill with Broward Health itself. Those plans do not charge interest.

But Broward Health said Wasney missed two payments to the hospital, and that bill was ultimately sent to collections.

In a statement, Broward Health spokesperson Nina Levine said Wasney's bill was reduced by 73% because he was uninsured.

"We do everything in our power to provide the best care with the least financial impact, but also cannot stress enough the importance of taking advantage of private and Affordable Care Act health insurance plans, as well as travel insurance, to lower risks associated with unplanned medical issues," she said.

The couple was able to make their house payment with $2,690 they raised through a GoFundMe campaign that Wasney set up. Wasney said a lot of that help came from family as well as friends he met playing disc golf, a sport he picked up during the pandemic.

"A bunch of people came through for us," Wasney said, still moved to tears by the generosity. "But there's still the hospital bill."

The takeaway: Billing practices differ by cruise line, but Joe Scott , chair of the cruise ship medicine section of the American College of Emergency Physicians, said medical charges are typically added to a cruise passenger's onboard account, which must be paid before leaving the ship. Individuals can then submit receipts to their insurers for possible reimbursement.

He recommended that those planning to take a cruise purchase travel insurance that specifically covers their trips. "This will facilitate reimbursement if they do incur charges and potentially cover a costly medical evacuation if needed," Scott said.

Royal Caribbean suggests that passengers who receive onboard care submit their paid bills to their health insurer for possible reimbursement. Many health plans do not cover medical services received on cruise ships, however. Medicare will sometimes cover medically necessary health care services on cruise ships, but not if the ship is more than six hours away from a U.S. port.

Travel insurance can be designed to address lots of out-of-town mishaps, like lost baggage or even transportation and lodging for a loved one to visit if a traveler is hospitalized.

Travel medical insurance, as well as plans that offer "emergency evacuation and repatriation," are two types that can specifically assist with medical emergencies. Such plans can be purchased individually. Credit cards may offer travel medical insurance among their benefits, as well.

But travel insurance plans come with limitations. For instance, they may not cover care associated with preexisting conditions or what the plans consider "risky" activities, such as rock climbing. Some plans also require that travelers file first with their primary health insurance before seeking reimbursement from travel insurance.

As with other insurance, be sure to read the fine print and understand how reimbursement works.

Wasney said that's what they plan to do before their next Royal Caribbean cruise. They'd like to go back to the Bahamas on basically the same trip, he said — there's a lot about CocoCay they didn't get to explore.

Emmarie Huetteman of KFF Health News edited the digital story, and Taunya English of KFF Health News edited the audio story. NPR's Will Stone edited the audio and digital story.

KFF Health News , formerly known as Kaiser Health News (KHN), is a national newsroom that produces in-depth journalism about health issues and is one of the core operating programs at KFF — the independent source for health policy research, polling, and journalism.

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Actress Elizabeth MacRae, best known for her roles in “General Hospital” and “Gomer Pyle, U.S.M.C.,” has died. She was 88.

MacRae died peacefully Monday at Highland House Rehabilitation and Healthcare in Fayetteville, North Carolina, according to local news outlet City View .

“She had a wonderful life,” said her nephew Jim MacRae. “She was bright and articulate. She was still getting fan mail at Highland House.”

Elizabeth MacRae in the TV show "Rendezvous"

Mayon Weeks, who inducted MacRae into the Fayetteville Performing Arts Hall of Fame, gushed over the late star’s talent.

“Elizabeth had the ‘X factor’ that is an important part of being a performer,” he told City View. “She did ‘light up the room’ when she was present, and that theatrical presence was in full bloom when she starred in the play, ‘Picnic,’ at Cape Fear Regional Theatre. A warm and delightful person to be with, and an engaging performer in film and on stage. A treasured daughter of our Fayetteville community.”

Elizabeth MacRae in the TV show "Judd for the Defense" in 1969

MacRae was born in Columbia, South Carolina, and grew up in Fayetteville. After graduating from Holton-Arms School in Washington, DC, she auditioned for Otto Preminger’s production of “Saint Joan” in Atlanta, Georgia, but she didn’t get the part.

Jim Nabors and Elizabeth MacRae in "Gomer Pyle, USMC"

Still, MacRae wanted to pursue acting, so she moved to New York City and landed her first TV role playing a courtroom witness in CBS’s “The Verdict Is Yours” in 1958. She appeared in more shows including “Naked City,” “Harrigan and Son,” “Maverick,” “Surfside 6,” “The Untouchables,” and “I Dream of Jeannie.”

MacRae’s biggest acting job was in CBS’s “The Andy Griffith Show” spinoff “Gomer Pyle, U.S.M.C.” She played Lou-Ann Poovie, the girlfriend of Jim Nabors’ titular character. MacRae appeared on the show for three years until it ended in 1969.

Elizabeth MacRae, Jim Nabors, and Carol Burnett in "Gomer Pyle, USMC"

There were several soap operas that MacRae starred in as well, including “General Hospital,” where she played Meg Baldwin from 1969 to 1973. The actress was also in “Days of Our Lives,” “Guiding Light,” “Search for Tomorrow” and “Another World.”

MacRae’s movie résumé includes “Love in a Goldfish Bowl,” “Everything’s Ducky,” “For Love or Money,” “The Conversation,” and “Eddie and the Cruisers II: Eddie Lives!”

Elizabeth MacRae in "General Hospital" in 1970

After 30 years in Hollywood, MacRae quit acting and moved back to North Carolina with her husband, Charles Day Halsey Jr. They eventually retired in Fayetteville.

Halsey Jr. passed away at age 96 in March 2024. The couple were married for 55 years.

“When Charles died, she went down quick,” MacRae’s nephew told City View. “It’s sad, but she has crossed the river. She had a wonderful life. The last few years were rough, but she is with my dad, who she adored, her father and mother, sister and husband. She lived a good life.”

MacRae is survived by her five stepchildren, eight nieces and nephews, and several great-nieces and nephews, according to her obituary .

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Three players quit Argentina's women's soccer team in a dispute over not being paid, camp conditions

Lorena Benitez on the soccer field in Auckland, New Zealand.

BUENOS AIRES, Argentina — Three players quit Argentina’s women’s squad on Monday in a dispute over not being paid and conditions at a camp ahead of two friendlies.

Goalkeeper Laurina Oliveiros, defender Julieta Cruz and midfielder Lorena Benítez, all regular starters, walked out.

“We reached a point in which we are tired of the injustices, of not being valued, not being heard and, even worse, being humiliated,” Cruz posted on Instagram . “We need improvements for Argentina’s women’s soccer national team, and I am not only talking about finances. I speak about training, having lunch, breakfast.”

Cruz and Benítez said during national squad training sessions they received a ham and cheese sandwich and a banana, which they consider inadequate for high-performance athletes.

They said the Argentine Football Association told them they won’t be paid for the friendlies against Costa Rica on Friday and Monday because the games are at home in Buenos Aires.

Benitez added their family members were being charged 5,000 pesos ($5) for match tickets.

“And there there are millions of things we have gone through,” the midfielder added.

Oliveros wrote on Instagram , “With a broken heart and thousands of dreams disappearing little by little. May the next generations enjoy and be happy running after the football, as we were sometime ago.”

AFA did not comment on the players’ decision.

Estefanía Banini, considered the country’s best female player ever, supported her three former teammates. Last year, she also decided to stop playing for the national team.

“A matter of time. Thanks for being willing to speak about it,” the Atletico Madrid midfielder said on her social media channels.

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The best thing to say at a condolence visit is what is in your heart…and then switch and put on your listening ears. Express your sadness and share memories, but also be prepared to support your friend or relative however they need. For most people, this means offering your understanding without intruding in the conversation.
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Offering Condolences. Whether you express sympathy via a visit, call, or card, your choice of words is important. It is appropriate and kind to let the family know how much you will miss the deceased, how dear she was, how they made the world a better place, or what an inspiration he was. Use your own words to convey messages like these:
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For a visitation at the funeral home, you should stop by, introduce yourself to the family (if needed), and express your condolences, and then leave after a short period of time. The viewing can be scheduled for several hours on one or more days before the funeral. Our guide to funeral visitations etiquette will prepare you.
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Respectful Condolences & Eulogies
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Five leading officials from the ruling Workers' Party of Korea (WPK) and the defense and foreign ministries paid a condolence visit to the embassy at dawn Tuesday, according to the Korean Central ...
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Even when we can't see them, the stars still shine. Deepest sympathy. I'm so sad for your loss. Thinking of you. Sharing in your sorrow and here for you in the days ahead. Thinking of you and ...
Sen. Eteng Jones Paid condolence visit to Mother of former First Lady
The Senator Representing Cross River Central Senatorial District, Senator Eteng Jonah Williams, on Monday, paid a condolence visit to the Mother of former First Lady of Cross River State, Mrs Mary Akpo, in Abuja, over the loss of her husband, Chief. Francis Ingwubel Akpo. He passed at the age of 83 on Friday 29th March, 2024.
Condolence Visit Summary
The third visit is paid by her cousin Moti and her two grandsons. After a superficial expression of sympathy, Moti starts telling an inopportune funny story she had read in the paper.
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He is said to have paid a condolence visit to former Nationalist Congress Party (NCP) legislator and minister Jayant Patil at Sangli, and later addressed a public gathering at Bhor taluka. Samanantar. During a visit to a local mausoleum, he prayed for the victims of the bus blaze and expressed condolences to the families:
Sanwo-Olu, Lagos cabinet members pay condolence visit to Speaker Obasa
Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu of Lagos State, on Friday, paid condolence visit to the Speaker of the state's House of Assembly, Rt. Hon. Mudashiru Obasa, over the death of his beloved father, Alhaji Sulaiman Obasa. l-r: Chief of Staff to the Governor, Mr. Tayo Ayinde; Secretary to the State Government, Barr. Bimbola Salu-Hundeyin; Governor of ...
Grisham: Melania Trump 'thinking of her own optics' by staying away
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Joe Biden makes surprise nighttime visit to Hunter's ex Hallie Biden
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Cruise ship medical emergency left Michigan man with an ...
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'You are gangsters': Robert De Niro clashes with pro-Trump protesters
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Melinda French Gates says she's donating $1B to women's rights
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'General Hospital' star Elizabeth MacRae dead at 88
Actress Elizabeth MacRae, best known for her roles in "General Hospital" and "Gomer Pyle, U.S.M.C.," has died. She was 88. MacRae died peacefully Monday at Highland House Rehabilitation ...
Three players quit Argentina's women's soccer team in dispute over pay
By The Associated Press. BUENOS AIRES, Argentina — Three players quit Argentina's women's squad on Monday in a dispute over not being paid and conditions at a camp ahead of two friendlies ...